Sexless Marriages

[Stanup]

I am totally in a sexless marriage and have been pretty much for a few years! We’re out there but we are a bit like unicorns

I am a woman in her 50’s with the sex drive of an 18 yr old boy, that’s not normal I’ve been told by female friends the same age and male friends. I should be settling down for my old age with my hormones dying a slow death, but hell no!

Been sexless for about 4 years. Love my wife but it sucks

 

[MongoSex]

Sorry to hear that, same in our household but it's her that just doesn't care

Ditto.

 

[El_Dempo]

It's a horrid situation to be in. Given up any hope of the wife ever showing an interest.. hard to feel disappointed when there was no expectation, right?

 

[DaddyVader]

Hi,
How do you define sexless marriage?

Does once a month is sexless or not? In my case I get lucky once or twice a month…

I regularly listen to "sex with emily" podcast and I remember some of the experts she had on a while ago said 2 times or less is a sexless marriage.

My wife is going thru some hormone changes and her sex drive vanished. My ex wife stopped caring about sex after the wedding.


It's so demoralizing.

 

[Canadianbeef1971]

I am totally in a sexless marriage and have been pretty much for a few years! We’re out there but we are a bit like unicorns

I am a woman in her 50’s with the sex drive of an 18 yr old boy, that’s not normal I’ve been told by female friends the same age and male friends. I should be settling down for my old age with my hormones dying a slow death, but hell no!

My wife is your exact opposite . It's been tough. I am 53 and still have a things on my " in want to try that" list, but my life partner isnt interested. I still love her to death but fuck.. what is a guy to do? What do you do?

 

[Mickyb9669]

Anyone else with this problem?
I have a high sex drive and the wife doesn't.
Looking for others with this problem, and possibly helping fill our needs.

She's zero

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

My wife is going thru some hormone changes and her sex drive vanished. My ex wife stopped caring about sex after the wedding.

Same, but she had a good excuse.

I am not taking it personally, I just need to start fresh with the right person.

 

[Pixelpan]

Also in a sexless marriage - no sex, virtually no physical contact. When I talked to her about it, my wife said she just doesn’t really have an interest or desire for it.

 

[Mtnmike]

Also in a sexless marriage - no sex, virtually no physical contact. When I talked to her about it, my wife said she just doesn’t really have an interest or desire for it.

As mine said 16 year's ago, if they have one or the other it becomes hopeless in thinking it will change, just been my observation.

 

[Purple_Fronds]

Also in a sexless marriage - no sex, virtually no physical contact. When I talked to her about it, my wife said she just doesn’t really have an interest or desire for it.

Sorry to hear that, its unfortunately very common, have you been married for a while? Is she ok with you connecting elsewhere?

 

[LeeKee]

Sexless marriage since around 1998. I think that means I got the boobie prize (because I have a sub with full access to her boobies.

First, my wife started to refuse anal. I could live with that. Then she refused BJ. I didn't like it but ok... Then she came to bed sweaty, smelly and gritty, got on all 4s and said that if I wanted to I could fuck her. I was NOT ok with that. She was also hording and piling stuff around the bed, so I moved to a spare bedroom. She said she would not have sex with someone that was not sleeping with her. I said I was OK with that.

Then the marriage trap started. I said I wanted a friendly divorce and she said she would fight divorce with every penny we had. Then my father died. I was emotionally not ready for a bloody fight. A few years later I wanted to be involved with our kid so I figured I would stay until our kid was older and understand things better. I went to see a lawyer to get divorce information and my mother in law, whom I really liked, got very sick. So I waited while trying to give support. The pattern took hold. Every few years I would start exploring divorce and someone in the family (that I like) would get deathly sick or outright die. It's gotten that I am superstitious about talking to lawyers or researching divorce. LOL, the last person was my wife, 2.5 years ago. She spent 8 days in the hospital, but she is doing great now.

A few years after the turn of the century I found a sub. I started the affair with her just to get my rocks off but her personality was great and we are still seeing each other after 22 years, though only about once a week since she became a grandma. Having a supportive sub/sex-toy/pet that I see whenever we can get away really helps.

At this point I am too superstitious about the illness/death pattern and I don't want to lose all my retirement savings to lawyers in what is certain to be a nasty divorce. I kind of settled into the rut of living with my wife despite the emotional and physical alienation. However, I do get physical and emotional support from my sub.

Im in a similar situation, right behind you in the timeline. Form of torture and should be illegal to have such power to inflict emotional and financial anxiety for years to someone.

 

[LeeKee]

It's a horrid situation to be in. Given up any hope of the wife ever showing an interest.. hard to feel disappointed when there was no expectation, right?

Same here. I give the hell up. Cant stand being in the same room anymore while she acts like shes so happy and giddy from work. Nope. Nothing to connect dots on there. Resentment is setting in.

 

[13Fantasies]

-Adds another day to the sexless calendar-

 

[beachlights44]

-Adds another day to the sexless calendar-

I stopped counting the days.

 

[13Fantasies]

I stopped counting the days.

I count the days because im curious to see which streak is longer: This one or the one from the time I was born to first sex

 

[beachlights44]

I count the days because im curious to see which streak is longer: This one or the one from the time I was born to first sex

Interesting comparison, for both our well being hopefully it is from the time we were born.