Sexless Marriages

[TerryBrown6367]

I have been in a sexless marriage for a year now. It is incredibly depressing.

Where do you live Sally? Would love to help out.

 

[TerryBrown6367]

Im there too. My husband has no interest in sex, and its all I think about! I'm in the process of leaving (not our only issue), but its been a few years now where I only touch myself!

Where do you live? Maybe we can help each other out...

 

[HonkOnBobo]

about 7 or 8 months now... wife seems to have lost her desire...

 

[IASFPWTF]

Yep, 43 BBW, married and sexless. Seems to be the going trend now days. Such a drag .

Would love to chat sometime and compare notes

 

[Markstan1975]

My husband hasn't touched me in over 4 years. He has made it clear he's not attracted to me and I am free to look elsewhere but honestly, that's almost more hurtful than just being ignored.

And because I know the questions are coming, yes that's me in my avatar but it is also from 8-10 years ago, just after our first child. After breast feeding 2 kids, nothing is as tight or perky as it once was.

In simple terms your stunning and he’s a fool

 

[Volk359]

Difficult to remain hopeful after a long time. I think now I’m just resigned to my fate. My sex life is essentially over and has been for some time. Anything else is a delusion.

I hear you. I’ve bought a couple toys that I have hidden and use if/when I can get some alone time. Rare, but it happens. I’ve also resorted to professional help a couple times. Expensive, but I can hide it, and it’s safer and almost zero chance of being caught.

Still, I miss what we used to have.

 

[Volk359]

22 years married and sex is rare and boring I want some excitement to have someone treat me like a slut

Wish I could help you out with that.

 

[wifewatcher1997]

Im there too. My husband has no interest in sex, and its all I think about! I'm in the process of leaving (not our only issue), but its been a few years now where I only touch myself!

I am sorry that he is that way and I understand the need to touch yourself. Good luck in your journey

 

[wifewatcher1997]

The wife has basically lost all interest and only performs/has it to keep me in bed with her. I miss the passion, lust, love, and intensity of our previous sex/love-making life.

I am happy to have her fully healthy again and hope that her sex drive and passion for sex returns.

 

[AnnieLit]

You shouldn’t have a problem finding a side cock

She is not looking for a side cock, she wants to be made to feel like a slut. Big difference. Finding just a cock is easy, but finding a cock attached to a dominant man is a completely differnt story. Good luck with that.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

Where do you live? Maybe we can help each other out...

Have you got a motorbike or a Lear jet?

You might need one to make sure you keep all these ladies happy!



Although maybe you don't get if you don't ask?!

 

[KeenVoyeur]

I’m 55 with a much higher sex drive than him. We have only been married a few years and while we were dating it was great...but now...nothing.

My husband hasn't touched me in over 4 years. He has made it clear he's not attracted to me and I am free to look elsewhere but honestly, that's almost more hurtful than just being ignored.

And because I know the questions are coming, yes that's me in my avatar but it is also from 8-10 years ago, just after our first child. After breast feeding 2 kids, nothing is as tight or perky as it once was.

Im there too. My husband has no interest in sex, and its all I think about! I'm in the process of leaving (not our only issue), but its been a few years now where I only touch myself!

Yep, 43 BBW, married and sexless. Seems to be the going trend now days. Such a drag .

22 years married and sex is rare and boring I want some excitement to have someone treat me like a slut

I'm sorry to read of you ladies being in a similar position to the many guys on this thread - and I've also read some of the replies you've had!

There should be a club for us to join where we get to meet up for whatever we want to do with whoever we want to do it without the need for remorse or guilt or the expense of a divorce (I see that many of us are in an otherwise loving - or at least "OK" - relationship and it's only the physical side of things that has gone)

I've said before that my own sexless marriage is my own fault but when I'm told I won't be having sex with my wife ever again, it's difficult to accept and will possibly (no, make that "probably") make me cheat on her again if the chance arises.

Anyway, I hope that you find someone or something to make your lives more fulfilled and if that means you have to leave your current situation behind and forge a new life for yourself, I hope you find the courage to do it before it really is too late.

 

[10169kek]

I'm sorry to read of you ladies being in a similar position to the many guys on this thread - and I've also read some of the replies you've had!

There should be a club for us to join where we get to meet up for whatever we want to do with whoever we want to do it without the need for remorse or guilt or the expense of a divorce (I see that many of us are in an otherwise loving - or at least "OK" - relationship and it's only the physical side of things that has gone)

I've said before that my own sexless marriage is my own fault but when I'm told I won't be having sex with my wife ever again, it's difficult to accept and will possibly (no, make that "probably") make me cheat on her again if the chance arises.

Anyway, I hope that you find someone or something to make your lives more fulfilled and if that means you have to leave your current situation behind and forge a new life for yourself, I hope you find the courage to do it before it really is too late.

Count me in!! Been touchless for 9 years ...

 

[IASFPWTF]

Count me in!! Been touches for 9 years ...

Club thing sounds like a great idea

 

[grabyourankles]

From what I can tell after being here awhile and chatting to others, we make up the majority in here!! It always amazes me how so many of us in our 40’s & 50’s eventually find ourselves in this situation

You’re in the right place!

And some of us in our 20s

 

[Bewleybrother]

The thing you’re referring to in relation to women in their 40s and 50s is termed the Sex Surge - you should google it. I was on another chat site frequented by women and there were a considerable number of women commenting about it. My own marriage has been sexless over 7 years and now I find it extremely difficult. I wouldn’t say my behaviour has been entirely exemplary for the last year but I’m finding it hard to feel bad about it.

Trying feeling BAD about it,you might enjoy it!,lol.

 

[Stilllearning2b]

*raises hand from back of room*

Just another one like so many.

 

[Loveitdady]

Mhttps://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5e70c672a77

Just me

 

[bookworm69]

Sex life is ok, Eh, not like it was at first. I guess that is the investment in a marriage. Thank God my brain is much better than a " Stable Genius". My brain is alive with sensual, sexual dreams an fantasies. Squeezing the rubber balls I have at work I squeeze while am at work provides my hands, fingers strength. No corporal tunnel on my wrists an hands. We are humans and I believe that both can be at fault for Sexless Marriages.

"sensual dreams and fantasies" ... sigh ... yep, that keeps me going, too. until someone makes a mind-reading device, I'm going to still have 'em.

 

[Hodes101]

"sensual dreams and fantasies" ... sigh ... yep, that keeps me going, too. until someone makes a mind-reading device, I'm going to still have 'em.

Problem is sensual thoughts and dreams just get me depressed as I can't act upon them. Make me miss what I'm not experiencing.

 

[GhostFeather18]

Never thought this would be my situation, but I guess I need to admit I'm in a sexless marriage. How does a 29 year old decently attractive woman end up here?

 

[KeenVoyeur]

Never thought this would be my situation, but I guess I need to admit I'm in a sexless marriage. How does a 29 year old decently attractive woman end up here?

I think your bio has some pointers ... you may need to address those with your husband first.

Does he know about your sexuality? Would he be willing to share you with another woman? Would you be willing to make compromises if needed so he can hold you close and make love to you on a regular basis?

Many of us on this thread have made the same mistake in not talking about things with our partners. At 29, you have the time to make changes to your lifestyle and avoid falling into the "sexless marriage" trap ... so talk to him and be prepared to make changes so you can have a happy and fulfilling sex life together.

Good luck!

 

[racemeharder]

Married for 16 years and the last 7 years have been basically sexless. 3 times a year if I’m lucky and when it does happen it’s “get off and then get off of me” sex. I desperately miss connective, passionate, long sex sessions. Foreplay. Playing. Teasing. Touching. We have sexy board games, sex dice, karma sutra books, all kinds of toys and I can’t remember the last time we dusted off any of them. 43 is much too young to be sentenced to a life of infrequent and boring sex.

 

[guns4444]

Never thought this would be my situation, but I guess I need to admit I'm in a sexless marriage. How does a 29 year old decently attractive woman end up here?

I would have to say it's very strange for a woman like you to end up here with us. Maybe he has a libido problem or low testosterone? I don't know. I'm 33 and want it everyday lol.

 

[IASFPWTF]

I'm amazed what good friends I've become with my right hand, visits from the left don't seem to lead to fits of jealousy thankfully.

I switch hands and gain a stroke