sex in marriage

[Shylady]

first let me say hello to all of you. I am new here but i really enjoy reading your answers. Lasher you make me smile i just hope you are kind to me if you answer this. I have been married for 20 years and we have a very active and rewarding sex life, but i have noticed in chat rooms and other places that people always talk about marriage as the end of sex. What i want to know am i the strange one or are people just feeding me a line to get sympathy?

 

[Cg1369]

Welcome shylady. I'm fairly new to the BB also, but had been lurking long before I registered.
Marriage, the end of sex???????? Gawd no. It's just the beginning. As you learn each others bodies, you learn how to please each other. I lost my wife the day before our 36th anniv. Was never unfaithful to her, nor she to me. During those 36 yrs, we learned what each other liked and enjoyed. We learned to share. The sex wasn't always great (for either of us), but the love, caring and understanding made up for the shortfalls. What more can I say???? Marriage is NOT the end of sex, it just takes sex to a new plateau.

Bud

 

[Cg1369]

dern that 500

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[Cg1369]

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Double dern that 500

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[Skitten]

Dear shylady; No sex is not dead when you get married it is just the opposite I think our sex life gets better each and every year. We get more creative and find new things to turn us on and just have fun with one another because he is the one I trust and I know if I don't want to do something there won't be any pressure. So I think people are wrong who say that when you get married sex is dead I think it just the opposite. So enjoy your lucky

 

[BlueEyes]

Is there sex after marriage??? If the smoke that rises from my bed is any indication then the answer is YES! YES! YES! *grin*

Marriage is a complete union of two people... and for my husband and I it has been almost 14 years of growing to be better and better lovers to one another! At any given point in our marriage I have thought "Wow! Have we got a great sex life!" and then, when I thought it couldn't get any better, suddenly- it is!

When two people are committed to each other they stop focusing on themselves, and turn their focus to their partner... when you learn every little thing that turns your partner on (and oh the fun of learning THAT!) it makes your partner reciprocate and before you know you are each pleasing the other in the greatest of ways!!!

Granted, probably not all marriages enjoy the fantastic sex life that my hubby and I share, but when you fill the bedroom with fun and fresh, erotic ideas it becomes a playground!!!

MMmmmmmm....


BlueEyes (aka BabyBlues)

 

[Bonnie Wee Lassie]

Well I am not married yet but I have been with the same man for 5 years and everyday is a new adventure and I am loving it. Some times it has been bad but we learn from our bad times. Hopefully we will be married soon

Marriage is like a fine wine it gets better with age!

 

[Lajo]

I am envious of all who have written about wonderful sex lives during your long marriages. Unfortunately, mine is not. I love my wife and we have a good, strong relationship outside of the bedroom. But, she would rather sleep than have sex (and it does not matter whether it is 2 in the afternoon or 9 at night). Last time for us was Feb 6th. Oh well..***** goes on.

 

[Shylady]

well i am glad to know that fun is alive and well in other marriages too!
it is so nice to hear from others and lajo maybe she will wake up and realize what she is missing.

 

[Guest]

Originally posted by shylady:
first let me say hello to all of you. I am new here but i really enjoy reading your answers. Lasher you make me smile i just hope you are kind to me if you answer this. I have been married for 20 years and we have a very active and rewarding sex life.

Shylady I think I'm married to you! Hi Honey!

If you aren't my wife you certainly sound like her.(that's a good thing) After 20 years she has actually turned the tables on me and become the more sexually aggressive, or maybe I've just slowed down.(hmmm?)

So the answer is: Yes you are abnormal for having a good sex life with your spouse after 20 years. So you must stop it! Sex is meant for young, single people. Let him lay on the couch without molesting him. ;-)

 

[Shylady]

hmmmm and all this time i thought you liked being molested by me on the couch, I guess now i will wait til you are in the recliner