Serious questions for the guys...

[Mia62]

What do you truly want from a woman?? Do you look for different things - ie, one type for love and marriage and a different type for a friend? Is it possible for you to meet a woman and not fantasize about sex with her?






Standard Disclaimer ~ No, this is not based on anything that anyone from Lit has said to me or from watching anyone here. It is based upon a conversation that I had with my ex this evening.

 

[Cerberus666]

i want an intelligent woman. someone who can tell me i'm wrong and then tell me WHY i'm wrong. "You just are" isnt good enough. I want a woman i can joke around with. she doesnt get pissed when i make fun of her, she comes back with something so blazingly witty i wanna cry and laugh at the same time. I want a woman who is independent. I dont wanna have to do every thing for her. I will anyway, but its nice to know that she could of done it herself. I want a woman who isnt completely turned off by sports(wishful thinking) but i guy can dream. I want a woman who likes punk rock as much as i do. I want a woman who likes to read and explore different areas of literature.
is that so much to ask?

 

[Mia62]

is that so much to ask?

These all sound like qualities that you want in a life partner...would you want the same things from a woman who is going to be a friend?

 

[Cerberus666]

from a friend i expect honesty. i'd like most of those qualities in many of my friends. but honest and laid back are good qualities. someone i can just chill with and talk to. they dont have to eb independent or anything or into the same things that i am so much as they are fun to be around.

 

[Guru]

Guys don't want women as friends.

 

[grimreefer]

I look for one for each day of the week...

Seriously... The question is too general for any real meaning.

Personally, my wife and I started as "just friends" but I think we both knew where it would lead.

Is it possible to meet a woman and not fantasize about her? Yes... But that is a very rare occurence

 

[Mia62]

Guys don't want women as friends.

Why? btw...you scare me when you sound like him.

 

[Frimost]

Is it possible for you to meet a woman and not fantasize about sex with her?

HELL YEAH!
lol
What do you think us men are mindless sex robots willing to rut with anything?

 

[Lancecastor]

You and your estranged husband should be in counselling.

Either that or the two of you should be paying us for the daily advice.

 

[teddybear4play]

I don't come into any relationship with preconceived notions about what I want from a person. You can't play it that way. You can't walk into someone thinking "I want a person who does this, but not that, who thinks in a certain way, who won't do something, but will do something else . . ." because odds are, you're not going to meet that person.

It's impossible to have an ideal of perfection and then find someone who fits it — it's far more likely that you'll meet the person first, and then discover their perfection.

TB4p

 

[Guru]

Why? btw...you scare me when you sound like him.

We're all alike. Women can't tell us from one another. I hope I'm never in a line-up with a woman as a witness!

 

[Mia62]

You and your estranged husband should be in counselling.

Either that or the two of you should be paying us for the daily advice.

The check is in the mail. ;-)

 

[curious2c]

I look for intelligence and strength of purpose. A nice body doesn't hurt.

I also notice beautiful women. I cannot help myself. It's my sex drive. Causes my brain to engage without thought. (I imagine that if my thoughts were known and the lady I was having those thoughts about came on to me I would be a puddle of mush on the floor. ) ((not very studly I know))

 

[Mia62]

Is it possible to meet a woman and not fantasize about her? Yes... But that is a very rare occurence

WHY is this, though?

So, if I am in a bar and meet a single guy...he won't be looking for anything more serious than if he can get laid?

 

[Lancecastor]

There are women friends.

And there are women I want to put my penis inside.

Your estranged husband maintains every man you talk to wants to fuck you because...he still wants to fuck you.

You are arguing with him about it because...you still want to fuck him.

Get a fucking counsellor.

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People..............Am I Right?!

 

[Mia62]

People..............Am I Right?!

Uhh...no. That wasn't actually the crux of the discussion.

He still wants to do what to me???

 

[Frimost]

Single men see women in three categories.
1. Platonic friend.
2. One night stand.
3. Possible long-term g/f.
If he thinks you might be a category #3 he will not try to bed you on the first date since the image he has of you will lose luster and there will no longer be trust of mystique in you. You would essentially place yourself in Cat. #2 by sleeping with him too soon. We want sex but for a LTR we want someone we can trust and men do not trust loose women, we can like them, but liking and trusting are two different things. It is possible for a category 1 to become a category #3, but it is rare.

 

[Freya]

There are women friends.

And there are women I want to put my penis inside.

Your estranged husband maintains every man you talk to wants to fuck you because...he still wants to fuck you.

You are arguing with him about it because...you still want to fuck him.

Get a fucking counsellor.

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People..............Am I Right?!

No, absolutely not! You are so wrong! You just never get anything right.


Yes - sorry Mia.

 

[grimreefer]

I think it's always in the male mind whether it be conscious or subconscious (probably a little to do with that Evolution Theory).

If he's 'into you' then you have nothing to worry about.

 

[Mia62]

No, absolutely not! You are so wrong! You just never get anything right.


Yes - sorry Mia.

Damn...this is NOT about me and him...Sheesh, People...GET IT RIGHT!!!

It was about a conversation...(key word here is conversation not argument)...that we had with each other.

*aargghh...you people drive me nuttso sometimes*

Ok, that was a lie...you people drive me nuttso ALL the time!

 

[Mischka]

Single men see women in three categories.
1. Platonic friend.
2. One night stand.
3. Possible long-term g/f.
If he thinks you might be a category #3 he will not try to bed you on the first date since the image he has of you will lose luster and there will no longer be trust of mystique in you. You would essentially place yourself in Cat. #2 by sleeping with him too soon. We want sex but for a LTR we want someone we can trust and men do not trust loose women, we can like them, but liking and trusting are two different things. It is possible for a category 1 to become a category #3, but it is rare.

Mr. Mischka and I slept together on our first date.

 

[Mia62]

Mr. Mischka and I slept together on our first date.

Slut. ;-)

 

[Lancecastor]

Uhh...no. That wasn't actually the crux of the discussion.

He still wants to do what to me???

All I know is that when the Evil Queen and I became estranged...we stayed estranged, thank you very much.

To this day, there has never been a discussion of each other's personal lives.

Well, okay....she did have moles ask about the ages of my *ahem* slightly younger grrlfriends a couple of times.

Talking to each other and communicating post separation is.....unnatural.

And really sick.

 

[Mischka]

Slut. ;-)

Yeah, he kinda was, wasn't he?

 

[Cerberus666]

Oh my god! you married the Evil Queen too!