Serious questions for the guys...

[grimreefer]

Okay... Yes there are some that will only be friends. That still doesn't negate my previous assertion that we don't think of them "primitively".

As I stated earlier, my wife and I started as friends but something clicked. What that was I cannot define but I didn't get the same feeling for my other female friends.

 

[sunstruck]

Mr. Mischka and I slept together on our first date.

Ditto with Mr. Struck.

 

[Mia62]

Talking to each other and communicating post separation is.....unnatural.

And really sick.

So I guess I should get that tape of you and me back from him, eh?

 

[crappie master]

Honesty--I hate to feel lied to or deceived.


Kindness--I like nice people.

Sense of Humor--gotta be able to laugh


A degree of Tolerance-- putting up with me probably isn't that easy(I have some faults)But she would need to know where to put her foot down

Intelligence--not so much looking for a genious or a Rhodes Scholar but someone who can carry on an intelligent conversation or inspire me to learn something that I might not have been interested in otherwise.

Independence--Yes but it is also nice to feel needed.

My house is out in the woods so a love of a quiet country life is good.

I'm not saying I would require a certain,size or body type or hair color ,but a physical attraction is important .

extra points for liver & onions and white gravy skills

 

[crappie master]

In just a friendly relationship honesty a sense of humor kindness and funness(is that a word?)

I don't have sexual fantasies about every woman I see.. Just around 35-40 % of them

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I'm looking for lesbian and married women to be my friends...something about an unavailable woman makes it easier for me to be friends with her. Must be the lack of sexual tension!

Actually, I value my female friends, I really love the difference in perspective.

 

[nitelite33]

Harry says it best:

Harry: Would you like to have dinner? ...Just friends.

Sally: I thought you didn't believe men and women could be friends.

Harry: When did I say that?

Sally: On the ride to New York.

Harry: No, no, no, I never said that. ...Yes, that's right, they can't be friends. Unless both of them are involved with other people, then they can. ...This is an amendment to the earlier rule. If the two people are in relationships, the pressure of possible involvement is lifted. ...That doesn't work either, because what happens then is, the person you're involved with can't understand why you need to be friends with the person you're just friends with. Like it means something is missing from the relationship and why do you have to go outside to get it? And when you say "No, no, no it's not true, nothing is missing from the relationship," the person you're involved with then accuses you of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with, which you probably are. I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's face it. Which brings us back to the earlier rule before the amendment, which is men and women can't be friends.

 

[Shingen]

I want a woman I share a lot of interests with. Either that, or we're open-mided to learning from what the other has to give. I just want someone to hang out with who is fun. It doesn't even have to be a romantic relationship. Strictly platonic. I had someone like that, but someone took her away from me...

 

[teddybear4play]

Single men see women in three categories.
1. Platonic friend.
2. One night stand.
3. Possible long-term g/f.
If he thinks you might be a category #3 he will not try to bed you on the first date since the image he has of you will lose luster and there will no longer be trust of mystique in you. You would essentially place yourself in Cat. #2 by sleeping with him too soon. We want sex but for a LTR we want someone we can trust and men do not trust loose women, we can like them, but liking and trusting are two different things. It is possible for a category 1 to become a category #3, but it is rare.

The only reason I wouldn't want any of the women I place in my Category #1 to be in my Category #3 is because I'm not attracted to them or just not compatible with them.

I see a good relationship as a good friendship with good sex. That's just the way I am, though.

TB4p

 

[MechaBlade]

From a female friend, I expect the same qualities as I do from a male friend. From a lover, I expect the same basic qualities as a friend, put together in a nice little package.

If I haven't sexually fantasized about a woman I've known for a while, either she's related or she's ugly.

 

[kiwiwolf]

Honesty and intelligence. The rest is all workable.

 

[Lost Cause]

Females are to keep us grounded..

The softer side of life, that's why guys in long relationships live longer than us dogs that run with the pack.
My ex-gf is a good example. She stops by and says hello, or cries on my shoulder when things are not going right. Sometimes we'll dance for no reason, or go at each other like a brother and sister. We haven't had sex in years, I don't have the desire anymore for her, and there's no sexual tension. Sometimes she'll come by and ask me to go watch the sunset down at the ferry dock, or go for a hike in the mountains.
I am comfortable with this kind of association, I am still a very sexual person, but am waiting for a hot redhead to open the valve.

 

[MechaBlade]

Honesty and intelligence. The rest is all workable.

Amen.