Second String, Bridesmaids, Back-ups, Picked Last...

[SilverVeil]

With all the list threads running around it is getting to the point where instead of smilies, it seems like certain names should just be made pointable and clickable to place in a post.


Ever feel like you are bench warming for the first string ?
Always a bridesmaid, never a bride ?
The understudy waiting for the star to become ill ?
The wind beneath someone elses wings ?
The last person picked for the team ?

Well, the star players could not stay on top of the game if they did not have us benchwarmers to practice with.
And the bride would be lonely without bridesmaids.
The show must go on, even if the star has fallen ill.
Without wind, birds would fly like rocks swim.
If the team roster is not full, the sides are uneven.

So we are all tiny stars in the sky, and together we all make one bright light right ?

 

[Bindii]

For me its always the bride never the bridesmaid!

I wanna be a bridesmaid!!!

 

[Rambrat]

those tiny stars make up the beauty of the night...they guide the way for others to follow and make wishes come true.


Growing up, I was always the last to be picked on the team.

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

After reading many of these list threads, I have reinforced my belief that "clicks" or concern about "popularity" is part of what is ruining our education system.

I was lucky, because at an early age, my wise uncle told me that throughout your life, you really only have 1 or 2 true friends. Everyone else is just "friendly." While you should still be concerned about everyone's feelings, you shouldn't base your life on whether or not you fit in with a group of people that won't be with you for your entire life. So while I have known a lot of people to be "friendly" with, I fit the norm of having 2 best friends. The key with kids is to get them to pick the best "true" friends as possible.

Three of my four kids have picked up on this, but my oldest daughter hasn't. It seems like she comes home every day and cries about some kid(s) who don't want to be her friend. If she feels like she isn't the most popular kid in class, she is heartbroken. We are working on trying to get her to realize that most of the kids in her class this year won't matter to her next year. But she hasn't seen the light yet.

So why are clicks and popularity so important? Don't you think that the education system would be much improved if society, the media, and to some extent, parents didn't put such an emphasis on these things?

BTW, to answer the thread question, I don't play second fiddle to anyone...and I don't play first fiddle to anyone. When I got married, my wife and I made a conscious effort to include the bridesmaids and groomsmen as much as possible....to avoid the "second fiddle" feelings.

 

[sexy-girl]

lists dont mean anything there is a large group of posters that dont make lists of other people ... siren for example and me ... silverveil i like you but im not going to put you in a lists because i dont make them

nobody here is better than anyone else

 

[Ask For More]

This is the 21st century and we are all equals in this big orgasmic globule...

Or maybe not...

 

[SilverVeil]

lists dont mean anything there is a large group of posters that dont make lists of other people ... siren for example and me ... silverveil i like you but im not going to put you in a lists because i dont make them

nobody here is better than anyone else

Now where exactly did I ask to be put on a list ?

I was commenting on how the same names pop up over and over and over.


I am #1 on my hunny's list.
I don't stand out in a crowd, I am not a team player. I am just me. And I am a very unique me at that.

I am so unique I am unlistable LOL

 

[Marxist]

nobody here is better than anyone else

You can't really believe that.

 

[Guest]

 

[Diablogrl]

I often feel very second string...but then again, without us second stringers...who would bump the good threads before they reached the next page?

 

[sexy-girl]

You can't really believe that.

i do ... i think its extremely hard to evaluate people for worth and to say someone is better is something i'd be very careful about saying

yes i know you wont agee with me i dont expect you to

and sorry silverveil i shouldnt of implied you were asking to be listed i didnt mean that

 

[Marxist]

i do ... i think its extremely hard to evaluate people for worth and to say someone is better is something i'd be very careful about saying

yes i know you wont agee with me i dont expect you to

and sorry silverveil i shouldnt of implied you were asking to be listed i didnt mean that

So I'm no better than KR1 or yayati in your book?

 

[sexy-girl]

So I'm no better than KR1 or yayati in your book?

yes that's the type of thing i mean ... and i would think about it before saying you were better

i mean how do i know ... yayati could throw himself in front of a bus to save a child where as if it was me i might freeze for a vital second ... who knows

but of course i respect you more and would rather be friends with you than him


i never said it made sense its just a hang up i have over people saying who's better

 

[Angel]

So I'm no better than KR1 or yayati in your book?

It's all about who's got the bigger penis, baby.

 

[sexy-girl]

It's all about who's got the bigger penis, baby.

angel has a more easily measured way of deciding who is the better person

 

[Angel]

 

[Rambling Rose]

Make that a double!



Angel, it's nice to see you back here again.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[RosevilleCAguy]

Second mouse gets the cheese

Slowest mouse gets eaten by Kitty.