Retarding my ejaculation

[Algol]

I'm having a little trouble making love with my girlfriend. During foreplay I can hold my ejaculation with no problem if she masturbates or sucks me, but when I penetrate her: BLAM!, I get off in ten seconds, even if we had no foreplay at all. I'm not sure why, in fact, I have no clue about it. Anyone can help me? Thx!

 

[Budokan]

Try using a condom (if you're not already) because it'll cut down on a lot of the sensation. (And I don't care what the latex people say, it does cut down on sensation.) Also, maybe you're getting yourself too worked up with the handjobs and headjobs beforehand. There's nothing wrong with foreplay, and it's important for her, too, but don't get yourself so excited you can't hold back once you spread her legs and penetrate her. Why not take a break in between blow job and actually riding her? A couple of minutes should do it, and in the meantime you can talk to each other, cuddle, or what not. Remember what John Cleese said in "The Meaning of Life": Don't go stampeding for the clit! This sounds like the problem, but in reverse, and so it's affecting your performane.

 

[Skibum]

I have been plagued with this ame problem, and I am here to tell you it sucks. But you can overcome it. Try what Masters and Johnson call the squeeze technique. As soon as you feel the urge to cum,pull out and have your girl friend squeeze firmly, just under the head of your errection with her thumb and forefinger. If she squeezes properly, you will lose the urge to cum, and can continue to fuck her. Do this several times each session, only allowing yourself to come after you have repeatedly stifled the urge. Over time you can train your body to resist the urge to cum without the squeeze.

 

[Wizard]

I once heard that the stuff they use on baby's when there teeth are coming in ...Rub some on the head of your dick and they say you can last longer...Never done it myself but told it works...I think it just may numb her up a tad bit too.

 

[Budokan]

Are you talking about Orajel, Wizard? That's what we use on our newborn's gums when he's getting a tooth. Once, I accidentally touched my mouth after rubbing some on his gums--boy, what a shut down of the nerve endings! I'd sure hate to smear that crap on the head of my dick...but if you think it'll work, okay!

 

[Havocman]

Actually Budokan, if you were to look at the active ingredient in Orajel you would see that it is the same as the active ingredient in most "stay hard" or "anal sex" creams... Benzocaine 10%

Havoc

 

[Nicole]

Actually Budokan, if you were to look at the active ingredient in Orajel you would see that it is the same as the active ingredient in most "stay hard" or "anal sex" creams... Benzocaine 10%

Havoc

Now Havoc how do you know that??? Enlighten us all LOL.

 

[Havocman]

Because it's written right there on the side Nicole ...

You don't think I'd put an over the counter remedy in my kid's mouth without reading the label, do you? No, I wouldn't.

And if I'm not going to do that, I'm certainly not going to put some kind of sexual cream on Lil' Havoc without checking out the label either...*wink*

Havoc, Consumer Advocate

 

[Weird Harold]

Are you talking about Orajel, ... boy, what a shut down of the nerve endings! I'd sure hate to smear that crap on the head of my dick...but if you think it'll work, okay!

Solarcaine (tm) sunburn spray or cream also contains Benzocaine although in a lower conectration. It is also not as greasy as Orajel (tm)

There are other products with varying percentages of Benzocaine, (or related compounds like Lidocaine,) which will give you varied degrees of desensitivity, as well as varied degrees of "persistence." Orajel will stay longer because it's in a greasy waterproof base. Solarcaine comes in a spray that is waterproof, but only slightly greasy, or a cream which is water soluble.

Like Havocman says, read the labels. An active ingredient ending in "caine" is generally an anesthetic and will deaden any nerve endings no matter what the label says about where it's meant to be used.

I've used Orajel to deaden sunburn pain, because it was available and solarcaine wasn't. The clerk thought I was crazy when I bought teething pain medicine after asking about sunburn medicine, but it stopped the sunburn pain and that's all I cared about at the time.

 

[Algol]

I've been told that cocaine is also useful. There's a (urban) legend about male pornstars using it on the tip of his instrumental. And it also ends with "caine"...

 

[Oliver Clozoff]

You're exactly right, Algol. Cocaine was the first known anesthetic. Unlike other local anesthetics, though, it has sympathomimetic (stimulant) properties which are responsible for the euphoria that makes it such a popular drug of abuse. But what might make cocaine a dangerous drug to use to desensitize your cock is that it's a vasoconstrictor (it decreases blood flow to the area). That's why cocaine abusers get nasal septum necrosis and erosion. You don't want that on your penis. Stick to other anesthetics.

 

[Algol]

But what might make cocaine a dangerous drug to use to desensitize your cock is that it's a vasoconstrictor (it decreases blood flow to the area). That's why cocaine abusers get nasal septum necrosis and erosion. You don't want that on your penis. Stick to other anesthetics.

OK, no problem. You convinced me...(where I left that dammned hammer?)

 

[Armand]

Algol...

Not an urban legend... fact, tho I'm definitely not sure it was cocaine... but there have been even one or two porn films (see Kris Kaminski flicks I believe) that have shown or indirectly depicted this as part of the realism of the "movie".... all I can say is fucking ouch!

Besides the condom and squeeze thing... (here I go promoting sex toys again)... there's a few sex shop products that might help... cockrings, which keep the flow of blood in the dick and also restrict to a degree the umm.. output. There's also desensitizing sprays designed specifically for penis use that do contain some form of caine in them as mentioned above. Most use benzocaine... though the better ones IMO are the ones containing Lidocaine (such as Stud 100). Best used on the tip to desensitize there which is typically the most sensitive part and not used on the shaft so you still enjoy it. Though be sure to use a bit ahead time so it has time to dry and not desensitize your partner and thus defeat the idea a bit.