Remote Control

[Lancecastor]

I've found over the years that I really giving enjoy remote control assignments with instructions to be carried out and reports to be filed afterwards.

The assignments can cover a range of kinks or be used to explore fresh earth...specific guided masturbation, public self touching or exposure, stroking a stranger's cock in a crowded elevator...the possibilities are almost limitless.

Do you? Don't you? Want to?

Curiously

Lance

 

[rosco rathbone]

Captain Morgan is a perverse motherfucker. I've been meaning to write to that company for years in search of t-shirts or hats bearing his visage.

I don't like the idea of remote control assignments at all. Unless you have some kind of documentation, fakery and shirking are likely to happen. ALso, the types of assignments I am likely to assign usually require a firm guiding hand on the neck.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I've found over the years that I really giving enjoy remote control assignments with instructions to be carried out and reports to be filed afterwards.

The assignments can cover a range of kinks or be used to explore fresh earth...specific guided masturbation, public self touching or exposure, stroking a stranger's cock in a crowded elevator...the possibilities are almost limitless.

Do you? Don't you? Want to?

Curiously

Lance

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Remote Control

An empty post, it was bound to happen.

I was gonna say I think that works with femsubs better than malesubs.

Malesubs are apt to get arrested for public nastiness.

Eb

 

[Lancecastor]

Captain Morgan is a perverse motherfucker. I've been meaning to write to that company for years in search of t-shirts or hats bearing his visage.

I don't like the idea of remote control assignments at all. Unless you have some kind of documentation, fakery and shirking are likely to happen. ALso, the types of assignments I am likely to assign usually require a firm guiding hand on the neck.

The good Captain and his pals Lamb, Bacardi and Newman (port) were very good to my family during Prohibition and I have some lovely land to show for it.

For the purposes of this discussion, we assume that a sub, properly trained, enjoys the assignments and performs them as instructed.

An email to a sub going about her day with instructions to go to the company washroom, remove her underwear, wind little elastics from her desk drawer around her nipples and return to her desk with legs slightly spread and not under any circumstances to reach down when nobody's looking to wet her fingers with her juices and spread them behind her ears and down her neck as cologne until emailed to do so...can be very powerful.

Lance

 

[P. B. Walker]

I agree 100%... these type of "assignments" are awesome in my book. I love to think them up and to write them out and see the look on their faces when they have to carry them out. The rosiness on their cheeks when it finally hits them... when they have to think about the consequences. One of my favorite things to do...

PBW

 

[Rubyfruit]

Nobody has ever given me an assignment. Sounds like fun though.

 

[lovetoread]

Tis something to think about.

Might even be exciting.

 

[P. B. Walker]

I'm sure ya'll could get one if you are good... <winks>

PBW

 

[Freya]

Possibly for those who are just curiously dipping a toe into this area, it might also serve as grounds for them to determine if this is for them. Are they willing to be led in such a way? Are they willing and able to give up control even in such a limited manner at first - say with their masturbatory routines, which are sometimes fairly structured to their own style? Can they step outside their own little bubble of what's considered safe or acceptable, to perform an assignment sent by another? Are they comfortable or even aroused by the concept of being guided from afar by another person, or does that idea raise hackles for them?

 

[SexyChele]

I've actually done some of my best creative writing while doing "remote control". While it can sound "enticing" and "exciting", the reality of it is that if I'm too busy at work to follow through on instructions, or have too many errands to run to be concerned about it, I simply type up a juicy email, describing in great detail what I've "done" and how it made me "feel". Since this is usually less work for me than actually doing the assignment, it is typically what I've done in the past.

Although, there is a special some one who I will follow his instructions to the letter, so to speak. But he asks rarely, never pushes limits or boundaries, and knows just what sorts of things I like.

To do this, I would think there must be something more than simply a willingness to obey. There must be a connection of some sort. Of course, I also think the Doms that ask this sort of thing (for the most part, but not all) almost expect the sub to simply make up something juicy for them to read.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Originally posted by Lancecastor

For the purposes of this discussion, we assume that a sub, properly trained, enjoys the assignments and performs them as instructed.

I can dig it. I just can't really make this kind of thing happen for myself because I mainly get off on force. As soon as someone is comfortable doing something, to the point where they can do it on their own, it ceases to be very interesting to me. I have all kinds of great ideas for assignments, but they are all things that noone would do unless they had someone breathing down their neck.

chauncey Ffowlkes MD

 

[Cirrus]

Nope, not my thing. I don't have any desire to grope strangers or myself in public, expose myself, or anything of that like. It's not part of my personality to do something like that, no matter what context it was in or who told me to do it.

It goes against my own personal morals and code of behavior. Definitely not into it.

 

[Lancecastor]

I simply type up a juicy email, describing in great detail what I've "done" and how it made me "feel".

I also think the Doms that ask this sort of thing (for the most part, but not all) almost expect the sub to simply make up something juicy for them to read.

These examples don't sound like D/s to me, but more like an ordinary, disfunctional relationship game.

I guess this is the sort of thing you were alluding to that steers you away from remote control in your first post, Roscoe.

Again, the idea of remote control is predicated, like so many other activities, on a mutual desire to actively participate.

Looks like it's you and me, PB...some things never change.

Ha!

Lance

 

[Mia62]

Again, the idea of remote control is predicated, like so many other activities, on a mutual desire to actively participate.

If one is able to provide easy to follow instructions - while listening to if the remotee feels comfortable enough to follow said instructions or changing them as need be - it is very easy to have a mutually satisfactory assignment.

As one who has willingly followed some of the remoter's instructions, I can honestly say that it was an amazing experience.

 

[zipman]

These examples don't sound like D/s to me, but more like an ordinary, disfunctional relationship game.

I guess this is the sort of thing you were alluding to that steers you away from remote control in your first post, Roscoe.

Again, the idea of remote control is predicated, like so many other activities, on a mutual desire to actively participate.

Looks like it's you and me, PB...some things never change.

Ha!

Lance

You can count me in on this one too! I have often done this and usually incorporate some way to check every now and again. If a sub just made it up, I would release her after one warning. If it's within the agreed upon limits we set, she damn well better do it, just as if I were there watching.

 

[Lancecastor]

Nope, not my thing. I don't have any desire to grope strangers or myself in public, expose myself, or anything of that like. It's not part of my personality to do something like that, no matter what context it was in or who told me to do it.

It goes against my own personal morals and code of behavior. Definitely not into it.

Presumably there are things you would do and enjoy doing while outside your D's immediate presence...they needn't be in public or involve third parties; those were examples.

Do I take it that the examples didn't work for you...or that for you all D/s must be face to face?

Lance

 

[Mia62]

If it's within the agreed upon limits we set, she damn well better do it, just as if I were there watching.

You don't sound as though the word compromise is in your vocabulary.

Speaking as a remotee rather than a remoter, that alone would make me feel like rebelling.

 

[Freya]

You can count me in on this one too! I have often done this and usually incorporate some way to check every now and again. If a sub just made it up, I would release her after one warning. If it's within the agreed upon limits we set, she damn well better do it, just as if I were there watching.

As long as it takes into account different personality types, I dont' see it as a big deal. For example, while I'd be more than willing to do semi-public masturbation (ie: in a car while driving), I'd be pretty much unwilling to do it in the middle of a room full of people. Of course, I do drive a standard so the car thing is iffy to a point, but the idea of doing what Lance described above in a workplace setting wouldn't disturb me - inventing a story and typing it out would seem to take much more time and effort than following the assignment as stated.

However, if asked to do something that goes against my grain, personality wise, I wouldn't do it, and if the issue was forced, I'd be more likely to lie.

 

[lark sparrow]

I do

I do, and find it particularly useful long distance to bridge the gap of time and space. Doing things like this for or "with" Her keeps a perverse little smile on both of our faces through out the day. And if it's something I don't think I can do or get to, I tell Her upfront. She can then change the plan slightly or insist that it be carried out depending on the situation. It keeps it real, and that to me, is much more exciting.

Does anyone insist on proof as part of the completed instruction? Digital camera pictures of completed tasks, receipts scanned and e-mailed to prove purchases, a physical inspection, etc. Would that be a turn on in the complete accountability? or a turn off as in trust not being extended?

 

[Lancecastor]

Re: I do

Does anyone insist on proof as part of the completed instruction? Digital camera pictures of completed tasks, receipts scanned and e-mailed to prove purchases, a physical inspection, etc. Would that be a turn on in the complete accountability? or a turn off as in trust not being extended?

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I think physical inspections and polaroids are fun, though I don't get much of a boner from copies of receipts myself.

(I see a Chartered Accounted fogging up his hornrims over receipts. To each his own!)

I'm fairly perceptive and can usually tell shit from shinola as the old saw sings...so, like Zip, I expect compliance, because without it, it's not D/s, it's straight kinky sex.

The real buzz for both comes from the power exchange + sex . The negative energy used in creative writing, lies, rebellion....well, we might as all just fake orgasms and send them as MP3 files, you know?

Lance

 

[P. B. Walker]

I chime in to agree with Zip and Lance. If you take the time to actually think up an assignment and write it down, and she just makes something up, that would be a disappointment to me. To me, that's like faking an orgasm... why bother? That would very quickly disintegrate the trust of the relationship. I'd rather she just hand the assignment back to me and say "No thank you".

Now, of course, I understand that everyone has limit (both hard and soft). I would never assign something that went beyond those limits (definitely not hard limits, and probably not a soft limit either because I'd prefer to be there in person if we are going to be pushing a soft limit).

I think some of you might have missed the point of these assignments. They are meant to be *enjoyable*. And at the same time, show that the submissive is thinking about their Dom/me when they are away, plus is willing to follow their direction when the Dom/me is not there and has no way of knowing if the submissive has followed the directions. It's kinda like the "honor" system. Sure you can cheat and lie, but will you feel better for it or worse?

As for what Cirrus said, I think you were getting hung up on the examples. If you didn't want to do stuff in public, then that wouldn't be part of the assignment. In fact, the assignment doesn't even have to involve sex. Another example of an assignment for say a very creative person that is nonsexual is to take a break that is no more than 10 minutes and write a quick poem about why you enjoy serving your master.

Anyhoo... looks like some people "get it" and some don't. No biggie

PBW

 

[Lancecastor]

Anyhoo... looks like some people "get it" and some don't. No biggie

PBW

Exactly. Not all things appeal to all people.

However, there are some who have said relatively little who have expressed interest in the practice, which is good to see.

Lance

 

[Rubyfruit]

I can't imagine lying about completing an assignment. If I cared that little about the person giving it to me, I'd stop the relationship. Why bother putting any energy into it at that point at all?

He would know I wasn't lying. I don't think I'd have to produce evidence, but like Lance, I like the idea of the photographic proof.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Exactly. Not all things appeal to all people.

However, there are some who have said relatively little who have expressed interest in the practice, which is good to see.

Lance

Yes it is good to see...

I also forgot to mention that it's not always easy to come up with assignments... especially if the Dom/me takes the time to personalize the assignment, ie.., make it unique to that person. In order to do that, you have to know quite a bit about the person.

Anyhoo...

PBW