rbone04
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I just so happened to realize that 6 years ago today, I became a member here.
This has me thinking about my life beforehand, and how my sexuality has evolved and been influenced by the Literotica community since joining.
I remember joining because I was just beginning to question my sexuality and didn't know how to feel about it. Though I'd thoroughly experimented with men when I was a little younger... I was in what I would consider my first real relationship with another man. We were both in the closet about it. The first few months were purely physical exploration but we were monogamous. That changed for me though, as I began to realize I was having some of the same emotions as I'd experienced in my previous relationships with women (e.g. jealousy, passion, etc.). I knew I wanted to be in an open, committed relationship with this guy but I was afraid. We unfortunately grew apart shortly thereafter when I moved away for school and I found myself without the courage to pursue another man for quite some time. Seeking guidance I stumbled across this site and it changed my whole perspective. Although I regularly enjoyed (and still do) the raunchy sex-talk and bullshit banter, I was able to connect with like-minded individuals who helped me come to terms with the pressing questions about my sexuality -- I'm sure you all are familiar with them, so I'll spare the time.
With the help of this community, I have made it a point to embrace my sexuality and accept it as part of my identity. I am openly bisexual now.
I have since become much more open with all of my partners (both men and women) regarding my desires and past experiences. I have learned to marginalize the opinions of those close to me who are not accepting of my lifestyle, or are convinced I am "just confused" or "gay and still in the closet". I have had a few monogomous relationships with men; and though I tend to date women these days they are always made aware and must be (if they want a relationship) supportive of my sexuality.
I have dated women who are fully in tune and with whom I've shared or, at least engaged, with male partners during our relationship.
I've even dated women who were uninterested in exploring, but were understanding and accepting of my bisexuality.
Regardless of the dynamics of any relationship I have been in since I've accepted who I am, I have found the level of fulfillment in my sex life is a direct result of the level of acceptance--NOT participation--that my partner has when I have been 100% honest in discussing my sexuality.
Anyone else care to share?
This has me thinking about my life beforehand, and how my sexuality has evolved and been influenced by the Literotica community since joining.
I remember joining because I was just beginning to question my sexuality and didn't know how to feel about it. Though I'd thoroughly experimented with men when I was a little younger... I was in what I would consider my first real relationship with another man. We were both in the closet about it. The first few months were purely physical exploration but we were monogamous. That changed for me though, as I began to realize I was having some of the same emotions as I'd experienced in my previous relationships with women (e.g. jealousy, passion, etc.). I knew I wanted to be in an open, committed relationship with this guy but I was afraid. We unfortunately grew apart shortly thereafter when I moved away for school and I found myself without the courage to pursue another man for quite some time. Seeking guidance I stumbled across this site and it changed my whole perspective. Although I regularly enjoyed (and still do) the raunchy sex-talk and bullshit banter, I was able to connect with like-minded individuals who helped me come to terms with the pressing questions about my sexuality -- I'm sure you all are familiar with them, so I'll spare the time.
With the help of this community, I have made it a point to embrace my sexuality and accept it as part of my identity. I am openly bisexual now.
I have since become much more open with all of my partners (both men and women) regarding my desires and past experiences. I have learned to marginalize the opinions of those close to me who are not accepting of my lifestyle, or are convinced I am "just confused" or "gay and still in the closet". I have had a few monogomous relationships with men; and though I tend to date women these days they are always made aware and must be (if they want a relationship) supportive of my sexuality.
I have dated women who are fully in tune and with whom I've shared or, at least engaged, with male partners during our relationship.
I've even dated women who were uninterested in exploring, but were understanding and accepting of my bisexuality.
Regardless of the dynamics of any relationship I have been in since I've accepted who I am, I have found the level of fulfillment in my sex life is a direct result of the level of acceptance--NOT participation--that my partner has when I have been 100% honest in discussing my sexuality.
Anyone else care to share?
