Question Thread

[mr happy]

Ok Question No 1

What is the single most private thing you would not want your family and friends to find out about your sex life.

Posted this in the playground but got lost in the whirlpool of posts.

As for me, It would have to be that I love to let my wife fuck my ass

Wouldnt want family and friends to get to know about that


Ok lets hear some of your naughty little secrets.

 

[bisexplicit]

Family and friends are two completely different categories.

Aside from the fact my family assumes I must be having sex - thats all I want them to know.

For my friends, they know a lot of things about my sex life. I suppose I would be slightly embarassed if they found out about my Daddy fetish, but I don't think it would really surprise any of them.

 

[mr happy]

Hi there, thanks for the input,

yep family and friends are seperate, but think both would be shocked to learn some new facts about me

 

[obstinate fawn]

Wouldn't want my family or friends outside the lifestyle to know that I'm bi and that I'm a swinger.

 

[mr happy]

Wouldn't want my family or friends outside the lifestyle to know that I'm bi and that I'm a swinger.

Hi there,
Hmmmm yep that might be a hard one to explain

 

[Vixandra]

Most of my friends know but my family doesn't know I'm a bisexual Domme looking for a woman to be my sub.
Can see that upsetting my hubby's Catholic family.

 

[mr happy]

Most of my friends know but my family doesn't know I'm a bisexual Domme looking for a woman to be my sub.
Can see that upsetting my hubby's Catholic family.

Not something they would chat about in church then

 

[Cathleen]

I have a very few trusted friends with whom I share private things. As for other more casual friends and family, I'd not want them to know I met a FB off the web. They wouldn't want to know that's for sure.

 

[mr happy]

I have a very few trusted friends with whom I share private things. As for other more casual friends and family, I'd not want them to know I met a FB off the web. They wouldn't want to know that's for sure.

Hi Cathleen, thanks for dropping in

Thats the problem with having a web life
I find myself sometimes going to say things to the wife or friends, then stop myself just in time , thinking Oh no that was on the web today!!

Will prob trip myself up sooner or later

 

[Cathleen]

Hi Cathleen, thanks for dropping in

Thats the problem with having a web life
I find myself sometimes going to say things to the wife or friends, then stop myself just in time , thinking Oh no that was on the web today!!

Will prob trip myself up sooner or later

Does your wife not know you use the internet in general? Or is it more specific?

 

[mr happy]

Does your wife not know you use the internet in general? Or is it more specific?

Oh no, she knows I use the net at work, and check out diff sites for fun,
But i meant, things like if i have been chatting with someone, and then nearly mention something we talked about.

 

[Cathleen]

Oh no, she knows I use the net at work, and check out diff sites for fun,
But i meant, things like if i have been chatting with someone, and then nearly mention something we talked about.

Oh, I see. Then I agree, you probably will trip up sometime.

 

[HandFan]

Besides them knowing that I actually have sex,lol....well I would have to say that I would die of embarrassment if family or friends knew that I harbor a secret desire to be part of a webpage that streams video of girls giving guys hand and footjobs. Yep, that knowledge would consitute me driving off the nearest bridge to my death.

 

[phoenix1224]

What is the single most private thing you would not want your family and friends to find out about your sex life.

I have a couple.

Like you, I don't want anyone I know to know that I've let a woman do me in the ass with a strapon... And I liked it.

One that I don't mind my friends knowing about but wouldn't want my family to know about is my "black bag"... It contains vibrators, dildos, a strapon harness, two pairs of handcuffs, two pairs of ankle shackles, cat-o-nine tails, whip, flogger, riding crop, police baton, ball gag, paddle, a leather collar with nipple clamps attatched by two chains, a leash, one "adult" board game, and a pair of "naughty" dice (I think that's it)... My family would never be able to look me in the eye again.

 

[Eilan]

I wouldn't want my family and friends to know that my hubby and I have had a few MFM threesomes.

 

[SweetErika]

I wouldn't want my family to know we have romantic relationships with other people. That's not because it'd bother or embarrass me for them to know; I think the knowledge would hurt some of THEM because they don't understand polyamory and consider everything outside a relationship cheating. We don't tell them I'm bi for the same reason.

I figure everything else (toys, fantasies, roleplay, etc.) is a normal part of a healthy sex life and marriage, and don't really care if they find out about it.

 

[riftheotherone]

I think the thing to remember is most everyone has some kind of secret, whether that be participating in any kind of activity that you think others would disapprove of or frown upon or wanting to.

I remember as a kid being nosey one xmas and finding black and whites of my mum with not only my dad but another guy as well. At that age - was probably around 10 at the time - whilst being a shock I also found it strangely exciting, it was also one of those things that despite knowing I never let on to either of them and to be honest later on in life completely put it out of my mind. As I got older I wasn't naive enough to think they didn't have a sex life nor maybe some other kinks to boot, much like everyone else. Sure there are things I'd rather others didn't know but would we feel like that if everyone was out in the open about what they did, liked etc. I doubt it.

If we were all like Kinsey was earlier in the century when he tried to bring people out of the closet so to speak I think there would be a lot less people in the world with hang ups. May be a lot more understanding too.

 

[mr happy]

Besides them knowing that I actually have sex,lol....well I would have to say that I would die of embarrassment if family or friends knew that I harbor a secret desire to be part of a webpage that streams video of girls giving guys hand and footjobs. Yep, that knowledge would consitute me driving off the nearest bridge to my death.

So I guess we would class that as an exhibitionist sort of fantasy

I often think about some of the pics I have posted here and elsewhere, and what I would say to anyone that recognised me .

A web page would be the same sort of thing, exciting in the fact that due to the www it could be your neighbour viewing your naked form

 

[mr happy]

I have a couple.

Like you, I don't want anyone I know to know that I've let a woman do me in the ass with a strapon... And I liked it.

One that I don't mind my friends knowing about but wouldn't want my family to know about is my "black bag"... It contains vibrators, dildos, a strapon harness, two pairs of handcuffs, two pairs of ankle shackles, cat-o-nine tails, whip, flogger, riding crop, police baton, ball gag, paddle, a leather collar with nipple clamps attatched by two chains, a leash, one "adult" board game, and a pair of "naughty" dice (I think that's it)... My family would never be able to look me in the eye again.

Hi Phoenix,

I was thinking in my case and yours, what would be the most embarrasing.
The fact that we have been fucked in the ass?
Or that we enjoyed it?

Wow that is some toy collection you have!!
bet your popular at parties
Hope you keep it well hidden under lock and key!

 

[mr happy]

I wouldn't want my family and friends to know that my hubby and I have had a few MFM threesomes.

Gidday Eilan,

Thanks for the post,

Thats a tricky one to explain away for sure, esp if your playing close to home

 

[mr happy]

I wouldn't want my family to know we have romantic relationships with other people. That's not because it'd bother or embarrass me for them to know; I think the knowledge would hurt some of THEM because they don't understand polyamory and consider everything outside a relationship cheating. We don't tell them I'm bi for the same reason.

I figure everything else (toys, fantasies, roleplay, etc.) is a normal part of a healthy sex life and marriage, and don't really care if they find out about it.

Hi Erica,

Taa for the input,

That word, Polyamory, has been popping up more and more lately.
A friend explained it to me just the other week.

Yep I guess a lot of the time it is not about being embarrassed, but more to do with not hurting others or their feelings.
Some things are always best left unsaid.

 

[mr happy]

I think the thing to remember is most everyone has some kind of secret, whether that be participating in any kind of activity that you think others would disapprove of or frown upon or wanting to.

I remember as a kid being nosey one xmas and finding black and whites of my mum with not only my dad but another guy as well. At that age - was probably around 10 at the time - whilst being a shock I also found it strangely exciting, it was also one of those things that despite knowing I never let on to either of them and to be honest later on in life completely put it out of my mind. As I got older I wasn't naive enough to think they didn't have a sex life nor maybe some other kinks to boot, much like everyone else. Sure there are things I'd rather others didn't know but would we feel like that if everyone was out in the open about what they did, liked etc. I doubt it.

If we were all like Kinsey was earlier in the century when he tried to bring people out of the closet so to speak I think there would be a lot less people in the world with hang ups. May be a lot more understanding too.

Wow that was some find for a ten year old to make.

when I was about the same age, my parents split up.
I remember the day well , when I saw my mother being fucked by her boyfriend in the sun room of our house.
was meant to be at school, but was sent home early due to sickness.
I just stood there and watched, frozen on the spot.
Like you i was shocked, but still watched till they finished.
I learnt a lot that day

 

[eudaemonia]

Interesting question.

Family: While I wouldn't offer much of anything, there's nothing I wouldn't answer when asked. Friends: My closest friend is also my ex, and we've talked -- and still talk -- about everything, even now that he's engaged. The rest of my friends know of my fondess for well-written erotica and several of us have discussed jacking-off frequency, our turn-ons/offs, use of toys, etc. Frankly, I'm pretty boring compared to a lot of people, so really there's nothing I'd be embarrassed about becoming public knowledge.

 

[riftheotherone]

Wow that was some find for a ten year old to make.

when I was about the same age, my parents split up.
I remember the day well , when I saw my mother being fucked by her boyfriend in the sun room of our house.
was meant to be at school, but was sent home early due to sickness.
I just stood there and watched, frozen on the spot.
Like you i was shocked, but still watched till they finished.
I learnt a lot that day

[FONT=Comic Sans [FONT=Comic Sans MS]MS]I often think I think too much about sex, in all the forms it takes...often wonder if it stemmed from that find....I'll never know but then again I don't really mind...there could be worse things to be thinking too much about !

I do know however my folks actually must have had a good idea I found them because they knew I'd found my presents, think I was a little indiscreet re leaving the sliding cupboard doors where they were hidden in the same state when closing them. Thinking about it now I can't begin to guess how that made them feel, wondering all those years whether I'd seen them or not. I do know however when I went back to the same cupboard after xmas they'd gone, I was also a little more careful with leaving things as I'd found them, that was a lesson that's stood me in good stead all these years later *lol*[/FONT][/FONT]

 

[riftheotherone]

Interesting question.

[b]Family[/b]: While I wouldn't offer much of anything, there's nothing I wouldn't answer when asked. Friends: My closest friend is also my ex, and we've talked -- and still talk -- about everything, even now that he's engaged. The rest of my friends know of my fondess for well-written erotica and several of us have discussed jacking-off frequency, our turn-ons/offs, use of toys, etc. Frankly, I'm pretty boring compared to a lot of people, so really there's nothing I'd be embarrassed about becoming public knowledge.

Well I know one time a group of us at work - guys - had been talking one day about various sexual topics and I'd brought up in conversation the fact a guys g-spot was in his ass. I was a little surprised when one of my closest friends out of that group - not everyone at work being a good friend - and someone who I'd always thought of as quite open just by the way he behaved/talked turned around and said well I wouldn't let any woman shove her fingers up my ass....would you. So put on the spot I simply said I wouldn't knock anything 'til I'd tried it and he might find he'd like it....being able to say this as yes I'd tried it. I could see the look I got from a couple of the guys but this one friend just couldn't believe it. He seemed to have a hard time accepting it and I never ever found out why.

It seems to be a thing a lot of guys have hang ups about, my guess would be thats because the thought process may go.....if I find I like it does that mean perhaps there's a little of the homosexual lurking inside, from my POV I'm not attracted to men in any way but I don't see why I can't enjoy a really intense sexual experience I know I like.