Question for Senior Men….

[jsmiam]

Just for clarification, I think I get what you are describing, but I can see where a catch-all term like cum can create some confusion too. After all, it can be a verb or a noun, a nickname, an emotion, an event, heck, even an argument (“cum” or “come”)

So…. Based on your post, I believe there are erections, and there is sexual intercourse. So we’ve gotten that far.

As far as not cumming: Is it (a) nothing ejaculation related whatsoever, no throbbing or pulsating, no semen exiting the penis, nothing at all; (a.1) feeling sensations like it’ll happen, but nonetheless, nothing at all ends up happening, (b) the physical motions of ejaculating, (throbbing, spasms, pulsations, twitches, etc.) but no ejaculate (cum the noun, the slippery white substance) exiting the penis (c) the physical motions (see above) but far less semen exits the building than in the good old days?

Or (d) something else?

It’ll help us understand better, even if it doesn’t lead to better answers. (I predict (shocked it hasn’t been said already actually) that the next suggestion will rhyme with “pie-dration.” But that won’t be the answer either.

Some age related questions, sad to say, don’t have answers other than “we’re getting older.” I’m not suggesting we shouldn’t all fight to keep age at bay, but denial/pretending aging doesn’t exist isn’t the answer, nor would falling prey to medical quackery.

How long between “usages?” A science experiment similar to that already mentioned might be worthwhile: does a little extra time between events make any difference? How about More sleep? Less alcohol? Starting earlier? More imagining her best friend Sally?

 

[Noor]

An article on the web says:

"Aging itself can also contribute to ED due to decreased testosterone levels."

So why not increase testosterone levels instead ?

 

[questquilya]

So why not increase testosterone levels instead ?

It's a fair question. If we hope women who need it to take estrogen, we can also hope that men who need testosterone to take it. Does it come in pills?

 

[Dw313]

Pills, cream or injection.
Hard in the UK to testosterone levels checked

 

[Lucien_Al]

I have high testosterone levels but the ED still needs to be managed

 

[Noor]

I have high testosterone levels but the ED still needs to be managed

I wonder what else affects it? I’m in the us and it’s pretty easy to get guys with erection issues checked out esp those without morning erections.
I’d be concerned if an erection med was working and then things changed that something medical was happening.

 

[DaddyWarBucks]

I am 87 and suffered and survived Bladder cancer. The surgical procedure involves inserting multiple catheters thru the urethra to perform surgery. I now ejaculate into my bladder, and while you feel like you are coming, as my female urologist says, physiologically it leaves a lot to be desired.

 

[Sweetdreams71]

I am 87 and suffered and survived Bladder cancer. The surgical procedure involves inserting multiple catheters thru the urethra to perform surgery. I now ejaculate into my bladder, and while you feel like you are coming, as my female urologist says, physiologically it leaves a lot to be desired.

Yes I imagine it would be difficult to get used to that, but please remember most women are the same. I say most, not all...
The days of wet panties in anticipation is just a memory, even when we do orgasm, the orgasms are dry. Lube is a must as the vagina walls and skin age and become paper thin and for many painful. Many women when sex becomes difficult, painful, and our hormones abandon us, we just give up.

At 87 I would think achieving an orgasm is something to celebrate!

So please know we can relate how disappointed you are....and we don't judge, we understand. For most getting older is a challenge in the sex department.

 

[Deleted member 1655181]

Yes I imagine it would be difficult to get used to that, but please remember most women are the same. I say most, not all...
The days of wet panties in anticipation is just a memory, even when we do orgasm, the orgasms are dry. Lube is a must as the vagina walls and skin age and become paper thin and for many painful. Many women when sex becomes difficult, painful, and our hormones abandon us, we just give up.

At 87 I would think achieving an orgasm is something to celebrate!

So please know we can relate how disappointed you are....and we don't judge, we understand. For most getting older is a challenge in the sex department.

So far HRT has mitigated most of those symptoms for Mrs, but she does have to a pill for her thyroid now. Rolling with the changes...

 

[Deleted member 1655181]

All the senior men: I’m a healthy, nearly 70 year old. I use Cialis which is awesome, love sex with my s/o it’s amazing, she’s incredibly orgasmic, and very open to really anything. The issue is, over the past few years I’ve found it more an more difficult to cum. Now, the last few times we’ve had sex, the fucking and sucking is amazing, but again, no cumming. I’ve given up watching porn, but does any other guy have this issue, and any suggestions? (please serious responses only). Thanks for the help!

Hey Doc! Yes I have similar problem due to antidepressants. Gets worse as I age. Focus and lots of manual stimulation gets me over the hump, after which I can edge and cum with the best of them. Have you had your testosterone levels checked?

 

[Sweetdreams71]

So far HRT has mitigated most of those symptoms for Mrs, but she does have to a pill for her thyroid now. Rolling with the changes...

I have been on HRT for almost a year and a half, it has greatly improved my anxiety but hasn't done much for the dryness and aging vagina.

 

[Deleted member 1655181]

I have been on HRT for almost a year and a half, it has greatly improved my anxiety but hasn't done much for the dryness and aging vagina.

Hate to hear that, but everyone's different. What about libido?

 

[Sweetdreams71]

Hate to hear that, but everyone's different. What about libido?

That's a hard one to answer due to my relationship with my husband. Probably better than before I would guess, but libido is testosterone not estrogen.

 

[Dw313]

For we guys we worry about our performance and ability to get it up, put it up and hold it up.
We don’t have to endure painful penetrative sex that so many women seem to have to experience.

 

[docisin]

Hey Doc! Yes I have similar problem due to antidepressants. Gets worse as I age. Focus and lots of manual stimulation gets me over the hump, after which I can edge and cum with the best of them. Have you had your testosterone levels checked?

thanks for the reply; Testosterone levels are off the charts high! but the manual stim is really a good idea….thanks!

 

[docisin]

70 here and still going at it. It's shrunk, doesn't have the big loads anymore but sometimes when I do cum it feels like I need to take a knee, super intense. Yes sometimes the little fella suddenly isn't into it but I've always taken care of my wife, and others with my tongue. I sometimes take a half of Cialis which gets me harder and last longer. I think I've worn my cock out?? lol

same

 

[docisin]

I use the other stuff (viagra), and I've had the same issue on occasion. I don't actually mind that much, as I can enjoy prolonged sex and my wife can have a couple of orgasms. But, it bothered her, no matter how much I said I was enjoying it.
I found two things. First, I started taking just a little bit lower dose. In my case, about 20 mgs instead of 25, leaving a little extra from each pill. Second, if our sex is spaced out over 5 days or more, I can cum pretty reliably. And, after 50 years together, its not that mnuch of a challenge to have sex once a week.

great advice; thanks. my partner is super satisfied, but just wants to make sure I am too….

 

[docisin]

I have read that taking 1 mg of Folic Acid and 15 mg of zinc picolinate every day increases sperm production. It would seem that it would also be good to increase semen. Of course, my earlier comment about training the fast twitch muscle fibers with Kegels also applies

I have read that taking 1 mg of Folic Acid and 15 mg of zinc picolinate every day increases sperm production. It would seem that it would also be good to increase semen. Of course, my earlier comment about training the fast twitch muscle fibers with Kegels also applies.

just to be clear-er: I have absolutely no problem with “sperm production,” increasing semen, or ED. My issue is getting from point A to B….

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

great advice; thanks. my partner is super satisfied, but just wants to make sure I am too….

That sounds very familiar.
There have been times when I felt totally spent, even though I didn't ejaculate.
But my wife really wants me to, both because it makes her feel that I am satisfied, and because she likes the feeling.

I also find that having a drink before sex, which used to be relaxing and helpful, now interferes not only with the erection but with finishing.
A little weed, on the other hand....

 

[questquilya]

Yes I imagine it would be difficult to get used to that, but please remember most women are the same. I say most, not all...
The days of wet panties in anticipation is just a memory, even when we do orgasm, the orgasms are dry. Lube is a must as the vagina walls and skin age and become paper thin and for many painful. Many women when sex becomes difficult, painful, and our hormones abandon us, we just give up.

At 87 I would think achieving an orgasm is something to celebrate!

So please know we can relate how disappointed you are....and we don't judge, we understand. For most getting older is a challenge in the sex department.

I understand. I promise, we men would feel on cloud nine just with a sliver of intimacy and happy to provide a steady supply of decaliters of lube. We dread the time when we know we will stop to function and hope to make the most of the time we have left.

 

[Foxed]

I went with an old guy recently. He was worried about getting hard. Then he was worried about cuming. Bless him, he did really well with both

 

[questquilya]

I went with an old guy recently. He was worried about getting hard. Then he was worried about cuming. Bless him, he did really well with both

How old?

 

[Foxed]

How old?

I was 39 (now 40) he was 68

 

[Foxed]

I was 39 (now 40) he was 68

I thought he was a bit older. He’s had a rough couple of years

 

[Justplainjeff]

All the senior men: I’m a healthy, nearly 70 year old. I use Cialis which is awesome, love sex with my s/o it’s amazing, she’s incredibly orgasmic, and very open to really anything. The issue is, over the past few years I’ve found it more an more difficult to cum. Now, the last few times we’ve had sex, the fucking and sucking is amazing, but again, no cumming. I’ve given up watching porn, but does any other guy have this issue, and any suggestions? (please serious responses only). Thanks for the help!

I hate to say this, but have you had your prostate checked out?