Question for people who've gone from bi hookups/experiences to fully gay relationships

[cdstefi]

It's more of academic interest than a request for advice, as I'm happily married to a great woman and staying that way (although I do have the occasional gay hookup and love it).

For those who have taken the plunge and committed to a full on same-sex relationship, specifically coming from a curiosity, then bi experiences and hookups background, does the everyday experience live up to the excitement of having something different to your usual sexual menu?

I suppose because I've found sex with men to be so different to straight sex, so much more immediate raw lust and less on the romance, I'm very curious about how it works in a gay (or lesbian come to that) LTR.

 

[Britva415]

How what works? The sex?

My longest relationship besides my wife was with a man. In fact it was my first LTR. I could say that it was from a curiosity, then bi experiences and hookups background, but I was only 21 when it started, so, it wasn't like after a lifetime of curiosity and closeting. It was just 4 years after losing my virginity, and 3 years after my first gay experience and coming out.

Anyway, it's like any other relationship. Except that, with a male partner, the subject matter of the inevitable emotional dramas aren't the same as what women get wound up about, and the way a pair of men work through emotional drama isn't the same as the way a man and a woman do.

And the sex is different too. Or, maybe not the sex, but the initiation of sex. Both in a LTR and in casual/uncommitted pairings, a man just doesn't need to be seduced into the mood the way a woman typically does.