Pushing wedding cake in your partners face ??????

[T.H. Oughts]

Ok, so someone explain why in the USA when people get married that they spend hundreds of dollars on dresses, suits and makeup etc and then while cutting the cake they push it into each others faces and get all their gear smothered in frosting and their makeup smeared.....

Hey I'm not against a good food fight... but on your wedding day ?????

 

[Elizabeth]

Awful, awful, awful tradition.

Edited to say..I have no idea how or where this whole thing started or how it became so accepted.

 

[cymbidia]

No.
Not in my life, in my relationships.

I think it's humilitating and embarassing for those involved and would be beyond furious if it was done to me. No one would be getting lucky that night, i can assure you, if wedding cake was smashed into my face.

JMO.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Awful, awful, awful tradition.

Edited to say..I have no idea how or where this whole thing started or how it became so accepted.

So what % of weddings would they do this? I've seen it on the funny home video TV programs mainly.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I've been to weddings where it was done. I would have killed my husband with the cake knife. I think it's in incredibly poor taste, completely lacking in class, and rude.

Why would you be that blatantly disrespectful of someone you just promised to love, honor, and cherish?

 

[cymbidia]

The funny home video programs?

Darlin', those shows should tell you something important about the segment of people who actually do this kinda thing.

Most of us don't.
Honestly.
My general perception is that very young couples seem to do it a lot more than the rest of us. Personally, i've never been to wedding at which this was done.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I would have killed my husband with the cake knife.

Yep, I would have been real pissed if my husband had done it to me after all the hours I put in making my wedding dress. Though our cake was rock hard so it would have knocked me out, lol

 

[HotXBunz]

I found this on a wedding site:

"After cutting the cake, the newlyweds often share a taste by feeding each other. The ancient Romans believed that the joint partaking of the cake created a magic bonding. The sweetness symbolized the couples' future happiness and the grain held the promise of a fruitful union."

I know many people don't know didly about what is behind the traditions relating to weddings but to publicly humiliate someone you love is just plain hateful.

T.H.Oughts you are right to wonder why. I have never been to a wedding where this has happened and hope I never am. I hope this is an abberation from the norm.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I found this on a wedding site:

"After cutting the cake, the newlyweds often share a taste by feeding each other. The ancient Romans believed that the joint partaking of the cake created a magic bonding. The sweetness symbolized the couples' future happiness and the grain held the promise of a fruitful union."

Thanks for that

 

[Bigdog]

I used to work weekends as a mobile DJ, so I have been to many, many weddings. Sadly, the "full face cake smash" happened way to often; I would say 10 of the 50 or so events I worked. Usually a young groom being prodded on by his drunk friends. I find it to be an awful practice, one that on occasion had the bride in tears.

The point of feeding your partner is trust. It is symbolic of the effort put forth in marriage to care for your mate. I was very proud of my son-in-law when he married my oldest stepdaughter. He was young (24) and some of his friends were egging him on to do the smash thing, but he refused. He did get a little off center and smeared a bit of icing on her upper lip, but fixed it with a gentle kiss. Just the kind of class he shows my daughter every day, now in their second year of marriage.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

He did get a little off center and smeared a bit of icing on her upper lip, but fixed it with a gentle kiss.

Yep, that sounds much nicer

 

[Rhys]

No.
Not in my life, in my relationships.

I think it's humilitating and embarassing for those involved and would be beyond furious if it was done to me. No one would be getting lucky that night, i can assure you, if wedding cake was smashed into my face.

JMO.

Exactly how I feel, Cym. I think its disrespectful all the way around. I am not going to smush cake in her face when I know damned well she's spent a thousand dollars for a dress and even more on the cake and champagne. I don't find it funny at all

 

[Guru]

 

[Kasha]

Well, I guess I'll stick out like a sore thumb. My husband and I got married in Texas with a justice of the peace. He is an old family friend. We didn't do the whole wedding thing. We dressed nicely, got married and went out to dinner.

I don't have a whole lot of family in Texas so there was no big celebration, but it was a nice little family thing and I am glad that is the way we did it. We went to Washington for our honeymoon. My husband has a ton of family so they had a "reception" type thing for us but it was only family. This is where we had our wedding cake moment. My husband and I did the feeding of the wedding cake, but then I smushed the cake in his face... not a whole lot but just enough.

I don't think it was disrespectful in this instance because it was a little family thing and it was done out of fun and love.

 

[Mensa]

Bad beginnings, bad endings.

If you think pushing wedding cake into each other's face is rude, wait til you see what they push into their respective faces at the divorce.

 

[perks]

okay.........<sigh>

when I'm sliding a piece of cake thick with yummy frosty towards my lover's lips an impish urge overwhelms me. A playful impulse shoots through my brain to my fingertips, and I just need to smush. Especially if I get to lick and kiss it off after.

Did I do it on my wedding day? No, I refrained, but damnit I really wanted to.

My friends and family know me, and a week before we had a party with a mini cake just so I could do it there. Didn't make me want to do it any less the day of, but I resisted. I was a little shaky when my fingers lifted that yummy cake toward his <asking for it> face. I was a good girl.<sigh>


I supposed there is a time and a place for everything.

 

[Kasha]

If you think pushing wedding cake into each other's face is rude, wait til you see what they push into their respective faces at the divorce



Tbat's bad.. but the things they push into eachother during their wedding night....my goodness... Cake may be an easier cleanup...

 

[Sorsha]

I got married in Limousine in a Vegas Wedding Chapel Drive- Thru....no cake there

 

[teresafannin]

Cake smushing has not happened at any of my family's weddings. My dad would smack a man who did that to one of his daughters & if he didn't, my brother would have.

 

[MidnightAngel]

I've never done that; and I've been married "several" times.

The last time, a lot of the people at the reception (yeah....they were drunk) wanted me to smash my husband with the wedding cake. No way.....I would've had to have his uniform cleaned again!

 

[Samuari]

At our wedding, we carefully fed cake to each other and gave each other sips of wine, flowing the Best Man's toast. But then we have always respected each other.

 

[Gilly Bean]

We didn't do it at our weddin, and I do believe my husband would have slept on the couch that night, had he.

 

[Gingersnap]

I have never seen this done at a wedding. I have seen it on TV on those video shows. I can understand the urge to clown around by doing that with a small piece of cake. I suppose it seems like a way to release some of the nervous tension and signal a playful affection. I would not like it done to me. I would not do it to my partner. Now in the bedroom later mmmmm that's another story. I would be able to lick it all off and well....

 

[TurnerBackwards]

What is the big deal about the smushing of cake. Alot of you act like your weddings were handled like a funeral. The whole purpose of a wedding is a public celebration of two people in love. My wife and I did smash the cake at our wedding and all is fine and dandy. No hard feelings. By the way it was fun. The only problem the wife had with it was my arms were longer than hers and she did not get the better smash. Really people loosen up, have fun, life is too short to be so proper about such things.