Premature Ejaculation

[shhhshhh]

I recently got out of my first relationship (I'm 23 years old, she was my boss' daughter, we went out for about three months) and I had a pretty bad problem with premature ejaculation.

We must have done it 20 times (I was a virgin before), and I think out of all those times I only lasted past 10 seconds a couple times.

It was so quick that I couldn't even do the stop and go thing because as soon as I pumped more than once I was cumming already.

It was extremely disheartening, and damaging to my ego, etc. I managed to let my fingers do good work so she always got hers, but it's not nearly as intimate as going even a couple minutes with my dick inside her.


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Is there really any way to solve this problem?

 

[RunningJib]

Masturbation

I recently got out of my first relationship (I'm 23 years old, she was my boss' daughter, we went out for about three months) and I had a pretty bad problem with premature ejaculation.

We must have done it 20 times (I was a virgin before), and I think out of all those times I only lasted past 10 seconds a couple times.

It was so quick that I couldn't even do the stop and go thing because as soon as I pumped more than once I was cumming already.

It was extremely disheartening, and damaging to my ego, etc. I managed to let my fingers do good work so she always got hers, but it's not nearly as intimate as going even a couple minutes with my dick inside her.


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Is there really any way to solve this problem?

The secret of many great lovers is masturbation.

In a nutshell, you need to train yourself not to climax too quickly.

Here's the technique. Begin to stroke yourself, when you are close then stop. The trick here is to stop. Wait a few minutes and begin again. Get close and stop.

Best of luck

 

[shhhshhh]

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But even with stroking it. I can do that maybe once, but after that it's a hair trigger. I've never thought about waiting a whole few minutes though... will try that out.



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I'm pretty sure that my masturbation habits as a teenager led to this problem. I was always sneaking in my wanks (~4-6 times a week) because I didn't really have time to myself in the house. I probably "trained" myself over the years to spit the dicksnot out pretty quickly.

 

[LaRocha]

Forget about finger fucking, bro. Lick it first until she comes, do your three second thing, lick it again until you get another bone and go again. Believe me, you'll get sick of the punishment and you'll last longer.

 

[ticklechambers]

yeah i like larocha's idea. besides, a lot of women enjoy 4play much more than actual sex anyway- it's easier to get her to orgasm that way- i reckon, just relax and switch between the two. the girls wont notice, they'll just think you like the taste of them- and i can't think of a girl who wouldn't like a guy to tell her that.

 

[fgarvb1]

As a young man with my first real girlfriend I didn't have the chance to develop a condition of premature ejaculation.

The reason is because "bless her" she was selfish and wanted some serious screwing every time, was convinced that getting that first load of cum out of the way was the prime way to do it.

The way to do that was with a blow job.

Mercy she was fantastic at it.

At that age I thought was a bone anyway, so as soon as my vision cleared I was ready to go.

What I'm trying to say is RELAX, round one is round one and I would also like to suggest that you two explore mutual oral sex as foreplay.

It only gets better.

 

[jkpel]

I have sort of an opposite problem, dude. When I'm with a partner in bed for the first time I can find it hard to get an erection. Apart from that, alone or online, it's no problem at all.

You and I have a possible penis or sexual problem so maybe you can do what I did. I simply phoned the NHS helpline and told them what my problem was. They discussed this with me, and got an advisor to call me back.

We talked about the problem, got some answers, but also advised me where my nearest sexual health clinic was. I visited that, spoke openly and completely with the doctor. Some problems got answers. Then the doctor has now passed me on to a more SPECIALIZED sexual health clinic. Who will be even more specific and expertised in my problem and will hopefully help me even more.

You have a problem similar to me, whether the root of the problem is phsyical or psychological. I advise that you do the same as me and find the NHS Helpline and call them up to take these steps. Speak to a professional about these problems. You have no idea how many people there are who have your problem but also have no idea how many people are out there who can solve this problem, professionally.

I just hope that things work out for you.

 

[The Gimp]

You have a problem similar to me, whether the root of the problem is phsyical or psychological.

Cumming in ten seconds is not a physical problem. He specifically said that when he was growing up that he trained himself to cum as quickly as possible to keep from getting caught. Now it's time to undo that training. The first time I had sex it was just the opposite. I had heard that the worst thing that a guy could do in bed was cum too quickly, so I trained myself to hold back. I was so set in my ways that the first time I wasn't able to cum at all.

Masturbate, cum, then fight through the urge to stop and force yourself to cum again. It will take some effort, but with practice before you know it you'll be going at it like a porn star.

 

[tan43215]

wack off alot - this will make your cock less sensitive- all above advise is good- jerk it before your dates-- shower afterwards

 

[shhhshhh]

wack off alot - this will make your cock less sensitive- all above advise is good- jerk it before your dates-- shower afterwards

I've probably wasted about 2500 loads of baby batter in my life, only about 15-20 of which ended up in a rubber or a vagina

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I'm quite aware of "round 2" but even then, it's like 15 seconds instead of 10... and that's on the high side.

 

[Luna_Bella]

I agree With the Gimp, my Hubby at first was like jkpel and then once he got pass the insecurity and shyness(took about one month) and could finally get and erection he would ejaculate prematurely, we worked on re-training him , now he can last as long has I can handle... a oral first for both partners is also a good idea....

 

[Mac98]

My first time lasted about that... 10 seconds. I was devistated and embarassed, especially because she let out a laugh when I said "uh oh". Of course, she reassured me saying she didn't care because she ended up getting hers too and just thought my "uh oh" was cute. Still, it was hard to accept. Luckily, once my first time was out of the way, I managed to last about 5 minutes.

I don't know about any of you, but I was surprised that I lasted longer having sex than when I masturbated.

What I'm trying to say is that maybe it's just cuz you're new at it. Try seeing how it is after a few months...

 

[shhhshhh]

fortunately we broke up. She was way wrong for me, and it took her getting drunk and doing blow for me to leave all together.

unfortunately she was a huge nympho and I could get it almost any time with 110% enthusiasm on her part.

 

[bluestarz]

Kegel Exercises

http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/ht/kegelsmen.htm


Start/Stop Technique

http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/ht/controlprematur.htm



Good luck!

 

[Mac98]

unfortunately she was a huge nympho and I could get it almost any time with 110% enthusiasm on her part.

...How is that unfortunate? I'm just saying, you'd think that her enthusiasm was a good thing. Maybe not, I don't know, I'll take your word for it...

Glad you recognisez she was wrong, though. Kudos for that.

 

[TheMysticMan]

...How is that unfortunate? I'm just saying, you'd think that her enthusiasm was a good thing. Maybe not, I don't know, I'll take your word for it...

Glad you recognisez she was wrong, though. Kudos for that.

I think he means he might not have as much enthusiasm from his partner next time. That's how I interpretted it anyway.

Yeah mate all the advice is good, especially training yourself to last longer through masturbation. Goodluck my friend!

 

[rosco rathbone]

You need this book, young fellow.

The precepts taught herein, assiduously rehearsed, gave me complete orgasmic control.

http://books.google.com/books?id=ieFXCesJXCoC&dq=mantak+chia&lr=&cd=12