Pissed.

[sweetnpetite]

Accidentally erased so here's a recap-

fell asleep w/ computer on, bf searched through PM box, changed my setting so that it would automatically log on (no password needed), woke me up for sex, didn't say anything about it or act upset at all, but lied about me having left the computer on. He was sleeping when I noticed that computer was on, screen off and turned on monitor and checked my history for today.

I feel really exposed and uncomfortable about this.

I'm trying to think of the right word for how this makes me feel, it's right on the tip of my tongue. It's not betrayed, but it's a sort of icky feeling that I think goes long w/ exposed.

 

[Guest]

Please. For your sake and his don't just let it go. Tell him it upsets you that he did that. Tell him if he wants to read stuff there you'll let him. Or better yet open an account for him.Do it calmly and let him know there is nothing going on behind his back. Tell him the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth. If he's any kind of man he'll understand and appreciate that you told him.

But if you let it go he may be tempted to do it again. And then you'll be even more angry. and if you let it go that time he will do it again and then you'll be really pissed and blow up over it.

Don't let these things stew. Trust him enough to tell him the truth. And I'm betting he'll trust you enough to never give it another thought.

 

[tolyk]

Open communication is the key to a good relationship.. Discuss calmly that you felt he intruded your privacy, and to top it off, he lied to you about it when you asked him if you left the computer on, right to your face he said no he tought it was off, when you know he went on.

That isn't healthy for your relationship, for him to be lieing to you. In my opinion, if you don't confront this now, you'll never know if he is lieing about other things, and there is a loss of respect, and of understanding, for the racey email that he read and probably misunderstood from a complete stranger.

Once he understands that you are loyal to him, you are just on here for your own entertainment purposes, and as an author (Right?) I think things will be fine. If not, then he never respected you properly in the first place... Thats all I can say about that.. If he felt the need to sneak into your privacy, he is obviously insecure about something, so he has things he needs to discuss with you.. there is obvious tension in your relationship, and some serious communication is needed.

Okay, that is the things I get immediately from your semi-informative post. Any other questions, I'd feel free to give you my viewpoints.

 

[Guest]

By the way you have a really great tushie have you ever thought of being a dancer?

Debbie

 

[sweetnpetite]

By the way you have a really great tushie have you ever thought of being a dancer?

Debbie

It's a fantasy of mine But I think I'm a little to shy in real life. Thanks btw

 

[Guest]

I can't believe I'm saying this but, I have to agree wit cowgirl. (first thing I've seen her post that makes sense)

Just tell him that you understand why he would have done it and you can forgive that. And ask, don't demand, ask that he not do it again.

 

[tolyk]

Just tell him that you understand why he would have done it and you can forgive that. And ask, to demand, ask that he not do it again.

(Thats all kind of part of the communication I was refering too.. hash everything out.. I didn't think I had to point out the obvious)

 

[sweetnpetite]

I meant to *add* to what I had said, not erase it. anyway, I figured out the word, it was violated.

 

[Guest]

Sorry, T, when I read Cowgirls post I was sorta shocked. Never would have guessed a reply like that going by her other posts. So, I replied without reading yours. I agree with it as well. And well put.

 

[sweetnpetite]

He's really quite the possesive/jealous type any you'd never guess this about him, but I think it might have actually turned him on. There are also several 'Loving Wives' stories on my history this morning.

 

[Guest]

He's really quite the possesive/jealous type any you'd never guess this about him, but I think it might have actually turned him on. There are also several 'Loving Wives' stories on my history this morning.

So invite him in. Us guys will buy him a drink at ABs place and the girls will flirt with him and he'll be happy in no time. No more problem.

Just a thought.

 

[Guest]

Yah, I think Darnoel is right. I'll flirt with him and he'll see it's ok.

Debbie

 

[sweetnpetite]

I found out abt Lit from him. He isn't that interested in the boards. He reads what I post sometimes and has posted a few times, but lost interest quickly. I think he's just more of a reader than a poster.

And the girls can just stay away from him!!!

(OK, i admit it, I'm a jeoulous type too)

 

[Guest]

Thats ok if hes a good one you can be jealous. If hes not hes not worth getting jealous over. Do guys flirt with you here and do you flirt with them? I like to flirt I like sex more but flirting is fun if your not going to get fucked.

Debbie

 

[sweetnpetite]

Thats ok if hes a good one you can be jealous. If hes not hes not worth getting jealous over. Do guys flirt with you here and do you flirt with them? I like to flirt I like sex more but flirting is fun if your not going to get fucked.

Debbie

good point, he is a good one. there's no real reason for me to be jealous. Guys do flirt with me some here, but I'm careful not to let it go very far. I flirt more with the girls, I know he doesn't mind that and they are less likely to take it too seriously and theres no worries about crossing any lines. He'd enjoy that all the more, lol.

 

[Guest]

Yea I like girls to but I like guys more cause I don't have to use things you know.

Debbie

 

[Guest]

So did you talk to him about it? is everything ok?

Debbie