Personal Space Issues

[Jim_Henson]

I know that answer now... its large and has teeth

 

[capricious_chic]

I can honestly say, the only time I have almost lost it was when I was riding on a very tall esculator. The people behind me kept moving up closer to me, I kept moving up to keep space between us. Then it became an issue, because I couldn't move up any further without being too close to the people in front of me, but the people behind me were much to close. I just wanted to turn and push the people behind me away from me. I couldn't move forward, couldn't move backwards, and all around me was people. Ack!

 

[CoolidgEffect]

For you, how close is to close?

Do you hang back in the grocery line, to avoid getting to close to someone else?

Stangers - Yes.
Family - No.

Do you feel claustrophobic in crowds?

Nope, but I don't have to stare at peoples shoulders. I can look down on folks' baldness or bad dye jobs.

Do you keep a seat between yourself and someone else at the movie theater if at all possible?

Yes, I don't want to arm wrestly with strangers.

Does it seem like even those you love should back off just a little bit, and stop being so near all the time?

All the time? Yes that is too clingy
If it is the kids, I just expect them to be standing on my shoes though and it doesn't bother me in a personal space sort of way.

Do you feel that the need for personal boundaries means that you love/need/want your partners/friends/etc. less?

No, unless those boundries require court orders or a few states.

I'll freely admit that I have personal space issues. I don't really enjoy being touched for no apparent reason. When someone walks up and puts their arm around me to talk to me, I stiffen up immediately and start thinking of excuses to move away from the contact.

I'll have to curb my obsequious manor.

I avoid crowded places, especially if I'm not familiar with exit points.

This is excellent advice.

Even with those I'm close to, I maintain a certain amount of physical and emotional space... I don't feel safe otehrwise.

Yes, I know I'm neurotic. I can't be the only one, right?

<Making mental note: Don't fondle Pagan before applying astroglide>

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Re: Personal Space Issues

Nope, but I don't have to stare at peoples shoulders. I can look down on folks' baldness or bad dye jobs.


Interesting point. I wonder if us non-gigantic people are more concerned about personal space.

I'll have to curb my obsequious manor.

No, servile is fine with me.

<Making mental note: Don't fondle Pagan before applying astroglide>

Nah, the lube's only necessary for anal fondling.

 

[Gilly Bean]

For you, how close is to close?

If it's someone I don't know at all, or don't know well, if I can reach out and touch em, it's too close.

Do you hang back in the grocery line, to avoid getting to close to someone else?

If I have a cart, it's kept between me, and the guy in front of me, at all times. If someone crowds up on my back, I cringe, and creep forward. That is the absolute worse place for personal space to me.

Do you feel claustrophobic in crowds?

No, not really

Do you keep a seat between yourself and someone else at the movie theater if at all possible?

When I pick a seat, I pick an entire empty row, and sit on the end, so I have at least one side free on me. I hate having people sitting right next to me, especially if there's a half full theater!

Does it seem like even those you love should back off just a little bit, and stop being so near all the time?

No, I don't mind the people I love being close at all.

Do you feel that the need for personal boundaries means that you love/need/want your partners/friends/etc. less?

No, again




I tihnk I found someone worse than I am in the personal space issue.


Like I mentioned above, though, the absolute worst for me is the grocery line. I'm not sure why, but it is.

 

[Lovepotion69]

I guess I don't really have that much of a problem with physical space. I grew up in a family where I got hugged a lot and leaving home made me miss that. When with friends I stand close to them, touch them, hug them, walk arm in arm etc. I don't have a problem with crowds either, apart from if I'm in a hurry or in a bad mood.

I guess I have a space issue with other things though. When I have a boyfriend I am not too keen if he's too clingy both physically, emotionally and so on. I don't like to feel suffocated. I guess I'm more the type that want personal space when it comes to mental and emotional stuff.

 

[april-wine]

I'm a toucher....I must admit....I like the connection, the warmth, the bringing of someone close....This is however reserved for those I feel close enough to, to do this....

 

[bad kitty]

For you, how close is to close?
depends on the person and the situation.

Do you hang back in the grocery line, to avoid getting to close to someone else?
just enough to give them a bit of room but not enough for someone to butt in

Do you feel claustrophobic in crowds?
Again, it depends on the situation.

Do you keep a seat between yourself and someone else at the movie theater if at all possible?
Yes, at least one if it is a stranger. If it is someone I went to the movies with then no.

Does it seem like even those you love should back off just a little bit, and stop being so near all the time?
Yep. If my husband lingers in my face I get clausterphobic and feel smothered like I can't breathe.

Do you feel that the need for personal boundaries means that you love/need/want your partners/friends/etc. less?
nope

 

[April]

I was thinking about this thread and issue while I was playing a game. Yeah, I can do both, just can't walk and chew gum.

In cases of an SO, I'm all for touching. Anytime, anywhere, pretty much. Just don't hang on me. That ain't cool. For family members and people I'm getting to know, I just don't know what to do with being touched. I don't mind it, but it makes me feel awkward. I'm not sure how to respond. So I usually do nothing, then feel bad about it. I mean well, but have a habit of doing or saying the wrong thing inadvertently. *sigh*

 

[Olivianna]

Generally, I do ok in crowds, though prefer to have some personal space. I underestimated the power of the crowd once at a festival (in South Asia) - I got caught in a large mass of people, which was being pressed into a too-narrow space by policemen on horseback. That was scary. I think I deal better with public space these days, having had to contend with entirely different millieux in India and Nepal.