Partners of Dismissive Avoidants

[SweetDee33]

Inspired to post by another thread. First time posting so please be kind

Are there any partners of dismissive avoidants in here? Were you ever able to explore kinks together, talk about what you like, experience real sexual intimacy?

Not looking for relationship advice, just curious if there are any success stories out there!

 

[Daddydude55]

No success here yet and bo sex worth having every few months

 

[SweetDee33]

No success here yet and bo sex worth having every few months

I feel for you! It's a lonely position to be in for sure.

 

[LordofDargaardkeep]

what is dismissive avoidants?

 

[Daddydude55]

It sux balls for sure

 

[SweetDee33]

what is dismissive avoidants?

It's an attachment style that causes the person to withdraw from emotional intimacy, prioritize independence even in a relationship and shutdown during conflict. They are unable to be vulnerable. Can't express affection. Supposedly they love you, but just can't express it

 

[LordofDargaardkeep]

Wouldn't those things be self-evident at the beginning stages of a relationship? Or was it a change or shift later on? Was there more intimacy early on that has faded now?

 

[Britva415]

Wouldn't those things be self-evident at the beginning stages of a relationship?

Only to someone who's aware of the phenomenon and not blinded by new relationship energy and a heart full of hope for the future together.

Relationships are universally characterized by what happens in the long term, after blinders and generous attitudes have worn off.