I would appreciate any advice here. There is a girl at my college who is just driving me crazy, but I know she has a boyfriend (but I don't think that will last). We are good friends and I really want to tell her how I feel. Is this a bad idea? I don't want to ruin being friends, but I feel like I have to tell her.
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Starblayde
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*sigh*
dont tell her wait until/if she breaks up with her b/f....
then tell her after a decent mourning-period
*sighs again*
dont tell her wait until/if she breaks up with her b/f....
then tell her after a decent mourning-period
*sighs again*
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I agree
Don't tell her just yet, because that will cause friction, especially if she tells the boyfriend. Wait until they break up, since you think they won't last. Remember, don't take advantage of her vunerability. Just be a good friend and keep close to the relationship (or have someone else spy for you, if you don't want to be too close). When they break-up and she realizes how valuable to are to her, make your move!
Don't tell her just yet, because that will cause friction, especially if she tells the boyfriend. Wait until they break up, since you think they won't last. Remember, don't take advantage of her vunerability. Just be a good friend and keep close to the relationship (or have someone else spy for you, if you don't want to be too close). When they break-up and she realizes how valuable to are to her, make your move!
I think it depends on what sort of relationship you have already. Is there chemistry there? Do you think you would be a choice for her if she didn't have a boyfriend?
Can her boyfriend kick your ass?
I would definitely express how you feel about her, how you love being around her, how she makes you smile, how you would do anything for her.
I think that would get the gears moving in her head, you start looking like Mr. Perfect.
Good luck to you.
Can her boyfriend kick your ass?
I would definitely express how you feel about her, how you love being around her, how she makes you smile, how you would do anything for her.
I think that would get the gears moving in her head, you start looking like Mr. Perfect.
Good luck to you.
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If you never want to see her again. If you want to chase her out of your life. If you want to fuck up a wonderful friendship... tell her.
Otherwise, be quite.
(old fart who has been there and done that more than once, damn it.)
Otherwise, be quite.
(old fart who has been there and done that more than once, damn it.)
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You know the situation better than anyone here on the board.
However, if I were in your shoes, i would talk to her about it. After all nothing ventured nothing gained.
You do, however, need to be prepared for rejection and it is important that you are very careful in how you approach the subject as you don't want to cock up the relationship you do have if at all possible.
Oh and BTW just because you think she might be about to break up with her boyfriend dosn't mean she will. You could be waiting forever if she doesn't. Maybe she just needs a reason and that reason could be given to her by you.
However, if I were in your shoes, i would talk to her about it. After all nothing ventured nothing gained.
You do, however, need to be prepared for rejection and it is important that you are very careful in how you approach the subject as you don't want to cock up the relationship you do have if at all possible.
Oh and BTW just because you think she might be about to break up with her boyfriend dosn't mean she will. You could be waiting forever if she doesn't. Maybe she just needs a reason and that reason could be given to her by you.
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i'm older too...
i would agree with schOOlteacher. It's usually better to keep quiet, especially when she's in an unstable situation.
A good friendship is rare enough, and hard to repair if you tell her and she's forced to give you the "I love you like a friend" speech.
By the time that speech is over they DON'T love you like a friend.
Wiggles has some good ideas though. Little gestures showing how you appreciate her, how she can trust you, and the like might make her see you in a different light.
At least it shouldn't hurt your friendship.
Good luck
i would agree with schOOlteacher. It's usually better to keep quiet, especially when she's in an unstable situation.
A good friendship is rare enough, and hard to repair if you tell her and she's forced to give you the "I love you like a friend" speech.
By the time that speech is over they DON'T love you like a friend.
Wiggles has some good ideas though. Little gestures showing how you appreciate her, how she can trust you, and the like might make her see you in a different light.
At least it shouldn't hurt your friendship.
Good luck
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Ahh Young Love...
If I were in your shoes,
Here is what I would do...
Don't tell her your feelings, Show them but dam it man be subtle.
Don't go out buying her flowers or anything.
Be there for her when she needs a good friend, Take the extra time to show her that you care by taking her out for dinner when something nice happens, Like when she makes good on a grade and so on.
You can show her BF up in very subtle ways.
Don't try to make him look bad remember it's her pick for a BF for now.
Try to be the better friend without anyone knowing it.
Good Luck and keep us posted.
If I were in your shoes,
Here is what I would do...
Don't tell her your feelings, Show them but dam it man be subtle.
Don't go out buying her flowers or anything.
Be there for her when she needs a good friend, Take the extra time to show her that you care by taking her out for dinner when something nice happens, Like when she makes good on a grade and so on.
You can show her BF up in very subtle ways.
Don't try to make him look bad remember it's her pick for a BF for now.
Try to be the better friend without anyone knowing it.
Good Luck and keep us posted.
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