Orgasm Denial - Female Perspective

[Dosxx82256]

Hi there, I'm a male dom and love to deny my sub's orgasm. As a man, I can accurately understand the impact this would have on a male sub. How the pressure would build. The discomfort in the balls. The desperation to obey to get the satisfaction you need. All of that makes it great.

What I can't understand is if women get the same type of reactions. I would appreciate hearing some female perspective on being denied orgasms. Including teasing, edging, or anything else. Does it build up, does it change your behavior, is it uncomfortable, is it frustrating? Is it worth it for a Dom to do to you in terms of behavior improvements/changes?

Thank you.

 

[Kala777]

For me there is a physical build up. I become insanely sensitive to touch. Something as simple as sitting down or crossing my legs can feel like pleasure. My whole body is more responsive to arousal. There is no discomfort other than the wanting and not having.

I do find sometimes the mental element can dissipate too easily. It needs frequent teasing and edging to stay fun over longer periods. And I'm less able to verbalize at that stage so it can be a lot more work from D's side.

 

[LeaHaven]

I know this thread is about intentional orgasm denial, but I have never been in that situation. Idk if I would like it or not. My experience has been with unintentional orgasm denial, bc my husband and I are total noobs about sex. For most of our still young marriage, I never had an orgasm. What is so weird is that I didn't even know that. But that is changing fast, and I have started to get to enjoy orgasms. But I do not see me in a situation where he would deny me an orgasm. We are kind of the opposite in that respect. In fact, I bought him a cage for Christmas. He doesn't know that. He will find out when he opens the box on Christmas Eve.

 

[linkierox]

I think once I’m closed to an orgasm, I just can’t stop, and I literally can’t do anything but let it happen. Even when I’m thinking about something very horrible, there’s no turning back. Edging for me is just a continuation of stimulation until I cannot hold back anymore.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

I enjoy edging greatly. It builds anticipation and heightens arousal for me. Haven’t edged longer than an hour so don’t know how long I could sustain it. Love being edged while in bondage. I can orgasm hands free, bound or not but I will hold off if being edged. I enjoy the sense of self control and doing what pleases my partner. It is not physically uncomfortable nor mentally distressing, just deliciously frustrating.

I would not enjoy this if there was no orgasm at the end but that’s me.

 

[Purple_Fronds]

Hi there, I'm a male dom and love to deny my sub's orgasm. As a man, I can accurately understand the impact this would have on a male sub. How the pressure would build. The discomfort in the balls. The desperation to obey to get the satisfaction you need. All of that makes it great.

What I can't understand is if women get the same type of reactions. I would appreciate hearing some female perspective on being denied orgasms. Including teasing, edging, or anything else. Does it build up, does it change your behavior, is it uncomfortable, is it frustrating? Is it worth it for a Dom to do to you in terms of behavior improvements/changes?

Thank you.

I know you asked for a women’s perspective but as somebody that also enjoys this aspect of bdsm and control, my observation is that it affects women very much the same way. Maybe not the pain that men complain of (although I always feel this is over played- but I guess everybody is different).

But, the fogginess, the frustration and the desperation, being constantly wet, is all very similar. I had a lovely sub that had got so desperate she said she had to start going to the gym twice a day instead of her usual once, yes I gave her a release shortly after finding this out (I’m not a monster).

It’s the same with edging and the corresponding bigger release. I think with both men and women if you misjudge the delay then it can just disappear entirely but the mental aspect seems to be very much the same.

On the opposite side I also enjoy having her orgasm over and over, this is also where men and women are more similar than I think people believe. Both men and women can be made to cum over a relatively short period of time and it’s that delicious combination of pleasure and anguish. The main difference is women can put up bigger numbers and if you ensure they’re hydrating (which I think is always important) then will generally still be wet although still likely to be sore afterwards. Where as men will literally run out of cum and I think there are mode than a few Dommes that enjoy the effect it has on their male subs where they dry cum.

 

[Stopokochac]

For me there is a physical build up. I become insanely sensitive to touch. Something as simple as sitting down or crossing my legs can feel like pleasure. My whole body is more responsive to arousal. There is no discomfort other than the wanting and not having.

I do find sometimes the mental element can dissipate too easily. It needs frequent teasing and edging to stay fun over longer periods. And I'm less able to verbalize at that stage so it can be a lot more work from D's side.

I'm a man, but I've started practicing it for the same kinds of reasons. While it can be torturous and distracting, at the same time, I LOVE the sensations that flow through my body when I'm in a state of prolonged arousal. And I also love the concept of being in heat and the slightest thing making me instantly hard. The first time it happened it was completely unplanned. I went 6 days and had the biggest climax I've ever had, so part of me also has to do with seeing how far I can push my body. I'm also currently partaking in it as we speak. I've been edging for 3 days now, and I plan to break it at the end of the weekend.

YES! That last part is very accurate. I'm the same. I need frequent edging and teasing to stay in the right frame of mind, otherwise the sensations subside, and then in the end I don't get the results I wanted. I wouldn't say I'm "less verbalized", but the other party definitely needs do put in effort.

I would like to restrict myself to just one orgasm per week, but I tried before and it proved challenging.