Online vs Offline

[IronRose35]

Just something I've been thinking about lately, and I'd love to hear how others feel.

- Where do you feel most like yourself — online or offline?
- And where do you feel safer being that version of you?

In everyday life, I spend a lot of energy hiding certain parts of myself. Things I'm into, things I fantasize about, the kinky parts. I keep them tucked away because not everyone needs to know. But even online, I find myself doing a different kind of hiding. I have to be careful about what I share, who I trust, and how much people can find out about me.

For those of you who keep your kink life separate from your day-to-day life, here's something I've been wondering.

If money wasn't a problem, if nothing was holding you back, and you could actually be with whoever your kinky heart wanted… would you change your life to live it out fully?

Or do you prefer keeping it a secret, something just for you and the few people who really get it?

Just curious what this looks like for you.

 

[SirSparky]

I am more my kinky self online and have shared a few of my kinks with like minded people.

If i could,.I would like to be more kinky in my real life, the Dom side of me I want to be for real. Can be a little Dom with my gf, but not fully how i want

 

[MissMandy86]

Online is a lot safer .. especially if your doing taboo stuff

 

[mijayoo]

Online is easier to share deep fantasies however I miss the connection in person when it’s all online

 

[CuriousRick]

I am a bit shy and more reserved in public. So it’s easier to let lose and relax more online. Online relationships can be rewarding too, if both parties are putting effort into. Saying that wouldn’t turn down a offline relationship if it worked out.

 

[EmmAgain]

I’m in a pretty conservative part of the country so I definitely keep my sexuality nice and prim when around neighbours and the in-laws.

The hardest online/offline transition for me has been switching from cam girl to ordinary wife and lover. My husband pointed this one out: I instinctively spread open my pussy when giving BJs, doing anal, etc. it’s pretty much mandatory when you’re having sex as a cam girl, and I still make love like there’s a perving camera around!

I still over-vocalize my orgasms and find it very hard to not communicate on a this sort of forum like it’s just another paying OnlyFans chat.

 

[OddLove]

To the main question, 1. and 2.

I'm completely myself when I'm offline and alone. Especially when I'm alone and doing something creative like writing stories or music. But when it comes to Online vs Offline, it's hard to know. The mask I wear offline around friends and family hides more of my 'secrets' like kink, sexuality, and strong opinions, where as the mask I wear online hides more of my 'dysfunctions' like personality flaws, mental health issues, and emotions/moods. Both masks conceal different parts of me, and leaves me feeling 'not entirely myself' or 'not truly seen' at times.

Short answer. I'm not sure where I feel most like myself regarded Online or Offline.

As far as the other two questions

3. If my wildest kinkiest fantasies could all come true, I wouldn't be interested in those fantasies if it required me to sacrifice or risk close relationships I have with a few friends and family members now. Exciting sex doesn't feel worth my entire life.

4. I do prefer keeping my kinks and sexuality a secret. I don't want to expose my deepest naughty desires to people who are and will forever remain uninvolved in my sex life. That would be reserved for people I'm into romantically/sexually.

 

[SirSparky]

To the main question, 1. and 2.

I'm completely myself when I'm offline and alone. Especially when I'm alone and doing something creative like writing stories or music. But when it comes to Online vs Offline, it's hard to know. The mask I wear offline around friends and family hides more of my 'secrets' like kink, sexuality, and strong opinions, where as the mask I wear online hides more of my 'dysfunctions' like personality flaws, mental health issues, and emotions/moods. Both masks conceal different parts of me, and leaves me feeling 'not entirely myself' or 'not truly seen' at times.

Short answer. I'm not sure where I feel most like myself regarded Online or Offline.

As far as the other two questions

3. If my wildest kinkiest fantasies could all come true, I wouldn't be interested in those fantasies if it required me to sacrifice or risk close relationships I have with a few friends and family members now. Exciting sex doesn't feel worth my entire life.

4. I do prefer keeping my kinks and sexuality a secret. I don't want to expose my deepest naughty desires to people who are and will forever remain uninvolved in my sex life. That would be reserved for people I'm into romantically/sexually.

Well said