Obsession

LukkyKnight

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Once upon a time, in a land not very far from anywhere, there lived a diverse assortment of people in a bedroom community. There was no industry in their town, you see, no major employers, no mass transit system, none of the trappings of a big city. The people came and went on their various schedules, waving to each other as they passed, sitting in pubs and holding parties and the like, talking about everything from politics to the weather, from gossip about those not present to defend themselves against rumors to lofty philosophical concepts, and everything in between.

Being people, and human to the core, they sometimes took offense at something another had said; they sometimes teased each other; they flirted; they fought; they forgave; they formed fast friendships - all the things you'd expect of a community, and some you might not. They were generally curious to meet newcomers, and generally delighted when an old, familiar face returned after some hiatus. Some, of course, went to more trouble than others to quickly get to know the new arrivals, for it was an assortment of individuals all with their own styles, backgrounds, memories, and personal philosophies.

Many - many indeed - arrived bearing scars from their journeys, or their time spent in other communities. Even the young often showed signs of deep and abiding pain incurred elsewhere, so some were quite sullen, even belligerent. Life is not always gentle, but there were no guards around the community, and when drawn to the lights newcomers merely passed a sign which listed some very minimal rules {which can be distilled to three, for the purposes of this narrative: 1) Be an adult. 2) If it's not nice don't say it. 3) If it's not nice don't do it.} So, people came and went, some leaving quickly, others more inclined to settle there, depending on their needs and desires, and upon how closely they felt the community would meet those (though it must be said that not all knew what they were looking for.)

Unsurprisingly, some arrived full of bluster in spite of their scars, claiming to be somehow unique and special to such a degree that all those already present should accommodate them in every way. Naturally not all those present would choose to do so, and reactions to such imperious arrivals by posturing travellers ranged from bored yawns to cries for expulsion. Typically these were not true villains, but merely loud ruffians not practiced at integrating with existing social structures - yet sometimes they became so entrenched in the idea of maintaining the appearance they'd first projected that it was nigh unto impossible for them to be accepted, which variously confused or offended the nomadic ruffians, for they did tend to see the place as attractive and worthy of them.

The connundrum for the increasingly ostracized vagabonds at times reached the level of an obsession, "I'm coming in and you're going to deal with me, like it or not." Yet the louder they huffed and puffed the less accepted they became by the very community which so attacted them. Really, this isn't such a complex tale after all, you see. Really, this community was just like every other community. Really, if you want to be part of a group, you have to be part of the group.

Be an adult. If it's not nice, don't say it. If it's not nice don't do it. The other ways lead to a solitary, nomadic existence.
 
Well crap, Here I thought you set up a concession selling perfume..... ~laughing~

Nice story, good moral, that is provided one *wants* to fit in.
 
well lukky this is lovely and thank you for taking the time to write it.

I do so enjoy a good bitch session from time to time though so I can't commit 100% to the 'if it's not nice, don't say it' bit.
 
Why is there no spell checker on the submit button? Attractive needs an R.

peachykeen said:
I do so enjoy a good bitch session from time to time though so I can't commit 100% to the 'if it's not nice, don't say it' bit.
Nobody's perfect, pk, but unlike death, life's not an all-or-nothing situation - it's a world full of paths, some paved, some twisty, some taken less than others. You can go a distance down any one then come back as a rule, but when go too far you've gone too far.
 
Re: Why is there no spell checker on the submit button? Attractive needs an R.

LukkyKnight said:
when go too far you've gone too far.

Words to live by when you miss that highway exit, too. Can I make the part of my sig line?
 
This seemed to fit the thread, so I replicated it from another.

Actually posted by Hanns_Schmidt
Admitting your faults is the first step
If I can post it that grammatically mangled, you can do with it from there whatever you please, Rose.
 
Nah, I think it was too long to reach those who most need to understand this. They can't be bothered to read things even half so long as my first post in the thread, and I didn't include pictures, so I'm sure they wandered off if they even bothered to open this in the first place.

I need somebody who can edit/paraphrase this down by 70-80% I fear.
 
You know what lukky, if it was 3 sentences it still wouldn't make an impact on those who most need it. Not much would, really. Short of a tire iron to the side of the head, I mean.
 
If that is true, pk, there will never be peace in the middle east, the Irish will not cease killing each other, and what we call earth is, in fact, hell. I realize some are harder to reach than others, and a very select few are impossible to connect with, but I refuse to accept that no troll will ever change.

We just have to make it possible for them to not only do so, but to want to.
 
Very nice tale, Lukky. It should get bumped from time to time for the new arrivals.
 
~claps....bravo~


I sit in awe. You have always touched me with the way you speak so eloquently. Do you know that I have saved every email you've ever sent me, for this reason?



:rose:
 
No one has answered my question about a key term.

"Nice"

I have lost my bearings. The word confuses me. Somehow I mix up responsibility with it. Or honesty. In some riffucked way, I have managed to mix these other concepts into the idea of nice.

Like I am a "nice" guy or something.

So what is nice?
 
Hey, riff-mon

Nice for me...is that delicate balance of me...reduced to the point that I am legal for consumption.





200 proof can be a bit much for the taste buds:cool:
 
erosman said:
Hey, riff-mon

Nice for me...is that delicate balance of me...reduced to the point that I am legal for consumption.





200 proof can be a bit much for the taste buds:cool:


It is a balance isn't it? Like a juggling act?
 
Thanks, Lukky. Well done.

There are always community standards that are not legislated. It is sad when someone pushes to the point that rules have to made.

My heart goes out to Laurel and Manu, our benevolent queen and king, as they have been pushed excessively in the past couple of weeks.
 
juggling seems appropriate, riff.

I have been wrestling a lot lately with the balance of what I want...my happiness...or at least my own shot at what I believe is my happiness, and the opposite, which would be the happiness of others...particularly those who structured me into the foundation of their needs. In a perfect world, we could all be 200 proof, selfish, solitary assholes. But the world is not perfect, and relationships require compassionate and courageous negotiating, so that the win/win = a balance of me and you...or so it seems to me.

What about you riff? You seem pretty well balanced. Has hacky-sack taught you any lessons?



LK, I forgot to mention that I think if everyone here were as thoughtful as you before they posted their words...well..it'd be too good to be true.:cool:
 
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erosman said:
juggling seems appropriate, riff.

I have been wrestling a lot lately with the balance of what I want...my happiness...or at least my own shot at what I believe is my happiness, and the opposite, which would be the happiness of others...particularly those who structured me into the foundation of their needs. In a perfect world, we could all be 200 proof, selfish, solitary assholes. But the world is not perfect, and relationships require compassionate and courageous negotiating, so that the win/win = a balance of me and you...or so it seems to me.

What about you riff? You seem pretty well balanced. Has hacky-sack taught you any lessons?



LK, I forgot to mention that I think if everyone here were as thoughtful as you before they posted their words...well..it'd be too good to be true.:cool:

Very, very well said.
 
intrigued said:
~claps....bravo~
I sit in awe. You have always touched me with the way you speak so eloquently. Do you know that I have saved every email you've ever sent me, for this reason?
:rose:

Yet another reason to like you so much Connie. I have done the very same thing.
 
LukkyKnight, you have struck a cord. The above parable shows why the boisterous few will never overcome the many members that come here for the wit and intelligence of this community.
Thank you
 
Well, call me an idiot if you want, but it has taught me that keeping the legs limber is important if you want to play hackey well.

Cooperation and forgiveness make a hack.

Wait... something ain't right. Where's my therapist... I need her to remind me that "nice" people will shit on you.

See what is happening here? A downward spiral. LOL

I am talking shit. Sorry. All I can say is, "Hey, that sweet thing you got.... look again"
 
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