Nice guys DO sleep alone!

[Curtis71]

Not that I make getting laid my aim for the evening, maybe thats the problem. I'm too nice.

I pick her up, nice dinner (not too fancy just normal), to a pub for drinks and chatting with mutual friends, she leaves with a buddy to get coked up. I don't do that shit so I hung out with some friends for awhile before coming home to bed. This was all just last night.

I know, I know, I should find a better class of girl right? Well I didn't know what she was into.

I am reasonably good looking, I am a music producer, I can carry on a very good conversation and I know how to treat a woman. But, I don't do all the stupid "come on" crap. I don't want to talk a girl into sleeping with me, I want it to be her choice. I would never sleep with someone who was drunk, well not thefirst time anyway.

I don't want to be any woman's regret. I want her to wake up happy the next day. So I don't come on strong and I go home alone.

There is a movie out called "Nice Guys Sleep Alone". I strongly reccomend it, it is a very funny commentary on this subject.

I know there are other men out there who have this same complaint. And there are women out there who want someone like us nice guys. But "never the twain shall meet" I guess.

I am almost 30. I don't want to play high school games with women, if you like me - tell me, don't make me play 21 questions.

Sorry, just ranting.

 

[JazzManJim]

Join the club, my friend. There have been perhaps five threads i the past four or five days about this vary same subject.

I'm calling it the Literotica Nice Guy Rebellion.

And some of us are even trying to be less nice.

It's sad, actually. Though we may try, we won't be able to succeed. We'll slip back into our pathetic, trod-on ways. But maybe we'll learn from it and be even more assertive than we've been before.

Maybe we'll ascend to the lofty heights of the cockyboys!

Woooooo!!

 

[estevie]

where in the hell is that 'whats annoying you right now' thread?

Ok, let me just set the record straight...when a woman says you're a nice guy but....We really do think you are a nice guy...if we thought you were a dick, we would tell ya that, or at least I would. Its not that you aren't a nice guy, just not that woman's cup of tea, k? There are many reasons for this...sense of humor, how you treat small children and animals, etc...numerous factors come into play.

So, please, can we put this 'nice guys always finish last' shit to rest.

God, I'm such a bitch today!

*wanders off to play games*

 

[Curtis71]

Hmmmmm.......

Hey I think I dated you once.............

 

[estevie]

Re: Hmmmmm.......

Hey I think I dated you once.............

LOL

Honestly, I'm sorry...I'm in a very foul mood today.

Welcome to the board!

 

[Curtis71]

Thanks

No problem estevie, I am not normally this pitiful either. I just felt sorry for myself for 10 minutes or so. I'm over it now so it is fine with me if this one floats to the bottom.

.....off to be cocky now............

 

[Purple Haze]

I was going to say something.............but now I just want to ass-fuck estevie's avatar.

Never mind.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Curtis,


You are dating the wrong kind of women.
Sorry to hear about your " woes".

But I am sure you will bounce back and I am more then sure your " woman " will soon come around.

Patience , grasshopper.

I like " nice guys " ...

 

[Marxist]

This is the last time I'm weighing in on this subject because last time all the nice guys jumped on me. But here goes:

NICE GUYS ARE WIMPS, PUSSIES, AND UNWANTED BY THE VAST MAJORITY OF WOMEN

Would you put "nice guy" in a personals ad? It's weak and above all being nice is EXPECTED, not something to be congratulated for. Women want a little excitement. If they call you "nice" to your face you'd better go get an attitude adjustment.

 

[Curtis71]

fair enough

What then, should my attitude adjustment consist of? Should I become a dick? Conceited? Should I brag about my large cock make it clear I want to fuck? Or should i just treat them like I don't care one way or the other? Maybe...maybe I should buy a Harley and load up on tats, yeah...then I'll start selling coke and get laid all the time!

Hmmm....no, on second thought I'll just be me.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

Re: Re: Hmmmmm.......

LOL

Honestly, I'm sorry...I'm in a very foul mood today.

Welcome to the board!

woo hoo I'm not the onlyone...

I broke a phone today cause I kept getting a busy signal.

Being a Nice guy is a good thing Curtis Some times I don't like it, But I'd rather be the nice guy that people like being around then the dick they will do anything to get rid of no mater the cost.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Why is it assumed (generall by 'nice guys') that being 'nice' can't also mean being assertive? I've been with guys that were great... they treated me well, didn't kick my dogs or cats, made me chicken soup when I was sick, driven me to work when my car wouldn't start, and still felt totally comfortable calling me up and saying "wanna fuck?".

Being a good person and being open and honest about your sexual or emotional needs are not mutually exclusive.

 

[Curtis71]

I agree with you Fly, I would rather be nice than a dick.

"calling me up and saying "wanna fuck?". "

And pagancowgirl, that is probably where I fail, I never assume that they would say yes. I really could be more assertive than I am.

Tell you what, I'll try that approach soon and let you know the result.

 

[nasty]

Tell me about it. I'm CONTSTANTLY told I'm a nice guy, and, I've slept alone for 22 yrs.

 

[Ghost Dog]

This is the last time I'm weighing in on this subject because last time all the nice guys jumped on me.

To give a person one's opinion and correct his faults is an important thing. It is compassionate and comes first in matters of service. But the way of doing this is extremely difficult. To discover the good and bad points of a person is an easy thing, and to give an opinion concerning them is easy, too. For the most part, people think that they are being kind by saying the things that others find distasteful or difficult to say.

But if it is not received well, they think that there is nothing more to be done. This is completely worthless. It is the same as brining shame to a person by slandering him. It is nothing more than getting it off one's chest.

To give a person an opinion one must first judge well whether that person is of the disposition to receive it or not. One must become close with him and make sure that he continually trusts one's word. Approaching subjects that are dear to him, seek the best way to speak and to be well understood.

Judge the occasion, and determine whether it is better by letter or at the time of leave-taking. Praise his good points and use every device to encourage him, perhaps by talking about one's own faults without touching on his, but so that they will occur to him.

Have him receive this in the way that a man would drink water when his throat is dry, and it will be an opinion that will correct faults.

 

[Marxist]

Thank you for nicely summing up my argument in 12,000 words. And yes, we've all seen Ghost Dog. Aren't you late for your tai chi class?

 

[Curtis71]

Wait a minute...

If I am reading and understanding this dissertation correctly then I have faults which need to be corrected? and...If I feel I am fine as I am then I am "not receiving it well"? And I need someone to "help [me] receive it"?

Please tell me I misunderstood all that.

 

[nasty]

So, what are you saying? A woman wants a guy that constanly treats them like shit? Um...I wouldn't mind a girl that would mind...uh. Not going there.

 

[estevie]

I was going to say something.............but now I just want to ass-fuck estevie's avatar.

Never mind.

Ya know, we can take care of this so you quit loosing your train of thought!

 

[nasty]

I see how it is. PH comes swaggering out of nowhere, and, you forget the little people.

 

[Curtis71]

Who's little?

 

[estevie]

I see how it is. PH comes swaggering out of nowhere, and, you forget the little people.

LOL

I haven't forgotten about you, sweetness!

Since that is the second time he has posted that, I thought I would help him out with his concentration problem. Ya know, just to be helpful...though, I have to admit, I love the way he swaggers

 

[nasty]

That's fine. You can have PH. I'm movin on to SS ass.

 

[Purple Haze]

(applies generous amounts of lube to throbbing penis)

I'm hoping estevie forgets about everything soon.........

(places hands on estevies soft shoulders and slowly slides into her)

Oh God, this feels good......

(slapping noises)

Gee, your hair smells terrific!

 

[Renegade]

Would you put "nice guy" in a personals ad?

Hardkorebj does it all the time over in the personals section and I have the links to prove it. Would explain why most of his threads over there get no responces on the board. Other then maybe email, but I doubt he gets much of those either.