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His_good_girl
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Hi Hajar!
I just wanted to say hello and I have the same question! (LOL)
Looking forward to reading any responses!!
Jenny
I just wanted to say hello and I have the same question! (LOL)
Looking forward to reading any responses!!
Jenny
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Beg? Not that it ever worked for me...but i hear it works for some. 
Singularity
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Get Him To Read A Story Or Two
I was asked this very question by a young sub I have had an ongoing "mentoring" dialog with, whose boyfriend was treating her too gently and not using her as hard and rough as she wanted when she submitted to him.
I wrote a Lit story for her with the female character being someone in her situation, and she had the two of them read it together. From the feedback I got later, she was quite pleased with the results.
Here is a link to the story, if you want to take a look. http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=94753
Find something you like and can relate to (stories or pictures) and use it to help share your feelings and desires without feeling awkward about it. It can be a learning experience for both of you.
Singularity
I was asked this very question by a young sub I have had an ongoing "mentoring" dialog with, whose boyfriend was treating her too gently and not using her as hard and rough as she wanted when she submitted to him.
I wrote a Lit story for her with the female character being someone in her situation, and she had the two of them read it together. From the feedback I got later, she was quite pleased with the results.
Here is a link to the story, if you want to take a look. http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=94753
Find something you like and can relate to (stories or pictures) and use it to help share your feelings and desires without feeling awkward about it. It can be a learning experience for both of you.
Singularity
Hajar
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communication is no problem with us, it's just that he doesn't want to cause me pain or discomfort, which is wonderful when I just want to be made love to.
But when I want more, my body begging to be taken to limits, there's the problem.
But I'll try begging
Singularity thanks for the story.
But when I want more, my body begging to be taken to limits, there's the problem.
But I'll try begging
Singularity thanks for the story.
Daddyslilpet
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One of the things that worked for Master and I was to both complete a checklist like the one at www.soulshaven.com
We each sat down separately and completed our lists then were able to do a side by side comparison of them together. We found out that we both liked or had interest in the same things.
Good luck to you!
dixi
We each sat down separately and completed our lists then were able to do a side by side comparison of them together. We found out that we both liked or had interest in the same things.
Good luck to you!
dixi
hurtme
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I have always found helpful a simple request..."harder" or "hurt me"...lol, oddly enough that is where i got my name from, a bedmate pointed out that he always knew i was close to cumming when i said that...and he was the only one a actually said it too...he always obliged...lol
