Never to Have a Chance...

[whspr]

yesssssssss I did
and it hurt worse than any other hurt I have ever had.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Ally}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

That hurt gives us character...only adds to our personality...and the person we are deep inside...

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Ally}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

That hurt gives us character...only adds to our personality...and the person we are deep inside...

if the hurt I felt was equal to depth and personality,I then have the charm of 9000 people and am ten times deeper,lol


Hugs sweetie
it sounds stupid,trite and"yeah right" but it DOES get easier and better
and just when you least expect it,,"ooops upside your head" goes stupid cupid,,,

 

[whspr]

if the hurt I felt was equal to depth and personality,I then have the charm of 9000 people and am ten times deeper,lol


Hugs sweetie
it sounds stupid,trite and"yeah right" but it DOES get easier and better
and just when you least expect it,,"ooops upside your head" goes stupid cupid,,,

In my book, you do have that much character!!

I'm in agreement with you....sometimes, we have no intention of finding love...but it can find you...and that can be a beautiful thing

 

[alisonwunderlnd]

In my book, you do have that much character!!

I'm in agreement with you....sometimes, we have no intention of finding love...but it can find you...and that can be a beautiful thing

awwww
thanks,That was dear of you to say(your check is in the mail )
I wish things like this would never happen to anyone.My confusion as to WHY he did what he did was nearly equal to the hurt.Never will understand WHY he did what he did.I have my guesses,but
matters not anyway.What was done is done.
I'm sorry to learn this happened to you as well and I am always here if you want to talk.

 

[whspr]

awwww
thanks,That was dear of you to say(your check is in the mail )
I wish things like this would never happen to anyone.My confusion as to WHY he did what he did was nearly equal to the hurt.Never will understand WHY he did what he did.I have my guesses,but
matters not anyway.What was done is done.
I'm sorry to learn this happened to you as well and I am always here if you want to talk.

Thank you, sweet Ally...This thread was started a very long time ago. Although, this type of pain stays with you for a long time...I'm feeling much better about love these days... Like you said, never know when "stupid cupid" will strike...

 

[whspr]

Life...

I've been thinking alot about why things happen...

I'm so unsure of alot of it...

Why can't everyone just smile all the time?

Why does love feel so good but hurt so bad?

What if's...

Somedays, I wander around feeling lost ...wondering....so unsure of myself and this place we live...

If I had only one wish...it would be to see everyone happy and smiling...I'd even take all the pain...just to see that for even one day...

I just needed to ramble...

 

[Morrigu]

Life...

I've been thinking alot about why things happen...

I'm so unsure of alot of it...

Why can't everyone just smile all the time?

Why does love feel so good but hurt so bad?

What if's...

Somedays, I wander around feeling lost ...wondering....so unsure of myself and this place we live...

If I had only one wish...it would be to see everyone happy and smiling...I'd even take all the pain...just to see that for even one day...

I just needed to ramble...

A good ramble.................*hugs*

 

[whspr]

A good ramble.................*hugs*

{{{Morri}}}

You always know when to show up with a hug. Thanks, Sweetie.

 

[Cathleen]

Whspr, please remember you are a part of that 'everyone' for which you wish happiness.

You cannot take all the pain, if you did you'd not have the opportunity to do something you do so very well ~ to help and care about others who are in pain.

 

[whspr]

Whspr, please remember you are a part of that 'everyone' for which you wish happiness.

You cannot take all the pain, if you did you'd not have the opportunity to do something you do so very well ~ to help and care about others who are in pain.

Cate...it's the times I know I can't do a damn thing that hurts. I'm just having a rough time of it...caring and well...just caring....

{{{Cate}}}} you have always been a good friend......Thank you so much hon..

 

[Cathleen]

Those are difficult times - when we have no control. I remember years ago a friend said something like ...

At the times we think and feel "I don't have a prayer" is the time when prayer is the best thing we do have.

You're such a good woman, whspr, you care so deeply and so admireably.

 

[whspr]

Those are difficult times - when we have no control. I remember years ago a friend said something like ...

At the times we think and feel "I don't have a prayer" is the time when prayer is the best thing we do have.

You're such a good woman, whspr, you care so deeply and so admireably.

Your opinion of me ...means alot. I have always thought the same about you. Of course, you know that. You were a good friend to 69 and I.

 

[Cathleen]

I'm remembering a line from Frank Burns of MASH "It's nice to be nice to the nice."

Thank you.

 

[Succulent-one]

Have you ever met someone and things just really clicked?
You think this is the person who can change your life. You
fall in love and things are going perfect....

Then with one sentence, the whole thing changes. Without a
chance to really explain, he just backs up and says ...no can do.
You bare your soul to him...but he doesn't hear what you
really said.

I hope you never have to hear that....it hurts like hell. Maybe
the best thing to do would be....build up walls and don't let anyone close. This hurts too bad.

whspr

Oh, I know so well how that hurts. You cry your eyes dry and think you just want to give up on falling in love.....but don't. I just made up my mind that there had to be someone out there for me. And I had to kiss a lot of toads to find my prince. Just remember what was good about the relationship and learn from it. It will happen for yhour as well

 

[whspr]

Oh, I know so well how that hurts. You cry your eyes dry and think you just want to give up on falling in love.....but don't. I just made up my mind that there had to be someone out there for me. And I had to kiss a lot of toads to find my prince. Just remember what was good about the relationship and learn from it. It will happen for yhour as well

{{{SO}}}

Thank you. This was written a very long time ago. I now know love can be very good....or it can hurt like hell...for various reasons.

 

[SimpleGifts]

Why does love feel so good but hurt so bad?

I've wondered this often, having gone through the kind of experience you had. It's the kind of thing where you have to wonder whether it's better to have had a great love and lost it, and know that you may go the rest of your life without finding another...or whether it is better to go through life not knowing that such happiness can exist.

All I can say for sure is, I know I'm a better person, both for having that love and then going through the loss and surviving it. That entire relationship cycle showed me aspects of my character I didn't know existed. I think it is, in fact, the quintessential human experience...it defines our humanity and makes us understand why we have souls. As much as you may feel pain, you are part of a club that is quite exclusive and allows you to see the world in a new light...one where you know that love exists, even if it's not in your life right now.

The quote that gives me comfort at these times is from The Four Loves by C.S. Lewis:

To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket - safe, dark, motionless, airless - it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.

Love feels so good, and hurts so much, because the alternative is to live through life without any dynamics, always safe and always the same. Some people can be satisfied with that. I feel pity for them.

SG

 

[whspr]

I've wondered this often, having gone through the kind of experience you had. It's the kind of thing where you have to wonder whether it's better to have had a great love and lost it, and know that you may go the rest of your life without finding another...or whether it is better to go through life not knowing that such happiness can exist.

All I can say for sure is, I know I'm a better person, both for having that love and then going through the loss and surviving it. That entire relationship cycle showed me aspects of my character I didn't know existed. I think it is, in fact, the quintessential human experience...it defines our humanity and makes us understand why we have souls. As much as you may feel pain, you are part of a club that is quite exclusive and allows you to see the world in a new light...one where you know that love exists, even if it's not in your life right now.

The quote that gives me comfort at these times is from The Four Loves by C.S. Lewis:

To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket - safe, dark, motionless, airless - it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.

Love feels so good, and hurts so much, because the alternative is to live through life without any dynamics, always safe and always the same. Some people can be satisfied with that. I feel pity for them.

SG

{{{SG}}} All I can say is thank you. I have already decided to take a chance on love. I know I'm a better person when I give that part of me. That quote though will now always be one of my favorites.

 

[whspr]

Someday I hope I know why I screw up relationships...

Can it be that I'm too easy going ...too accessible...my heart is there ??

Guess I grow boring...maybe I'm not witty enough...not sexy enough...

I know I can be quiet...guess I shouldn't be....


Guess this is life...

We all must accept what it hands us....

 

[Morrigu]

Someday I hope I know why I screw up relationships...

Can it be that I'm too easy going ...too accessible...my heart is there ??

Guess I grow boring...maybe I'm not witty enough...not sexy enough...

I know I can be quiet...guess I shouldn't be....


Guess this is life...

We all must accept what it hands us....

Sweetie you have so much to give, you are witty and sexy and adorable and loving and 'screwing up' relationships with the wrong people is actually the best thing. You just need someone who fits you a little better

 

[sirgary]

Sweetie you have so much to give, you are witty and sexy and adorable and loving and 'screwing up' relationships with the wrong people is actually the best thing. You just need someone who fits you a little better

...ditto sweetie........and stay away from evil like me....

... ...

 

[whspr]

Sweetie you have so much to give, you are witty and sexy and adorable and loving and 'screwing up' relationships with the wrong people is actually the best thing. You just need someone who fits you a little better

{{{Morri}}} you know I love you!!

 

[Dumpling]

muahhhhhhhhhhhhh just visiting & maybe bump your Bum a little

 

[whspr]

muahhhhhhhhhhhhh just visiting & maybe bump your Bum a little

It's always a welcomed bump from you, Ling!!!

 

[wally2450]

I'm remembering a line from Frank Burns of MASH "It's nice to be nice to the nice."

Thank you.

That guy cracked me up and the original 'Mash' the movie is an all time favorite of mine. I agree with you wholeheartedly about prayer.

 

[whspr]

That guy cracked me up and the original 'Mash' the movie is an all time favorite of mine. I agree with you wholeheartedly about prayer.

She is a very wise and witty lady....
You have to love her!!!