Never to Have a Chance...

[whspr]

Have you ever met someone and things just really clicked?
You think this is the person who can change your life. You
fall in love and things are going perfect....

Then with one sentence, the whole thing changes. Without a
chance to really explain, he just backs up and says ...no can do.
You bare your soul to him...but he doesn't hear what you
really said.

I hope you never have to hear that....it hurts like hell. Maybe
the best thing to do would be....build up walls and don't let anyone close. This hurts too bad.

whspr

 

[MagicMan]

Just wondering now whspr......things can happen and do happen just be aware that you are amongst friends here

 

[whspr]

Thank you MagicMan...it feels awful to be lonely even in a crowd....

whspr

 

[Angelofsex]

Have you ever met someone and things just really clicked?
You think this is the person who can change your life. You
fall in love and things are going perfect....

Then with one sentence, the whole thing changes. Without a
chance to really explain, he just backs up and says ...no can do.
You bare your soul to him...but he doesn't hear what you
really said.

I hope you never have to hear that....it hurts like hell. Maybe
the best thing to do would be....build up walls and don't let anyone close. This hurts too bad.

whspr

whspr it is very easy to get hurt.....either in real life.....or online...you learn to trust, open your heart.....then just because you said something wrong that ends it all......I think sometimes it is good to have a wall up or a little coldness in your heart.

 

[whspr]

Angel...you might be right. I'm a giver...have been for as long as I can remember. I have to learn not to give my heart completely.
That would help.

whspr

and thanks hun...I appreciate your post.

 

[MagicMan]

Thank you MagicMan...it feels awful to be lonely even in a crowd....

whspr

Hey whspr call me MM like everyne else does.... lonliness is not so good, just be here and maybe things will work out for you

 

[whspr]

Hey whspr call me MM like everyne else does.... lonliness is not so good, just be here and maybe things will work out for you

Nice to meet you MM....and thank you for offering a hand of friendship my way....

whspr

 

[Angelofsex]

Angel...you might be right. I'm a giver...have been for as long as I can remember. I have to learn not to give my heart completely.
That would help.

whspr

and thanks hun...I appreciate your post.

Our heart comes out to fast....but seetheart you are not alone....I am here and MM.......((((((((whspr)))))))))))

 

[rosylady]

Re: Re: Never to Have a Chance...

whspr it is very easy to get hurt.....either in real life.....or online...you learn to trust, open your heart.....then just because you said something wrong that ends it all......I think sometimes it is good to have a wall up or a little coldness in your heart.

I agree with Angel, had this happen recently. I said the wrong thing and now the guy will only say hi. Oh well I have moved on now.

 

[whspr]

Angel girlie...I needed that hug tonight...thank you so much...

{{{{{{{{[angel}}}}}}}}

whspr

 

[Angelofsex]

Re: Re: Re: Never to Have a Chance...

I agree with Angel, had this happen recently. I said the wrong thing and now the guy will only say hi. Oh well I have moved on now.

Yes moving on is the best thing...not a easy one to do, but has to be done.

 

[Angelofsex]

Angel girlie...I needed that hug tonight...thank you so much...

{{{{{{{{[angel}}}}}}}}

whspr

Sometmes a hug helps a bit........more when it comes from a heart that has been hurt too........so hon I mean it....thank you for yours too.

 

[whspr]

You are right Rosy and Angel....thank you for helping....

whspr

 

[slowfingers1]

Maybe the best thing to do would be....build up walls and don't let anyone close. This hurts too bad.

whspr

Before I met the woman who most recently ripped my still beating heart out of my chest.. I did exactly what you suggested; I built the thickest tallest wall ever built around my heart. I didnt date or let anyone get close to me for 3 years. Believe me, that isnt the answer.. something inside of you dies.. dont do it..

If you guys clicked and he just walked away like that, I'd guess that there's something else wrong.. I know it sucks and nothing anyone says will make it feel better.. but ya, just try to move on, try not to blame yourself too much

Slowfingers

 

[1sexylady]

((((((((((((((((((( whspr )))))))))))))))))))))

I think we have all been there at one time or another.

Yes it hurts like hell to say goodby...but sometimes you just have to.
You have to do what is best for that person but mostly yourself. We are all here for you, hon.....so don't you worry.

 

[whspr]

Re: Re: Never to Have a Chance...

Before I met the woman who most recently ripped my still beating heart out of my chest.. I did exactly what you suggested; I built the thickest tallest wall ever built around my heart. I didnt date or let anyone get close to me for 3 years. Believe me, that isnt the answer.. something inside of you dies.. dont do it..

If you guys clicked and he just walked away like that, I'd guess that there's something else wrong.. I know it sucks and nothing anyone says will make it feel better.. but ya, just try to move on, try not to blame yourself too much

Slowfingers

Thank you Slowfingers. Those walls are hard not to put up. I'm going to try and get by this. I don't mean to make him sound insensitive because he isn't. It is a situation which is actually
hurting us both. He will still be my friend....he just can't offer
me more.

I hope some sweet thing is making you happy now....

soft kisses,
whspr

 

[whspr]

((((((((((((((((((( whspr )))))))))))))))))))))

I think we have all been there at one time or another.

Yes it hurts like hell to say goodby...but sometimes you just have to.
You have to do what is best for that person but mostly yourself. We are all here for you, hon.....so don't you worry.

{{{{{{{{{{{SexyOne}}}}}}}}}}}}

Hugs from my family....I should have known you would be here.

I do want his happiness...that is important to me. I'll get by.

soft kisses,
whspr

 

[1sexylady]

Re: Re: Re: Never to Have a Chance...

Thank you Slowfingers. Those walls are hard not to put up. I'm going to try and get by this. I don't mean to make him sound insensitive because he isn't. It is a situation which is actually
hurting us both. He will still be my friend....he just can't offer
me more.

I hope some sweet thing is making you happy now....

soft kisses,
whspr

whspr.....Friendship is important and if you were friends first you will be friends forever even if he is not within your hands. There is always the heart...

 

[whspr]

You are right Sis...and I made the decision his friendship means more to me than not having any kind of relationship....so I'll take what he offers...and I'll try to make the best of it....

soft kisses,
whspr

 

[slowfingers1]

Re: Re: Re: Never to Have a Chance...

Thank you Slowfingers. Those walls are hard not to put up. I'm going to try and get by this. I don't mean to make him sound insensitive because he isn't. It is a situation which is actually
hurting us both. He will still be my friend....he just can't offer
me more.

I hope some sweet thing is making you happy now....

soft kisses,
whspr

Thanks hun.. ya they're hard not to put up.. but believe me, they're even harder to tear down :/

Slowfingers

 

[whspr]

I'll keep that in mind when I feel them going up....

soft kisses,
whspr

 

[~OWLIE~]

hi..this thread is kinda sad...makes me think of the time when something like that happened to me...i was crushed..devastated..i knew that person was the one for me...that we would marry, but...things just did not work out...it took a very long time to get over it..but eventually i did and now am happily married and have 2 great children...hope you can see your way through also and go on with a happy life...huggggggggggggggs

 

[naughtygirl]

Whisper...I understand how you feel...except the man I fell in love with didnt even have the decency to give me one sentence. Inside, it felt like I died. There was no explanation for it...the day before he left, *he* reached for me, we kissed deeply, and told me how much he loved me....... and then *poof*...gone, with no explanation. That was particularly hard for me because he was the first man in quite a long time that I let myself go "emotionally" with.

So I started to put back up my walls...determined that I was not going to get into a relationship for quite some time...and then, well, then I got lucky enough to know SS. And I found myself falling in love with him quite unexpectedly. I fought it, tried to rationalize my way out of it...but the truth was I fell in love and so did he. And its been an amazing experience so far. We take it day by day, and talk! talk! talk! about my fears, his fears...and its so worth it.

I'm sorry you were hurt like that. But don't put the walls up again Whspr....be cautious, but dont put them up...you will never know what you might miss!

NG

 

[whspr]

Whisper...I understand how you feel...except the man I fell in love with didnt even have the decency to give me one sentence. Inside, it felt like I died. There was no explanation for it...the day before he left, *he* reached for me, we kissed deeply, and told me how much he loved me....... and then *poof*...gone, with no explanation. That was particularly hard for me because he was the first man in quite a long time that I let myself go "emotionally" with.

So I started to put back up my walls...determined that I was not going to get into a relationship for quite some time...and then, well, then I got lucky enough to know SS. And I found myself falling in love with him quite unexpectedly. I fought it, tried to rationalize my way out of it...but the truth was I fell in love and so did he. And its been an amazing experience so far. We take it day by day, and talk! talk! talk! about my fears, his fears...and its so worth it.

I'm sorry you were hurt like that. But don't put the walls up again Whspr....be cautious, but dont put them up...you will never know what you might miss!

NG

Thanks NG...I'm trying to keep those walls from getting too high.
I keep thinking the hurt will be less...but so far...it hasn't gone away any. Things get missed by me anyways...I hope it can't
get worse.

Hope you and SS find all the love you both deserve...

soft kisses,
whspr

 

[whspr]

hi..this thread is kinda sad...makes me think of the time when something like that happened to me...i was crushed..devastated..i knew that person was the one for me...that we would marry, but...things just did not work out...it took a very long time to get over it..but eventually i did and now am happily married and have 2 great children...hope you can see your way through also and go on with a happy life...huggggggggggggggs

thank you Owlie....
I'm sure time will heal me..but for now I'm feeling very rough...
but I think he is too....

<hugs>

whspr