need advice and a kick in the head about a 3some possibility

[sledgehammer]

Made alot of great friends during my time in literotica. Now I am at a point in life where I am confused cause life is a downer about some stuff, good about others, and I don't know who to talk to about this, so I'm spinning it out for whoever wants to play with it.

Situation:
22 male virgin in ontario, Canada. Developing an almost year old relationship with 19 year old virgin living on the U.S. East Coast. Sending of emails and cyber chat from close, caring stuff, to extremely erotic.

Long story short, recently started chatting to 40yr old married swinging woman (who looks dang hot) lving in U.S. Midwest who very much desires to have a 3some with myself and girl to demonstrate and experience and teach us all about sex and love making. gf and i are extremely curious, but don't know.

what should we do? what are the dangers? how would we keep ourselves safe, out of jail, alive, healty and happy? any comments appreciated. its nothing that is going to happen tomorrow or even next month, but PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE help us sort this out.

 

[sledgehammer]

i should alos point out that there is nothing definate and that competing bids by anyone with other scenarios, or more local (southern ontario) proximity should also be tendered and will be thouroughly reviewed by the two of us.

 

[StarBound]

uhm..dangers: someone isnt who they say they are, isnt as old, etc...make sure you've met them beforehand to be sure everyone is of consenting age and all in agreement of activities..being in a lawyer family i like to get some sort of documentation of everyone agreeing that the activities were consentual and all that mumbo-jumbo...
disease of course..protect yourself and others.
hurt feelings can be a factor. threesomes get confusing if you dont keep communication lines open and very active.

 

[Guest]

The Pros and Cons of Threesomes.

First off, I have to ask, have you and your girlfriend ever met offline yet? If not, I would start there. Before you consider inviting a third, (fourth, fifth, whatever) to the bedroom, you two need some alone time in the flesh! New(er) relationships can be scary enough without the added stress of other people. Do you two live close enough that meeting offline can be done frequently?

Like StarBound said, it is wise to meet someone in a non sexual manner/atmosphere before actually engaging in anything sexual with them. What if you discover you're not really attracted to them? What if you change your mind and do not/cannot go through with it? What if the "lady" was a child or an old man? There are many things to consider here.

Some ways to get to know someone/gain trust from someone would be to set up a private chat room where all three of you can go to talk all at once. It's easier to talk "live" where all three of you can be together as assposed to corresponding via e-mail or one on one in IMs.

Something else you may wish to consider would be the geographical distance between the two of you and this woman. After all, someone has to travel that! lol

One last thing...my personal views on threesomes (since I have been in both MMF and FFM ones). Jealousy is human nature. You do everything you can to avoid it, but it happens. I think, the deeper you feel for someone, the more you love them, the more jealous you could be in a threesome. (I have never been in a threesome with someone I have actually been dating...someone I had been serious about.)

Whatever you two choose, I wish the best for you both. Good luck. Have fun. Play safe.


~Linds