My Way vs. the GP

[MsWorthy]

Do you find that having control at home makes it more difficult to deal with the rudeness and lack of consideration in the *world at large*?

Since your home is your castle and you have created an atmosphere of peace and respect (if you have), as you like it, do you find that it is even more difficult to deal with the *crappers* in life [you know the ones, those people who see insult/attack/negativity in life in general, and spend most of their time trying to *give it* as good as they (imagine) it is *dished out* to them]?

Or

Do you find that because you have it so pleasant and peaceful at home, that the negative/hostile ones in life are easier to ignore?



~have I created this thread before and just can't find it?~

 

[A Desert Rose]

MOST days, I am able to ignore mean people. SOME days they do get under my skin. (I think some of that depends on hormones, lol)

I believe, in my case at least, if you are basically happy in the skin you are in, the rest of the world will respond to you in a happy manner, too. And those who do not, have the problem.

Rose

 

[artful]

Do you find that having control at home makes it more difficult to deal with the rudeness and lack of consideration in the *world at large*?

Since your home is your castle and you have created an atmosphere of peace and respect (if you have), as you like it, do you find that it is even more difficult to deal with the *crappers* in life [you know the ones, those people who see insult/attack/negativity in life in general, and spend most of their time trying to *give it* as good as they (imagine) it is *dished out* to them]?

Or

Do you find that because you have it so pleasant and peaceful at home, that the negative/hostile ones in life are easier to ignore?

Having had my HOME in a WIDE range of atmospheres, I have not found any difference in how I treat people, to any recognisable degree.

I am a CONTROL freak though, and I pride myself in the ability to not only control a sub, in how I choose, but also in how I control MYSELF.

 

[MsWorthy]

Re: Re: My Way vs. the GP

Having had my HOME in a WIDE range of atmospheres, I have not found any difference in how I treat people, to any recognisable degree.

I am a CONTROL freak though, and I pride myself in the ability to not only control a sub, in how I choose, but also in how I control MYSELF.

I understand and agree, Art, but I was curious about whether having your home life to your liking makes is more difficult or easier for you to do this. Not that you actually treat people any differently (I would hope that you treat others with respect even when you are annoyed with them) but whether is it more taxing to do so because you are accustomed to being treated with respect at home?

 

[PlayDoe]

Originally posted by MsWorthy
"Do you find that having control at home makes it more difficult to deal with the rudeness and lack of consideration in the *world at large*?"

I would have to answer "no" on this. Things haven't change in regard to my view of the world with respect to BDSM. That there are mean spirited people in this world, is something that can't be denied. I've learned over the years that there are two ways to deal with them:

1) Ignore them
2) Pay attention to them. In which case I end up or somebody else ends up getting very upset.

My BDSM lifestyle has not affected this.

"Do you find that because you have it so pleasant and peaceful at home, that the negative/hostile ones in life are easier to ignore?"

For me, the answer to this would be yes because I try to create the peace to balance my life. The point is, I am directly aware of why I am doing this which is to offset the negativity.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Do you find that because you have it so pleasant and peaceful at home, that the negative/hostile ones in life are easier to ignore?

If one is happy in one's personal life (at home) and therefore in one's heart and mind, I think it is easier to deal with the negatives in the outside world, whether those negatives are people or situations.

Rose

 

[artful]

Re: Re: Re: My Way vs. the GP

I understand and agree, Art, but I was curious about whether having your home life to your liking makes is more difficult or easier for you to do this. Not that you actually treat people any differently (I would hope that you treat others with respect even when you are annoyed with them) but whether is it more taxing to do so because you are accustomed to being treated with respect at home?

Having had my HOME in a WIDE range of atmospheres, I have
not found any difference in how I treat people, to any
recognisable degree.

I thought I answered?-No more easier or difficult for me, and it makes no DIFFERENCE whether they are in my opinion,...crappy OR nice.