Mostly straight woman has questions for you delicious gay and bi men out there.

[AllAboutEva]

I'm writing my first gay romance and want my story to be fairly realistic. I don't know any openly gay or bi men IRL, so I hope some of you here will be generous enough to entertain some of my questions.

One question I have relates to porn, both gay and straight. I don't particularly enjoy watching men come on their partner, but it is so pervasive in porn that I must assume that men like it. They like coming on their partner, having their partner come on them, and watching this activity. Please, can you tell me what's going through your head? LOL, I mean the one on your shoulders!

 

[Stella_Omega]

Guys come on each other in porn because that's the only way you can see that they've come-- in porn. You, however, will be able to make it clear by means of your writing. Unless you want one of your guys to love coming on his boyfriend as a thing, don't worry about it.

here's an old but excellent website http://www.squidge.org/~minotaur/classic/eroc.html for the particulars of gay sexuality-- written by a gay man, for women writers.

The emotional side, however-- that's tough for women to get right. We tend to write our men more emotional, more sensitive to each other's moods then men usually are. As it happens, many gay men prefer to read that way-- just don't make it over the top. Men don't burst into tears, they sniffle.

 

[AllAboutEva]

Thank you, Stella! I will be checking that website out.

That's not really the *only* way to know the man is coming or came. There's always my personal preference, the cream pie. I've found a particular video that shows a series of cream pies, with extreme closeups of their genitals while the man's cock twitches as he comes. I find it utterly fascinating and a huge turn-on.

I imagine that if I were a man, I'd enjoy coming *inside* my partner more than *on* him or her. Why it would make a difference, I'm not sure. Is it more intimate? Is it a way of laying your claim on your lover? I dunno.

I guess we do have to mix it up some, though.

Reading these threads about guys getting each other off is giving me a serious case of penis envy.

 

[BiTodd]

Please help me find the video you mentioned.

 

[Little Bird]

Well, I havn't been with a men yet, but it has to go somewhere.

I guess "pulling out" is really mostly for porn. Unless one of them gets a real kick out of it for being kinky, there's really no reason to do it. But there seems to be a reasonable enough number of heterosexual couples who get something out of it too, so why not gay couples as well?

And if they are using hands or mouths and don't want to swallow (again, enough heterosexual couples who are just like that), you don't want to have it all on the bedsheets or the furniture, or who knows where it ends up. So getting it on someones chest or stomach, or back is quite a reasonable solution and probably quite erotic for most as well. So why not?

 

[Chrissi]

I'm writing my first gay romance and want my story to be fairly realistic. I don't know any openly gay or bi men IRL, so I hope some of you here will be generous enough to entertain some of my questions.

One question I have relates to porn, both gay and straight. I don't particularly enjoy watching men come on their partner, but it is so pervasive in porn that I must assume that men like it. They like coming on their partner, having their partner come on them, and watching this activity. Please, can you tell me what's going through your head? LOL, I mean the one on your shoulders!

Haha, okay, like has been said, it is mostly a porn thing.

In real life, gay men who bareback and like cum, absolutely, 110%, prefer it in them. Either in his ass or in his mouth or down his throat. Personally I want (need) my partner to either cum in my ass or mouth - or both. I love, love, love the taste of cum, I love the feel of it in my mouth, and I especially love how the aftertaste stays for hours. I love having my partner cum in my mouth in the morning or afternoon, then spending the next several hours with his taste in my mouth.
Even when using condoms, anal sex is much more pleasant for the top, when he releases in a nice warm hole.

True, some guys like to be cummed on. On their face or head, or whatever. Hell, I have even been drenched in cum by a couple of guys, but it sorta, just runs off you, or worse gets in your eye or nose, and to me at least, if I am going to work so hard to get a guy to cum: I want my reward!

Plus, having your lover cum in you, is a very intimate act. It can be a very deep statement of trust and love.

As for your story, write from your heart. Some exceptionally romantic gay stories are authored by women! It's not always the raw sex - although that can be sizzling - it's just as much about the buildup. I love a great romance, and have been known to shed a tear or ten at some of the better ones. My bf loves it when I get all cuddly and touchy from reading a good story in bed. ( me too

 

[Chrissi]

Guys come on each other in porn because that's the only way you can see that they've come-- in porn. You, however, will be able to make it clear by means of your writing. Unless you want one of your guys to love coming on his boyfriend as a thing, don't worry about it.

here's an old but excellent website http://www.squidge.org/~minotaur/classic/eroc.html for the particulars of gay sexuality-- written by a gay man, for women writers.

The emotional side, however-- that's tough for women to get right. We tend to write our men more emotional, more sensitive to each other's moods then men usually are. As it happens, many gay men prefer to read that way-- just don't make it over the top. Men don't burst into tears, they sniffle.

Stella, I didn't read your post until after I posted to the OP. LMAO. You are so right! We don't romance the way women write, but oh to be romanced like that, that's why I love romance stories. It's the fantasy, the dream. The ohhhhh, how sweet is he. . And I do sniffle! I am such a sap sometimes, I get teary eyed at the movies too.

 

[AllAboutEva]

Wonderful responses!!!

I've gotten some great responses both here and in PM's, and ack! I can't keep up! For now, I'm sending out a quick thank you, and I will respond either later tonight or tomorrow. Thanks so much! You're all simply wonderful!

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[nakedplay]

When I am watching porn I love to see that hot load of cum spraying out. It makes me hard thinking of what I would be doing with that hard cock. I also have a fantasy of having cocks all around me jerking off all over me.

But in real life I want to cum deep inside the guy or lady I am with.

 

[AllAboutEva]

it has to go somewhere.

You are absolutely right!

 

[AllAboutEva]

We don't romance the way women write, but oh to be romanced like that, that's why I love romance stories. It's the fantasy, the dream. The ohhhhh, how sweet is he. . And I do sniffle! I am such a sap sometimes, I get teary eyed at the movies too.

I love it. I was actually surprised to learn that so many men (of whatever orientation) enjoy reading romance.

 

[AllAboutEva]

When I am watching porn I love to see that hot load of cum spraying out. It makes me hard thinking of what I would be doing with that hard cock. I also have a fantasy of having cocks all around me jerking off all over me.

But in real life I want to cum deep inside the guy or lady I am with.

Do you think it just boils down to personal preference? Because strange as it may seem, I think I understand what you are saying. I don't know why certain things ring my bell, I just know that they do. For instance, in porn:

1) I like watching a guy or girl being forced to deepthroat, but in a gangbang, I don't like for the cumslut to have his or her mouth full of cock while he or she is being fucked in other holes. This is because I like to hear her or him grunt and groan. However, I don't like to hear him or her talk. I can't stand listening to "Fuck me, baby!" or whatever. Repeated, breathless "yeah's" are okay.

2) I like watching the bottom come on his own belly while the top fucks his ass. I don't like for the top to come on the bottom, though. I want him to come in, or at least on, his ass. I do, however, like to watch a solo man jerk himself off, and I'm always impressed when his cum shoots a long distance.

But like you, IRL, I prefer my dh to come deep inside me, and while I can't feel a condom, I always hated them. I was so glad when I got my tubes tied and we never had to worry about them again. I like the feel of his cum inside me.

I need checklist porn. Kind of like when I shop at Home Depot online.

 

[klippert]

coming from a bi-guy.... When I was enjoying sex with another man... I most preferred him cumming on me....why...because I thought it was and still is hot. sort of a waste of all that wonderful jizz... On my chest, face, cock & Balls, back or butt...I really liked seeing it shot out.... on me or me cumming him.

I like my stories, man on man, to have some female interest, wife, gf watching. catching through a window...but finding this is a complete turn on. I'm not one for the long drawn out huggy feely romance storied... but, to each there own.

best of luck

 

[haurni]

I'd rather swallow or have a guy cum inside me than on me. That being said, if I were to fulfil my fantasy of having several guys at once, some would have no choice. With a woman I also prefer to cum inside her - breastfucking is an occasional variation I don't mind but generally it's much more pleasurable to be inside during orgasm.

 

[raffi_sandoval]

Do you think it just boils down to personal preference? Because strange as it may seem, I think I understand what you are saying. I don't know why certain things ring my bell, I just know that they do. For instance, in porn:

1) I like watching a guy or girl being forced to deepthroat, but in a gangbang, I don't like for the cumslut to have his or her mouth full of cock while he or she is being fucked in other holes. This is because I like to hear her or him grunt and groan. However, I don't like to hear him or her talk. I can't stand listening to "Fuck me, baby!" or whatever. Repeated, breathless "yeah's" are okay.

2) I like watching the bottom come on his own belly while the top fucks his ass. I don't like for the top to come on the bottom, though. I want him to come in, or at least on, his ass. I do, however, like to watch a solo man jerk himself off, and I'm always impressed when his cum shoots a long distance.

But like you, IRL, I prefer my dh to come deep inside me, and while I can't feel a condom, I always hated them. I was so glad when I got my tubes tied and we never had to worry about them again. I like the feel of his cum inside me.

I need checklist porn. Kind of like when I shop at Home Depot online.

I really appreciate your well thought out responses and your honesty here. Plus what you're discussing is extremely HOT.

 

[t1m1d1]

I'm writing my first gay romance and want my story to be fairly realistic. I don't know any openly gay or bi men IRL, so I hope some of you here will be generous enough to entertain some of my questions.

One question I have relates to porn, both gay and straight. I don't particularly enjoy watching men come on their partner, but it is so pervasive in porn that I must assume that men like it. They like coming on their partner, having their partner come on them, and watching this activity. Please, can you tell me what's going through your head? LOL, I mean the one on your shoulders!

Hi AllaboutEva,

I get such a rush , such joy from my partner cumming on me , particularly my face / mouth.... It is the ultimate submission for me ..... Proves my desperate need to please and submit to my partner. . I don't know how other s feel ?

 

[priapusone]

yes i love the hot cum shooting and covering me!