"Are you still bi?"

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My gay friend with benefits asked me this question last week. We were basking in the afterglow of hot anal sex and his cum was leaking out of my asshole.

"Of course I'm still bi! Why would you ask me that?" I replied. We frequently discussed sex and our other sexual partners, usually after he had cum in my ass or mouth and we were waiting for him to get hard again. This question was a little deeper than the usual conversations we engaged in. He's not really a deep-thinker.

"You're more gay than I am," he answered with a laugh.

When I asked him to explain further, he said I loved sucking cock and getting fucked in the ass, I had multiple partners with cocks, and even my girlfriend has a cock. When we're out together we frequently point out men we'd like to fuck but I had never pointed out a woman I'd like to fuck. When we're with a group of other males at a bath house or group party, I'm always the first to offer my ass or mouth to the other males present and I always accommodate everyone who's interested. And the last thing he said was "You don't even talk about pussy anymore. When was the last time you had sex with a woman?"

I offered the feeble explanation that just because I liked cock, it didn't mean I wasn't still attracted to women. After all, I had gone almost 20 years without cock when I was married, and I had still considered myself bi during that period of my life. But it made me think.

It turns out, I hadn't had sex with a biological female in just over a year. Before that, I had fairly regular sexual relations with numerous females. Usually when I was travelling around Asia, I mostly had sex with Ladyboys and the occasional gay male, but on almost every single trip I would have sex with at least one female. I can't really explain why I stopped, but I definitely had.

This was last Wednesday. After he left, I packed my bags for a short-notice business trip to Japan, leaving the following morning. Sometime during the night, I resolved to have sex with a Japanese female at some point during the two weeks I would be in Tokyo. Thursday night I had sex with a beautiful New Half (the Japanese term for Ladyboy) escort, and Friday I had a threesome with two lovely New Half escorts. Saturday I tried to arrange a short-notice date with my favorite New Half escort, but she was only available for an hour in the early evening. The location of my hotel made it impossible for me to get there by the appointment start time, but we spent a lovely 45 minutes together, and I secured appointment times with her for next weekend.

It was still early when I arrived back at my hotel, so I decided to engage the services of a female escort. I had been thinking about my gay lover's question and decided the best way to answer it was to have sex with a woman and see if the old attraction was still as strong. I found a service nearby with escorts available for the night and quickly made the arrangements. I had a quick shower, and only had to wait a few minutes for her to arrive. When I opened the door I knew without a doubt that I still loved women just as much as men. She was gorgeous, 26 years old, larger breasts than I usually prefer but it didn't take long to fully appreciate them, an incredible ass, long straight black hair, and a lovely smile. Her skin was absolutely flawless. When she was naked a few minutes later, I fell in love with her hairy bush (which I had requested) and her perfect body. We kissed for a few minutes, and she really got into it. I played with her large breasts and sucked on her big nipples. When I slid a finger into her pussy she was really wet. When I dipped my tongue into her wet pussy for the first time I knew that I could never stop having sex with women. I love eating pussy! She had a couple of intense orgasms while I ate her pussy.

I was incredibly horny (I hadn't cum when I was with my New Half earlier), but I spent quite a bit of time pleasuring her. After eating her pussy, I rimmed her perfect asshole, then ate her pussy some more. I fucked her for the first time about two hours after she arrived. Then we went into the bathroom and she gave me the first of two golden showers, and then I ate her pussy again and rimmed her asshole. She sucked my flaccid cock until it was erect, then rimmed my ass while stroking my cock and balls. We showered together and went back out to the bed. We made out some more while I fingered her pussy and asshole, and then I sucked on her lovely nipples some more. After giving her another orgasm eating her pussy, I rimmed her again, and then fucked her in the ass doggy style and then reverse cowgirl. When I was getting close to orgasm I had her turn around, remove my condom, and suck my cock including exquisite deepthroat until I came down her throat. Afterwards we slept for a couple of hours, and then I woke her up eating her pussy again. After another golden shower in the bathroom, we showered together, cleaning each other very thoroughly, and then back in the bedroom we pleasured each other orally and then I fucked her one last time. After cleaning up, she kissed me and left. I gave her a very large tip.

The eight hours we spent together was very expensive. The golden showers, rimming, anal sex, and cum in mouth were all extras. But she was worth every Yen. I called my gay lover and told him all about it, and he laughed and said "I take it back. You're definitely not as gay as me (he's never been with a female) and it certainly seems like you're still bi."
I definitely am!
 
My gay friend with benefits asked me this question last week. We were basking in the afterglow of hot anal sex and his cum was leaking out of my asshole.

"Of course I'm still bi! Why would you ask me that?" I replied. We frequently discussed sex and our other sexual partners, usually after he had cum in my ass or mouth and we were waiting for him to get hard again. This question was a little deeper than the usual conversations we engaged in. He's not really a deep-thinker.

"You're more gay than I am," he answered with a laugh.

When I asked him to explain further, he said I loved sucking cock and getting fucked in the ass, I had multiple partners with cocks, and even my girlfriend has a cock. When we're out together we frequently point out men we'd like to fuck but I had never pointed out a woman I'd like to fuck. When we're with a group of other males at a bath house or group party, I'm always the first to offer my ass or mouth to the other males present and I always accommodate everyone who's interested. And the last thing he said was "You don't even talk about pussy anymore. When was the last time you had sex with a woman?"

I offered the feeble explanation that just because I liked cock, it didn't mean I wasn't still attracted to women. After all, I had gone almost 20 years without cock when I was married, and I had still considered myself bi during that period of my life. But it made me think.

It turns out, I hadn't had sex with a biological female in just over a year. Before that, I had fairly regular sexual relations with numerous females. Usually when I was travelling around Asia, I mostly had sex with Ladyboys and the occasional gay male, but on almost every single trip I would have sex with at least one female. I can't really explain why I stopped, but I definitely had.

This was last Wednesday. After he left, I packed my bags for a short-notice business trip to Japan, leaving the following morning. Sometime during the night, I resolved to have sex with a Japanese female at some point during the two weeks I would be in Tokyo. Thursday night I had sex with a beautiful New Half (the Japanese term for Ladyboy) escort, and Friday I had a threesome with two lovely New Half escorts. Saturday I tried to arrange a short-notice date with my favorite New Half escort, but she was only available for an hour in the early evening. The location of my hotel made it impossible for me to get there by the appointment start time, but we spent a lovely 45 minutes together, and I secured appointment times with her for next weekend.

It was still early when I arrived back at my hotel, so I decided to engage the services of a female escort. I had been thinking about my gay lover's question and decided the best way to answer it was to have sex with a woman and see if the old attraction was still as strong. I found a service nearby with escorts available for the night and quickly made the arrangements. I had a quick shower, and only had to wait a few minutes for her to arrive. When I opened the door I knew without a doubt that I still loved women just as much as men. She was gorgeous, 26 years old, larger breasts than I usually prefer but it didn't take long to fully appreciate them, an incredible ass, long straight black hair, and a lovely smile. Her skin was absolutely flawless. When she was naked a few minutes later, I fell in love with her hairy bush (which I had requested) and her perfect body. We kissed for a few minutes, and she really got into it. I played with her large breasts and sucked on her big nipples. When I slid a finger into her pussy she was really wet. When I dipped my tongue into her wet pussy for the first time I knew that I could never stop having sex with women. I love eating pussy! She had a couple of intense orgasms while I ate her pussy.

I was incredibly horny (I hadn't cum when I was with my New Half earlier), but I spent quite a bit of time pleasuring her. After eating her pussy, I rimmed her perfect asshole, then ate her pussy some more. I fucked her for the first time about two hours after she arrived. Then we went into the bathroom and she gave me the first of two golden showers, and then I ate her pussy again and rimmed her asshole. She sucked my flaccid cock until it was erect, then rimmed my ass while stroking my cock and balls. We showered together and went back out to the bed. We made out some more while I fingered her pussy and asshole, and then I sucked on her lovely nipples some more. After giving her another orgasm eating her pussy, I rimmed her again, and then fucked her in the ass doggy style and then reverse cowgirl. When I was getting close to orgasm I had her turn around, remove my condom, and suck my cock including exquisite deepthroat until I came down her throat. Afterwards we slept for a couple of hours, and then I woke her up eating her pussy again. After another golden shower in the bathroom, we showered together, cleaning each other very thoroughly, and then back in the bedroom we pleasured each other orally and then I fucked her one last time. After cleaning up, she kissed me and left. I gave her a very large tip.

The eight hours we spent together was very expensive. The golden showers, rimming, anal sex, and cum in mouth were all extras. But she was worth every Yen. I called my gay lover and told him all about it, and he laughed and said "I take it back. You're definitely not as gay as me (he's never been with a female) and it certainly seems like you're still bi."
I definitely am!
It sounds like you had a wonderful experience with this woman.

For myself, I would never say never but I am fairly certain that I will never have sex with a man. Assuming I was single again, I would look for another trans partner who likes to top. For me being a bottom is the most satisfying kind of sex so I doubt I would ever look for sex with a cisgender woman again in my life. You never know though.
 
My gay friend with benefits asked me this question last week. We were basking in the afterglow of hot anal sex and his cum was leaking out of my asshole.

"Of course I'm still bi! Why would you ask me that?" I replied. We frequently discussed sex and our other sexual partners, usually after he had cum in my ass or mouth and we were waiting for him to get hard again. This question was a little deeper than the usual conversations we engaged in. He's not really a deep-thinker.

"You're more gay than I am," he answered with a laugh.

When I asked him to explain further, he said I loved sucking cock and getting fucked in the ass, I had multiple partners with cocks, and even my girlfriend has a cock. When we're out together we frequently point out men we'd like to fuck but I had never pointed out a woman I'd like to fuck. When we're with a group of other males at a bath house or group party, I'm always the first to offer my ass or mouth to the other males present and I always accommodate everyone who's interested. And the last thing he said was "You don't even talk about pussy anymore. When was the last time you had sex with a woman?"

I offered the feeble explanation that just because I liked cock, it didn't mean I wasn't still attracted to women. After all, I had gone almost 20 years without cock when I was married, and I had still considered myself bi during that period of my life. But it made me think.

It turns out, I hadn't had sex with a biological female in just over a year. Before that, I had fairly regular sexual relations with numerous females. Usually when I was travelling around Asia, I mostly had sex with Ladyboys and the occasional gay male, but on almost every single trip I would have sex with at least one female. I can't really explain why I stopped, but I definitely had.

This was last Wednesday. After he left, I packed my bags for a short-notice business trip to Japan, leaving the following morning. Sometime during the night, I resolved to have sex with a Japanese female at some point during the two weeks I would be in Tokyo. Thursday night I had sex with a beautiful New Half (the Japanese term for Ladyboy) escort, and Friday I had a threesome with two lovely New Half escorts. Saturday I tried to arrange a short-notice date with my favorite New Half escort, but she was only available for an hour in the early evening. The location of my hotel made it impossible for me to get there by the appointment start time, but we spent a lovely 45 minutes together, and I secured appointment times with her for next weekend.

It was still early when I arrived back at my hotel, so I decided to engage the services of a female escort. I had been thinking about my gay lover's question and decided the best way to answer it was to have sex with a woman and see if the old attraction was still as strong. I found a service nearby with escorts available for the night and quickly made the arrangements. I had a quick shower, and only had to wait a few minutes for her to arrive. When I opened the door I knew without a doubt that I still loved women just as much as men. She was gorgeous, 26 years old, larger breasts than I usually prefer but it didn't take long to fully appreciate them, an incredible ass, long straight black hair, and a lovely smile. Her skin was absolutely flawless. When she was naked a few minutes later, I fell in love with her hairy bush (which I had requested) and her perfect body. We kissed for a few minutes, and she really got into it. I played with her large breasts and sucked on her big nipples. When I slid a finger into her pussy she was really wet. When I dipped my tongue into her wet pussy for the first time I knew that I could never stop having sex with women. I love eating pussy! She had a couple of intense orgasms while I ate her pussy.

I was incredibly horny (I hadn't cum when I was with my New Half earlier), but I spent quite a bit of time pleasuring her. After eating her pussy, I rimmed her perfect asshole, then ate her pussy some more. I fucked her for the first time about two hours after she arrived. Then we went into the bathroom and she gave me the first of two golden showers, and then I ate her pussy again and rimmed her asshole. She sucked my flaccid cock until it was erect, then rimmed my ass while stroking my cock and balls. We showered together and went back out to the bed. We made out some more while I fingered her pussy and asshole, and then I sucked on her lovely nipples some more. After giving her another orgasm eating her pussy, I rimmed her again, and then fucked her in the ass doggy style and then reverse cowgirl. When I was getting close to orgasm I had her turn around, remove my condom, and suck my cock including exquisite deepthroat until I came down her throat. Afterwards we slept for a couple of hours, and then I woke her up eating her pussy again. After another golden shower in the bathroom, we showered together, cleaning each other very thoroughly, and then back in the bedroom we pleasured each other orally and then I fucked her one last time. After cleaning up, she kissed me and left. I gave her a very large tip.

The eight hours we spent together was very expensive. The golden showers, rimming, anal sex, and cum in mouth were all extras. But she was worth every Yen. I called my gay lover and told him all about it, and he laughed and said "I take it back. You're definitely not as gay as me (he's never been with a female) and it certainly seems like you're still bi."
I definitely am!
I love being with a woman and still find men sexually exciting. I talk more about being with a man then a woman cause most with women stories have been told.

I have never "dated" a man just had hook ups but if the right one came along I would try the dating part.
 
Bi male. Total bottom with men.

Love women.

Not necessarily attracted to men. Need dominate men to use me for their pleasure. Being submissive to another man brings balance to my alpha side with women.
I am about the same......dating a sub sissy at present.
 
Why do you think that's true?
Being exclusive can get complicated. Occasional hookups fill the temporary.

I have had tops that would fuck me and I would not hear from them for months until they had the need for a bottom. I really I don’t need the baggage of an emotional relationship either. Would like to find a dom top that needs a tight hole to fuck every week. Fuck me. Use me. Call me next week. Need to be dominated as a balance to my regular alpha life.
 
It sounds like you had a wonderful experience with this woman.

For myself, I would never say never but I am fairly certain that I will never have sex with a man. Assuming I was single again, I would look for another trans partner who likes to top. For me being a bottom is the most satisfying kind of sex so I doubt I would ever look for sex with a cisgender woman again in my life. You never know though.

I would say “never say never” is probably the best approach to sexual orientation, activity and desire. These things often change with the passage of time. When I was in my teens, twenties and the first half of my thirties, I would have also said that I would never have sex with a man. By the time I was in my mid-forties I was starting to have a gay fantasies. I mostly watched gay porn and that was the central focus of my whacking activities, although I occasionally still fantasized about lesbians and transgender women.

By the time I reached my mid-fifties I had actively moved on from gay fantasies to gay activities. As with many men, my focus had shifted from people to cocks. All I wanted was to engage with cocks, whether they belonged to men, women or transgender women. I didn’t care if they were bottoms, tops or sides. As long as they were beautiful, clean, hard and healthy I wanted just about every cock I saw regardless of who they belonged to. At times I was out of control, craving hot meat by day and seeking it out by night. At times I still am.

After all the changes I’ve been through, I would never try to guess where I’ll be in five years. I know that almost anything is possible. My motto is definitely “never say never”.
 
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That's definitely true. If someone had told me years ago that I would be sucking and fucking a trans woman with a big cock, I would have scoffed and said, no way. Yet here I am. Slave to a pretty face and a big dick.
I have been a submissive bi bottom for more than 30 years. Although I have gone through periods where I only fucked women, I will find the need to be used by dominate men. Being submissive to men and dominate to women is yin and yang.
 
That's definitely true. If someone had told me years ago that I would be sucking and fucking a trans woman with a big cock, I would have scoffed and said, no way. Yet here I am. Slave to a pretty face and a big dick.
Better than being slave to an ugly face and a small dick. 😅😂🤣
 
Do you have any ideas, yourself?
Well, I was wondering if there are a lot of bottoms so a guy who is a top doesn't need an exclusive bottom - he can always find some guy to fuck. I was also thinking that in the hookup culture no one is looking for a relationship so it's always one and done.
 
Well, I was wondering if there are a lot of bottoms so a guy who is a top doesn't need an exclusive bottom - he can always find some guy to fuck. I was also thinking that in the hookup culture no one is looking for a relationship so it's always one and done.
I agree with your thoughts. Tops don’t have to commit because there are many more bottoms. I have Tops not interested in a relationship fuck me and then reach out to fuck months later. Tops usually have 3-4 bottoms the rotate through.
 
I was wondering if there are a lot of bottoms so a guy who is a top doesn't need an exclusive bottom - he can always find some guy to fuck
It definitely seems this way to me. On Sniffies you hardly ever see tops at all, and tons of guys begging for one. I don't think it means tops aren't on there, they just don't have to put effort into drawing attention. And they probably can just log on for 5 minutes and find what they're after, instead of being online all week till they get lucky.

I wonder if there's some type of selection bias there, though. In more "real-life" settings, like say at a gay bar or any environment where it's just a bunch of regular, uncloseted gay guys with no sort of selection pressure, I don't know whether it would be closer to 50/50.

I've spent lots of time in situations and environments like that, but I don't have a very good sense of recognizing bottoms and tops. My instinct is that most gay guys would bottom, but that doesn't necessarily make someone "not a top."

Anyway, I don't doubt at all that a top who doesn't want a relationship would have no trouble at all picking up bottoms any time he wants.
 
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