monogamy-why?

[Brinnie]

YOU POLL IS FUCKED!
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sorry about that. But it's true.
The ONLY reason people are morally monogamousis from conditioning. PERIOD.


Of course, there will be a few of you that dissagree. That's fine. You're old, stuck in your ways, and have come to far in life to just de-program yourself and see it with clear eyes. But for the rest of you that are wondering, it was religionthat initially said it's bad to have more than 1 partner.


And so he cried: "BUT I'M NOT RELIGIOUS!"

Perhaps, not religious by will- but you were born and raised (i.e: conditioned) in a religious society. The standards of Christ imprinted it's ideals on society throughout the years, paving the foundation for the establishment of marriage. So unless you buy in to Christ, MCDonalds, and the Stair Master, there is no real reason to be morally monogamous.

 

[sxylegs]

YOU POLL IS FUCKED!
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v205/Britney_Spears/fire.png​

sorry about that. But it's true.
The ONLY reason people are morally monogamousis from conditioning. PERIOD.


Of course, there will be a few of you that dissagree. That's fine. You're old, stuck in your ways, and have come to far in life to just de-program yourself and see it with clear eyes. But for the rest of you that are wondering, it was religionthat initially said it's bad to have more than 1 partner.


And so he cried: "BUT I'M NOT RELIGIOUS!"

Perhaps, not religious by will- but you were born and raised (i.e: conditioned) in a religious society. The standards of Christ imprinted it's ideals on society throughout the years, paving the foundation for the establishment of marriage. So unless you buy in to Christ, MCDonalds, and the Stair Master, there is no real reason to be morally monogamous.https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=331961

In all honesty, it wasnt religion that really got monogomy going it was stds that really started the ball on monogomy.......

 

[Brinnie]

In all honesty, it wasnt religion that really got monogomy going it was stds that really started the ball on monogomy.......

quallify it.
And what part of my post exactly are you challenging?

Better yet, I'll save you a bunch of time and a few bucks on your car insurance: The key word was morally. If you still think STDs played a substantial role in moral monogamy, quallify it.

 

[Noor]

Did you miss the first option? Societal Pressure?

I think conditioning, religious or otherwise would fall under that catagory.

YOU POLL IS FUCKED!
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v205/Britney_Spears/fire.png​

sorry about that. But it's true.
The ONLY reason people are morally monogamousis from conditioning. PERIOD.
Of course, there will be a few of you that dissagree. That's fine. You're old, stuck in your ways, and have come to far in life to just de-program yourself and see it with clear eyes. But for the rest of you that are wondering, it was religionthat initially said it's bad to have more than 1 partner.

And so he cried: "BUT I'M NOT RELIGIOUS!"
Perhaps, not religious by will- but you were born and raised (i.e: conditioned) in a religious society. The standards of Christ imprinted it's ideals on society throughout the years, paving the foundation for the establishment of marriage. So unless you buy in to Christ, MCDonalds, and the Stair Master, there is no real reason to be morally monogamous.https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=331961

I think conditioning, religious or otherwise would fall under the "Societal Pressure" category. So how is my poll "fucked" exactly?

If you read anything about me, you would know that I am not monogamous, and Christ has any bearing on my life. I was not brought up as a Christian or in a Christian community, so I do not have the standards of Christ. Besides religious values of monogamy, at least for women, predate Christianity.

I started the poll to find out why others were monogamous, morally or otherwise.
Yes, I am the ripe old age of 45 but I have not had de-programmed myself from monogamy. It is only in the past year, that I have ever seriously considered that there maybe some men whom I might feel monogamous with, and that was based on what felt like a primordial pull with no thought involved. However, given the man involved, I would say it is extremely unlikely to happen.

Thank you for sharing your views in general about monogamy, perhaps you could also share your personal views, like are you monogamous in your relationships and why or why not?

 

[Brinnie]

I think conditioning, religious or otherwise would fall under that catagory.




I think conditioning, religious or otherwise would fall under the "Societal Pressure" category. So how is my poll "fucked" exactly?

If you read anything about me, you would know that I am not monogamous, and Christ has any bearing on my life. I was not brought up as a Christian or in a Christian community, so I do not have the standards of Christ. Besides religious values of monogamy, at least for women, predate Christianity.

I started the poll to find out why others were monogamous, morally or otherwise.
Yes, I am the ripe old age of 45 but I have not had de-programmed myself from monogamy. It is only in the past year, that I have ever seriously considered that there maybe some men whom I might feel monogamous with, and that was based on what felt like a primordial pull with no thought involved. However, given the man involved, I would say it is extremely unlikely to happen.

Thank you for sharing your views in general about monogamy, perhaps you could also share your personal views, like are you monogamous in your relationships and why or why not?

define: "pressure"
and define: "involved" (your definition)

 

[5pintshefound]

Hi Noor..

ok, heres my reasoning for my vote... first off, its my personal beliefs that you are only to be with one at a time... i was brought up in the church, and thats somethign that i adhere to -- for more than just religious reasons.. also, the more your with, the greater chance that theres a bug floating around that will find you....

i voted that i dont like to share or be shared.. for th reasons above

and i also voted in the i found the one i want category...

my SO is the only man i want its hard cause hes currently overseas right now on a 1 yr tour so that sucks.. but why mess around with somebody else, when i already have the man that completes me-- as a mate , as a friend, as a sex partner. why bother messing that up..

i would like to tell you that im deeply religious ETC but im not.. i love my SO. i dont want to lose him
and i dont want to get a bug.. ive had wayt o many friends ask me to be with them, when they got results back, found out they had Chlamydia, or HPV, and even one HIV test {which was negative-- thank god-- it was my best friend havent been that scared in a while...}

i also watched as chlamydia was sent thru a group of friends that i had, because of 1 guy who decided he was going to be with as many chickas at a time... that was ugly..

there ya go... dont know if that answers the question that you had or not...

~5PHF

 

[Noor]

My best friend is a serial monogamous, she has had far more partners than I had ever had. Promiciousity and not being monogamous are not the same.

Fear of STDs is an issue in any sexual relationship, the 3 women I have know who have gotten AIDS were all in monogamous relationships, 2 of them got it from their partner, one from a blood transfusion. The two who got it from their partners were not cheated on, one's husband, had it from before, they had gotten the test,waited 6 months but didn't get the follow up test, and the other's BF got it from sharing a needle shooting steroids. The one who got it from her husband did not know until her third child was born. the children were then tested and all 3 had hiv. I also know someone who got it from tattoo needle. These things happened more than 10 yrs ago so I assume things are better.

I can certainly understand religious reasons and finding the one, but I wonder does that mean if you didn't have fear of stds, religious reasons and the one, would you still be monogamous?

I guess I do not see monogamy as a necassarily safer as so many people cheat on their partners, I think the statistic is over 50%.

 

[Munachi]

well i think though that societal pressure and social conditioning is not exactly the same thing - pressure is something more obvious, that you are aware of, in a way more negative. conditioning means, that you accept something as the truth without questioning it, because you always learned it is the truth. and i think it is the latter that would be the main reason - and at the same time very few people might be aware of this reason.

 

[Noor]

define: "pressure"
and define: "involved" (your definition)

Pressure:A compelling or constraining influence, such as a moral force, on the mind or will: pressure to conform; peer-group pressure.

Involved: that which has occuppied or engaged the interest of
in this case it means the man who has caused my possible latent monogamous feelings.

 

[FurryFury]

I have been monogamous so far in all of my relationships. I was raised in a very religious way for part of my young life and then watched as infidelity tore my family to pieces.

Loyalty is a big issue with me, always has been, but, now that we are exploring some really fun stuff? We are talking about adding another person in or a couple. We both think we are secure enough to handle that. So we shall see what happens. It won't happen right away but we are breaking down a lot of barriers here and having fun doing it.

 

[Noor]

I have been monogamous so far in all of my relationships. I was raised in a very religious way for part of my young life and then watched as infidelity tore my family to pieces.

Loyalty is a big issue with me, always has been, but, now that we are exploring some really fun stuff? We are talking about adding another person in or a couple. We both think we are secure enough to handle that. So we shall see what happens. It won't happen right away but we are breaking down a lot of barriers here and having fun doing it.

Non-monogamous relationships can be both faithful and loyal. If you break your word or your agreements, you are cheating whether you are monogamous or not.

Good Luck with your experiment. I have never had a primary relationship where we added another to it, it should be interesting.

 

[beingbrave]

Bump!

 

[bisexplicit]

Bump!

Um, Why?