Metrosexual men... the thorn in the alpha male's side?

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When the concept of metrosexuality first came out, I kinda looked at it with indifference and said different strokes for different folks, then moved on with life.

Then I started seeing them in action and realized women were falling all over them. Not just Johnny Depp, but all over the main street metro's in my neighborhood.

A metrosexual is the kinda guy that us hard core hetero's find ourselves fighting the urge to cringe at on first sight, but by the end of the day everyone's okay with them because we know they're going to be looking for women and not men. Ok, so now they're our competition, but hey, the way these metro's scramble the fuck up out of the dating game, we don't have to drag our knuckles and drag our big clubs around any more to impress women. Because the metrosexual men have made it cool for more and more women to pursue an alternative kind of man to the alpha male type. Which basically means that now, more of us men who get off the alpha male bus, have a sex life with a living, breathing woman, to look forward to.

And all indicators point to metrosexual males rising in number and popularity among women.

Cheers to the metro's. IMO you're saving the collective asses of all us guys.


http://www.chronwatch.com/content/contentDisplay.asp?aid=3681&catcode=24

Metrosexuals: The Future of Men?
Written by Jean Shaw
Thursday, July 31, 2003

Heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, transsexual, transgender...just when you thought you’d heard it all, along comes a new term: metrosexual. The word is meant to encapsulate the new urban American male, who, although he claims to be straight, exhibits all the prissy behavior of an effeminate gay man. It seems that not only does ''gay culture'' now define femininity (as seen in the fashion world), but masculinity as well.

Richard Trubo, writing for the MSN Heath website, ponders whether the ''future of men'' is exemplified in the ''metrosexual'' lifestyle. If this be the case, then ladies, we’re in big trouble!

There, deep in the hair-care aisle, carefully selecting the product du jour, or in the salon having his nails buffed to the perfect shine while checking out the latest fashion magazines -- it's not a bird, not a gay man, it's a metrosexual!

And judging by the popularity of the new TV program Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, many more once slovenly men want to join the ranks of this new breed of Renaissance man.

Not yet familiar with the new buzzword, ''metrosexual?'' Some social observers and product marketers believe it's just a matter of time until ''metrosexual'' becomes part of your vocabulary--and perhaps a description of your own lifestyle as well.

So what makes a metrosexual man? He's been defined as a straight, sensitive, well-educated, urban dweller who is in touch with his feminine side. He may have a standing appointment for a weekly manicure, and he probably has his hair cared for by a stylist rather than a barber. He loves to shop, he may wear jewelry, and his bathroom counter is most likely filled with male-targeted grooming products, including moisturizers (and perhaps even a little makeup). He may work on his physique at a fitness club (not a gym) and his appearance probably gets him lots of attention--and he's delighted by every stare.

Blurring Gender Lines

Curiosity about metrosexuals climbed considerably in June when Euro RSCG Worldwide, a marketing communications agency based in New York City and more than 200 other cities, explored the changing face of American males in a report titled The Future of Men: USA. As part of this research, men ages 21 to 48 throughout the U.S. were surveyed on masculinity-related issues. The conclusions? According to the report, there is ''an emerging wave of men who chafe against the restrictions'' of traditional male roles and who ''do what they want, buy what they want, enjoy what they want - regardless of whether some people might consider these things unmanly.''

The metrosexual male is more sensitive and in some ways more effeminate than his father probably was, says Schuyler Brown, one of the architects of the study and associate director of strategic trendspotting and research at Euro RSCG Worldwide. Metrosexuals are willing to push traditional gender boundaries that define what's male and what's female, she adds, but they never feel that they are anything but ''real men.'' Yes, a little primping and pampering were once considered solely female indulgences, but they are becoming much more permissible for men, too.

Metrosexual men ''are very secure in their sexuality,'' says Brown. ''They're comfortable getting a facial or a pedicure. It doesn't make them feel any less masculine or any less heterosexual.''

The Future of Men report noted, ''One of the telltale signs of metrosexuals is their willingness to indulge themselves, whether by springing for a Prada suit or spending a couple of hours at a spa to get a massage and facial.'' They might devote an afternoon to choosing their ultrafashionable attire for the night. They may don an apron and prepare a mean and meatless pasta dish for friends.

Beyond Testosterone

So what's prompting men to think outside the box of male stereotypes? They might be influenced by a new breed of male-oriented magazines such as FHM and Maxim, which are devoting an increasing number of their pages to fashion. These popular magazines are encouraging men to dress to the nines and fall into line with media images of men with washboard abs and bulging biceps.

Members of the homosexual community also appear to have influenced their straight brethren. Even though metrosexual men are absolutely heterosexual, the gay movement has helped society as a whole accept so-called effeminate characteristics and lifestyles. ''As a society, we're more comfortable with homosexuality today,'' says Brown. ''It's no longer taboo, it's portrayed on prime-time TV, and heterosexual men have become more comfortable with the gay culture.''

Ironically, if one of the metrosexual's goals is to transform himself into a ''chick magnet,'' some of his efforts -- particularly those spent pumping iron in the local fitness facility -- might be misplaced. Some research suggests that his straining and sweating to inflate the size of his muscles may not be as interesting to women as he might think. According to Roberto Olivardia, PhD, co-author of The Adonis Complex: The Secret Crisis of Male Obsession, the average male thinks that women are attracted to men who are 15 to 20 pounds more muscular than what women actually find attractive.

Coming to Your Neighborhood

Who are examples of prominent metrosexual men? Brown points to the flamboyant, makeup-wearing Johnny Depp ala Pirates of the Caribbean at one end of the metrosexual continuum and Bill Clinton at the other. The former president, she says, ''conveys a personal concern for body image, and is a publicly sensitive guy who wears his feelings on his sleeve.'' The list of metrosexual-style celebrities includes Brad Pitt and George Clooney. British soccer star David Beckham (whose wife is Victoria Adams - a.k.a. Posh Spice) may be the quintessential metrosexual icon, sometimes attired in a sarong and embellishing his nails with colorful polish.

While you're most likely to find metrosexual men in big cities, particularly media centers such as New York and Los Angeles, they are certainly not confined there. ''Because of Hollywood and the fact that many of the male glitterati exhibit metrosexual qualities, you can see the imitation and the experimentation among men in many smaller cities as well,'' says Brown.

Yet facial plastic surgeons such as Seth M. Goldberg, MD, whose patients in his Rockville, MD, office include politicians, lobbyists, and attorneys in the Washington, D.C., area, question whether the label ''metrosexual'' is one that is really catching on in the nation's capital. At the same time, however, he notes that ''in the last few years there has been a tripling of the number of men who are coming into my office for cosmetic surgery or office-based cosmetic procedures such as Botox injections. A generation ago, we wouldn't have seen any of these men in our office.''

Olivardia points to a Psychology Today survey showing that 43% of men are dissatisfied with their overall appearance, and 63% are unhappy with their abdomen in particular. So they might seek out the services of a cosmetic surgeon for some major or minor retrofitting. Abdominal liposuction to wipe out love handles is particularly popular. The number of lip augmentation procedures in men in the U.S. increased by a startling 421% from 2001 to 2002, according to the American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery.

To read the entire article, click here.
 
Guess I can't be a metro. I got about half a page into this and lost interest.

*burp* ;)
 
I've never really understood this obsession to classify and label.
 
Do you have any fucking clue what alpha male really means, insatead the pat little misandrist, psuedo-intellectual psychobabble propaganda that the feminizers of this country have been cramming down our throats for decades?
 
metrosexual- an effeminate man or boy. Most often a liberal living in a blue state.
 
Stuponfucious said:
Do you have any fucking clue what alpha male really means, insatead the pat little misandrist, psuedo-intellectual psychobabble propaganda that the feminizers of this country have been cramming down our throats for decades?

Hey now! Feminism is about improving the living conditions for women by leveling the playing field. Alpha males are just as bad as any other.


As to the metrosexual- being one requires a fair amount of discretionary money. Attractive, yes - they populate the banking world these days, but women still know who's comfortable with themselves and who's tagging along a trend because they lack a sense of self.
 
Metrosexualism is American marketing at its best. Sort of like the soap business. There was a time, believe it or not, when people didn't shampoo their hair every day. But if you convince someone that they are unclean if they don't, then you have created a need. We buy the shit.
 
JasmineFleur said:
Hey now! Feminism is about improving the living conditions for women by leveling the playing field. Alpha males are just as bad as any other.

Um no, if it was it wouldn't be called feminism. It would be called equality. Or the Human Rights Coalition.

And who the hell are alpha males as bad as? Not that you have any idea what I'm really talking about, you mindless automoton.

As to the metrosexual- being one requires a fair amount of discretionary money. Attractive, yes - they populate the banking world these days, but women still know who's comfortable with themselves and who's tagging along a trend because they lack a sense of self.

WTF are you jabbering about?
 
I see no reason why a man couldn't be a metrosexual and an alpha male at the same time. One concerns grooming and the other concerns dominance of hierarchies.
 
rosco rathbone said:
I see no reason why a man couldn't be a metrosexual and an alpha male at the same time. One concerns grooming and the other concerns dominance of hierarchies.
this is true. i was with an alpha male who was as pretty and fashionable as they get.
 
I'm a Men's Rights Activist. The only man who steps up to the plate and challenges the man-haters. Who can be more masculine than me ? Nobody. All others are fake. I'm ALL real ! Reminds me of the time when the guys were playing volleyball against the girls. I joined the game when the girls were winning. I played like a brute and sent more than a few of them home with bruises. The guys won that day. Some of the men gave me dirty looks. Some of the girls called me an animal. I was too busy congratulating myself to care.
 
I don't get it? We don't have metrosexuals around here I guess - cuz I've never met one. Must be only in the big hopping cities? Doesn't seem like I'm missing anything though. Give me a man with a little dirt under his fingernails and who has to sweat a bit at work (and A LOT at play) anyday...
 
If you've never encountered a metrosexual or if you think this is something new, just look at history. Men have gone through "peacock" stages at many times in many places, but, other than those not-so-occasional primitive tribe manifestations, it seems to take a certain level of wealth (and spare time to devote to activities other than survival) and a certain amount of cultural sexual sophistication (or decadence) before this occurs.

Here's some conclusions from an interesting collection of scientific observations:

"These excerpts form the background for an hypothesis that suggests that there is an inverse relationship between increased testosterone in the males of primate species, including humans, and a decrease in sperm production. Relatively non-hierarchically organized males competing for mates in a promiscuous social structure, would be selected for increased sperm production (larger testicles) while at the same time those males with lower testosterone levels would be more likely to fair well in a cooperative social environment characterized by less hierarchical posturing.

"Female sexual selection could have powerful consequences when paired with the selection of non-aggressive, large testicled (high sperm count) males -- animal or human societies more likely to be matrifocal.

"Females choosing males for tendencies toward cooperative behavior and tolerance for infants ---females choosing males for the hormonal constellation characterized by lower testosterone -- would be at the same time picking those males likely to produce more sperm making these males likely successes in a promiscuous social structure.

"Females choosing males for this constellation of features; low testosterone, high sperm counts, cooperative social behaviors, are selecting males who are maturationally delayed; displaying neoteny or a prolongation of infant characteristics into adulthood relative to their genetic ancestors.

"Social structures reinforcing the benefits that come with a hierarchial orientation, for example a harem, would evidence males with relatively low sperm counts (smaller testicles) and increased aggressive tendencies associated with higher testosterone levels. These males could evidence maturational acceleration relative to their ancestors. A harem social structure (in the case of humans, a patriarchal social stucture) would reinforce a male hormonal constellation characterized by aggression, hierarchical posturing, low sperm counts, and non-cooperative behavior evident in maturational acceleration.

"We hypothesize that increasing sperm counts decreases testosterone levels and visa versa. At the same time decreasing sperm counts will increase testosterone levels and the reverse."

Full article, with the studies that support these conclusions, is here:

http://www.neoteny.org/a/aggression-sperm.html
 
stirbird said:
"We hypothesize that increasing sperm counts decreases testosterone levels and visa versa. At the same time decreasing sperm counts will increase testosterone levels and the reverse."

Full article, with the studies that support these conclusions, is here:

http://www.neoteny.org/a/aggression-sperm.html

So we are breeding aggressive, higher testosterone men right out of the picture then? Which would be good for the whole war/peace thing... but damn - I need a man with LOTS of testosterone... *sigh* what an enigma...
 
can't there be some kind of mix somewhere.

I could care less about acting as if I was some crazy testosterone driven guy ( as to the aggressive part ).

But I wouldn't go and read some fashion mag or anything like that.

A guy can dress fairly good in nice clothes and have his hair looking decent. I figure a guy should look like he bothered to put on something clean and that looks decent at the start of the day. Also combed his hair and showered, but other then that he shouldn't look perfect every second either. That would just seem odd, I think

But then I don't really care if some girl isn't attracted to me. Makes no difference to me
 
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