All Sexual Contact Shouldn't Be About Sex

[bumpinthenight2022]

Sometimes it should be about getting in the other person's head and/or fun (meaning almost recreational). As most sex therapists will say, the largest sex organ any of us have is our brains.

This cuts both ways, for men and women ...

I think that's kinda at the heart of kink, the appeal to the psychological aspect of sex instead of purely focusing on the physical act. And opening your mind to someone in that way is an act of deep intimacy and vulnerability.

So two questions:

• What are your thoughts on my above statement?
• What non-sex thing (anything other than PIV, from a heteronormative standpoint but please apply your own definition) does it for you?

 

[Britva415]

All Sexual Contact Shouldn't Be About Sex​

• What are your thoughts on my above statement?

How is it "sexual contact" if it's "not about sex?"

Calling PIV "sex" and calling everything else "not sex" is...

Well, it's not how I think about it. I'm not even referring to the heteronormativity of it. I just don't think that calling the whole galaxy of acts of sexual contact "not sex" makes any sense.

But something that really "does it" for me is energy play. It's deeply intimate, deeply vulnerable, and to do it, we have to be deeply present, deeply mindful, deeply empathetic and deeply sensitive.

It's not "not about sex," it's just got more and larger dimensions than wham bam thank you ma'am.

 

[Sweetdreams71]

Sex is different for everyone, from deeply personal and sacred to a gang Bang where there is nothing personal about it.
Some it's love and others it's just another chore and others it's a job

My thoughts fwiw

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Um Isn't that's why it's called sexual contact ?

 

[bumpinthenight2022]

What about masturbating, together?

What about kink or play, for example, cumming in the panties your partner is wearing? This can be a thrill for the man, the woman, or both.

What about her just reaching in her panties and putting her juices on his lips?

What about her taking her panties off and slipping them to him?

All of these are meant to be at least as (or more) mentally simulating/feeding the hunger for kink, than they are physically stimulating.

There are 101 ways to have contact that's sexually stimulating, without having vaginal, anal, or oral sex. The point of this comment is not to detail each and every one. But any readers' lack of imagination is not my problem. Demonstrating to everyone your own lack of imagination, is a you problem.

 

[MsK2021]

It's not "not about sex," it's just got more and larger dimensions than wham bam thank you ma'am.

more and larger dimensions that make sexual contact the result rather than the goal to achieve as the sole purpose.

 

[Saint_Ann]

It's like that movie with Stalone and Bullock in the future where they wear sex headphones and don't touch each other.

 

[CantStopStroking]

It's like that movie with Stalone and Bullock in the future where they wear sex headphones and don't touch each other.

Lol, Demolition Man, awesome movie, hilarious scene.

 

[CantStopStroking]

Personally for me, it is more about bringing the other person please than myself. There are times where I will spoil my partner with oral to multiple climaxes and not cum myself. Madterbation is when's it about me to cum, but acts together it's always about the other person.