Men, What are you looking for? Honestly

[Skitten]

Ok guys I have a question for all you wonderful guys out there. What do you really look for in a significant other?
Is it how good they are in the sack? Is it looks? Is it their personality? What are you really looking for when chosing someone to be with you for life? And what are looking to get out of your relationship? What is important to you when chosing that special person?

Just curious of what you are looking for or what you have found and are you happy with your decision.

skitten

 

[Bonnie Wee Lassie]

Good question I would like to know the answer to that also.

 

[Skitten]

See I knew I wasn't the only one bonnie lets hope the gentlemen tell us.

 

[Bobtoad777]

Ok guys I have a question for all you wonderful guys out there. What do you really look for in a significant other?
Is it how good they are in the sack? Is it looks? Is it their personality? What are you really looking for when chosing someone to be with you for life? And what are looking to get out of your relationship? What is important to you when chosing that special person?

Just curious of what you are looking for or what you have found and are you happy with your decision.

skitten

i know this is going to sound like its right out of a personal ad but here it goes.

I am looking for a woman that is happy with her beauty and that she knows how to smile. I gal that will take a walk with me on a nature trail, inm te woods, by the river, on a beach. a gall who will bike with me swim with me, a gal that will have fun with me. i want a gal who has a good sense of humour and knows when i am joking and when i am serious. i want a gal that i can share myself with and she can share herself with me. I want a gal with a good personality. and id happy with herself.

that is what i am looking for in a special gal for me

 

[insideShiraz]

No walls...

I finally found someone who knew me like God does from the moment we met. I can't really even explain it. It was truly like Magic. I never had to hide anything about me, though sometimes I wish I didn't have so much for her to know. We made love the first night out together, and afterwards, she said she had a confession. She was bi-sexual. (I had pretty much figured that out but for the wrong reasons). I said that's okay, I have a confession, too. I'm celibate. And we cracked up. That was five years ago, good times and bad. There's nothing on these boards about me that she hasn't known all along. And Dustin Hoffman said the key to every marriage/relationship is to leave the bathroom door open.

 

[Nicole]

OHMYGOD ... Do us a favor and get rid of that please.

It's just a tinsy bit big don't you think???

Nice question too Skitten babe

 

[Cheyenne]

Keep posting guys, I want to know the answer to this one, too!

 

[Skitten]

c'mon guys us women out here really need to know all your true thoughts don't make us beg now.

 

[Bliss]

LOLOL. Poor insideShiraz. Scale that down to 60% before we go blind!

*my eyes, my eyes*

Skitten, I suspect worthwhile answers will be a few days in coming. The boards are a little bare because of the long holiday weekend. HeeHee or make Wiz answer!

 

[Wizard]

WTF??????????? where did this come from?????????????Did I do something wrong?????<scratching head>

 

[Bliss]

Wrong? No, not at all. She asked "what men want". You're one, hers even, so there ya go. Simple as pie.

No need to yell. Happy Labor Day.

 

[insideShiraz]

Heheheh...

Plus what about the ol' adage that the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach?

What I "honestly" want to know is "What is it that you Hope men are looking for?"...

 

[Wizard]

skitten, I'm looking for you babe............

 

[Bobtoad777]

as a side note a gal does not have to be a good cook for me as years of bachelor hood has taught me how to make KD in under 8 minutes, j/k i am quite a good cook so i am told by guests who keep coming back

 

[Nicole]

Wizzie you sweetie you.

There you go Skitten, that is one man that has what he is looking for, and a happy man at that

Wish I could find one like you Wiz ... Hey Skitten can I borrow him for a day or two???

 

[Dudley]

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You asked a good question, Skitten, and I'd be glad to offer a serious answer.

I'm a normal male, I guess, so I have to cop to being interested in physical beauty but the range of women I find attractive has expanded greatly as I've gotten older. I'm only interested in grown-ups -- I don't really have a cut-off age, but I don't date young girls.

I look for smart women, with lots of self-respect and who have interests in life, especially interests beyond their jobs. I always think that when I go on a date and I do all the talking, this may not be somebody I want to see again.

It's nice if someone shares my interests, but as long as they tolerate them, it's OK with me. I'm open to new things myself, but someone who doesn't like music, doesn't read, goes to church regularly and votes Republican probably isn't a contender for Ms. Right. If I care for someone, I like to spend time with them and do things for them, but, at the same time, I don't want to be leaned on as the source of all amusement and support.

Sexually, I guess the usual: passionate, spontaneous, fun -- somebody who doesn't think it's weird to laugh during sex...somebody who will tell what they do and don't like instead of making me guess.

I hope this doesn't make me sound like a pompous ass, but I guess I'm really looking for someone who has a life of her own, who will share it with me just as she shares mine...someone who can make her own way but wants to be my partner so we can do it together...somebody with whom I can build a relationship in which the whole will be greater than the sum of its parts.

(I'm really, really tempted to end this with a joke about big tits, but y'all don't know me well enough to know I wasn't serious...*g*)

 

[poohlive]

From what I have observed, and believe me, I have been observing this "relationship" thing for a while, is that men, as a whole, don't particular look for anything except a girl that they click with. One who they feel comfortable, shares things, agrees on some subjects, basically a girl who likes him, and wants him to like her.
There are many exceptions, some males actually have wants, body type, physical prowess (i don't really know that that means but doesn't it sound intellectual?) and things like that. Still others go to even more extremes: (i correctly used a colon, I am outta here) blonde hair, green eyes, between 5 9 and 5 11, things like that.
The point is, that a question like this really can't be answered, guys are just too different to have their taste in women be common.
I personally, however, look for someone who actually likes me, for one, and is not married or going out with anyone else, yes I have had that problem. Thats it, someone who had a faint interest in having me as a date, and is single at the moment, is that so wrong, am I setting my standards too high? I can lower it, I know I can...

I guess I just haven't found that one person whom I have clicked with yet.
And if you think that is weird, look how I correctly used the word whom in a sentence, I AM A SUPER FREAK!!!

[Edited by poohlive on 09-03-2000 at 10:27 PM]

 

[insideShiraz]

Who was that masked man?...

That all sounds pretty good, Dudley.

 

[sallygirl]

Still others go to even more extremes; (i correctly used a semi colon, I am outta here) blonde hair, green eyes, between 5 9 and 5 11, things like that.

Oh, you are so cute! But I believe it actually should have been a colon since it was followed by a list. Semi-colons are only used with independent clauses. Nice try!

(Gee, won't I look like an ass if I'm wrong about that?? lol)

 

[poohlive]

::Cross checks the British Standard Speech and Writing guide, with the Hey All It's American talk English literature guide, realizes mistake::
ok, ok, so I was wrong...
But, I did use whom correctly, you gotta give me points for that.

 

[sallygirl]

poohlive

You get BIGTIME points for that one, baby! Plus, I think your answer is right on the money. That's all I want, too (only in the male version). Just someone I like and who likes me back. Somebody I "click" with and maybe a little chemistry thrown into the mix. Perfect!

 

[Xander]

For me, simple.
Personality!!!

If it fits with mine, we're good

 

[insideShiraz]

The X Man...

Hey...

My system won't play your tunes, but thanks for the password. I did like the themes of your songs. Congrats on the Romance! You're making it tough on the rest of us guys with your example of chivalry. I wish you all the riches you deserve...

 

[MunchinMark]

Sugar and Spice

I think what I really need to see in anyone that I'm actually going to have a relationship is someone that I can talk to easily. Looks are nice but really are secondary to that. Who would honestly want to spend much time with someone with a stunning appearance and the personality from hell, or worse, limbo.

 

[RonG]

I have been with the same woman for 18 years so I will remind myself of what attracted me.

Easy smile, sincerity, great laugh, smart, very little makeup, polite, caring, hardworking. She happens to be very pretty but that doesn't seem as important as the other things, in hindsight. We both knew we would be together forever long before sex kicked in.