Men - Anal Play Connection To Submission?

[TheIntrepidBoyager]

Whether it's self-massage, fingering, a plug, or your Dom/Domme using a dildo on you by hand or harness, it's all included in this discussion.

The question is, how important is anal play to your submission? For me, it is a fairly important influence I guess I would call it. I find it both physical and psychological. There's no question it feels amazing and of course there are those who turn to prostate stimulation in lieu of penis stimulation but there's an undeniable mental aspect for me as well.

I'm an outwardly alpha male but I've been bi pretty much forever. I've had two adult bi encounters but I was the top in both cases. When Domme T plays with my ass or has me do it, it triggers something deep. Funny enough, as it is happening I'm more focused on the physical sensations and it is afterward that it sinks in. It really impacts my masculinity. I even find myself moving differently.

It truly does bring me deeper into submission and the distinction between my "public" persona and my home one becomes so much more pronounced. While she makes me wear panties and sometimes paints my toenails, she doesn't like me full-on crossdressing. She likes emasculating me, but to a point. So, for me, it isn't necessarily a feminization thing as it is a gay bottom thing. Does that make any sense?

Of course, her words during these acts contribute.

What are everyone else's thoughts?

 

[Gumby11747]

On a physical level, I find anal play to be extremely pleasurable. That being said, I also find it to be more than a little emasculating. My public persona is that of an average straight male but behind closed doors I have been known to become a bit of an anal slut. As you said, having my ass played with triggers something and the during times in between having someone to play with, I find myself craving it. Being forced to wear panties or paint my toenails or other emasculating things might be a small price to pay to satiate the cravings.

 

[lowcollar]

Nothing quite as exciting and emasculating as being on your hands and knees, head down, spreading your ass cheeks and begging to have your "pussy" fucked. Then the lovely pain of entry, then pleasure that follows while being called a bitch and slut. As a submissive, this is one of my favorite things.

 

[Bi4Older84]

I think that the act of being penetrated requires an inherent submission, allowing something inside of yourself-combine that with preconceived societal notions of masculinity, it makes it very easy to slip into a submissive mindset.