meeting women

[docisin]

Serious advice needed: I'm a 46 year old single guy, and I've always had problems meeting women (not where to go, but rather what to say). Once I can meet someone I can be charming and funny, etc., but it's the initial approach that has been tough. Men: any tips on how to approach a woman? Women: how do you like a guy to come on to you? THanks in advance for all of the great advice from all the great folks that hang out here.

 

[Guest]

Try being more interested than interesting!

 

[Skitten]

Do a lot of listening show them that you care about what they are saying. Don't talk too much always be willing to be open within yoursef women want to learn about you but not be overwhelmed at once. Take you time getting to know them be friends first sometimes being their friend first can lead to more.

 

[MissVictoria]

Remember that the woman is probably just as nervous. Offer conversation as well as listening. If you are uncomfortable with something about yourself- dont make a joke about it. There is nothing worse than being expected to laugh (frequantly) over something that just isn't funny. If she speaks about a topic that you know nothing about, don't pretend to know about it. And don't nod your head and smile just to humor her. If you don't like the topic, don't stay with it. If you want to hear more, ask her about it.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

1. Be yourself
2. Listen to her
3. Don't Lie
4. Smell nice
5. Understand she is nervous/suspicious as well
6. Listen more
7. Don't bullshit
8. Be nice
9. Appreciate the art of romance
10. Make her laugh & be prepared to laugh at yourself



Its all very simple - women are so transparent

 

[cyndiesweet]

1. Be yourself
2. Listen to her
3. Don't Lie
4. Smell nice
5. Understand she is nervous/suspicious as well
6. Listen more
7. Don't bullshit
8. Be nice
9. Appreciate the art of romance
10. Make her laugh & be prepared to laugh at yourself

Yes, all of those work. I especially like number four.The sense of smell can trigger emotions more easily than any other sense. Combine that with a willingness to listen and you have a winner.

Its all very simple - women are so transparent

Nessus, I think you are the only man in the world who thinks so.

 

[Mhoram]

Try to pick up on something you two have in common and can talk about easily. If you're in a bar or club, it could be the music or the beer.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

Nessus, I think you are the only man in the world who thinks so.

I have some inside knowledge

 

[cellis]

Oh and when you are talking to her... try to look at her face and not her breasts... I personally find it offensive when a man can't move his eyes any higher than my breasts... well they are impressive LOL but it is disconcerting when a man cannot make eye contact with me....

 

[docisin]

I love all of these responses, and thanks to everyone who took my post seriously. Now, I want to revise. Usually, after I meet someone, it's not a problem, I actually like being interested in some one else. It's the initial "line" I'm talking about. Say I see some one who attracts me. How do I approach them? "hey, come here often?" "Hey, didn't I have a dream about you?" Blaaahhhhhhh! Help! How do women like to be approached initially?

 

[MissVictoria]

"Hello, mind if I join you?" or..... "Hello" (and then a smile) if you would like her to make the first move.

 

[docisin]

Hmm...simple...easy...clear...I like it!

 

[BlondGirl]

Opening lines?

How about (in the supermarket), "Those oranges are a great deal, aren't they? Did you see the sale on the strawberies too?" Then, as you run into each other over and over, you can continue tochat about your various bargains. Near the end of the shopping experience, you can ask her if she usually shops at that time because you found lots of good deals--obviously due to the good luck she brought into the store with her or something else to make her smile

At the gas station, "Sure is chilly out here, isn't it?"

At McDonalds, "Wow, the line is long today and I can't WAIT to get my big mac! What about you?"

At the museum, "Do you know where the gem collection is?"

At the park, "Looks like our mutts have become friends already. We've got a frisbee--want to play with us?"

In the music store," That is a great album you have there--it's one of my favorites."

In the book store, "That book will keep you up all night-you won't be able to put it down until every word is read."

In other words, simply strike up a conversation. It doesn't have to be profound and if you are snubbed off--oh well--no loss to you--it is not like you walked into the situation already married, right? You have mo more loss once you are shot down than you had before beginning--and everything to gain!

 

[Homer Simpson]

---Don't talk too much always be willing to be open within yoursef women want to learn about you but not be overwhelmed at once.---(sorry new to the site don't know how to use quotes as of yet)

Am I the only one who asks a woman about 100 questions about her before she asks anything about me? Does that mean a woman isn't interested?

 

[Ayaka]

Asking questions is nice, most guys talk about themselves or when they ask a question, don't listen to the answer.

How do you do quotes? When you find out, Homer, can you tell me

I figured out the smiley face