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maybe you've either looked in the wrong places, or you've overlooked someone? On the other hand maybe you haven't met them yet. Either way, if I were you I'd keep looking. That's what I'm doing. Hopefully there is a Bam Bam out there for you Pebbles._pebbles said:
Pornofan420
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*sigh* I've been thinking about sex a lot recently. Haven't been getting a whole lot. Missing it a whole lot.
I guess I shouldn't feel too bad. Other than sex-wise, married life aggrees with me. I love my wife dearly, she loves me, and my emotional/snuggle/love needs are fulfilled absolutely.
It's the sex that's all but absent. Periodically, she takes me up on the standing offer to go down on her anywhere, anytime. But mostly I have to nudge. On top of the health problems that tend to sap her libido, she's just got a very low sex drive. I don't think she's found herself NEEDING an orgasm. She's found sex pleasant. But if it's lacking, I don't think it comes up on her radar.
Now when it comes to cooking, she reads eGullet like I read Lieterotica. That's part of the problem, She's WAY enthused about food, I'm WAY enthused about sex, and we're not hugely interested in the other's passion.
I really miss having a lover who was interested in sex.
I should go back and read any of my previous posts to see how much I'm repeating myself.
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I guess I shouldn't feel too bad. Other than sex-wise, married life aggrees with me. I love my wife dearly, she loves me, and my emotional/snuggle/love needs are fulfilled absolutely.
It's the sex that's all but absent. Periodically, she takes me up on the standing offer to go down on her anywhere, anytime. But mostly I have to nudge. On top of the health problems that tend to sap her libido, she's just got a very low sex drive. I don't think she's found herself NEEDING an orgasm. She's found sex pleasant. But if it's lacking, I don't think it comes up on her radar.
Now when it comes to cooking, she reads eGullet like I read Lieterotica. That's part of the problem, She's WAY enthused about food, I'm WAY enthused about sex, and we're not hugely interested in the other's passion.
I really miss having a lover who was interested in sex.
I should go back and read any of my previous posts to see how much I'm repeating myself.
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new_to_writing
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my wife and I are both on here and we know everything the other one does...It brings us closer and is a definite turn on.
new_to_writing
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my wife and I are both on here and we know everything the other one does...It brings us closer and is a definite turn on.
babydoll2u
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_pebbles said:
I have... too bad that he lives so far away *sigh*
but we are planning to get together in just a few weeks.
We'll see how it goes from there
_pebbles said:
Hi there Pebbles, you are being quoted quite often lately. Seems a common thread. Many of us "looking" but most seem casual lookers, waiting to stumble onto Mr., Ms. or Mrs. "right".
Speaking for myself - I am sexually frustrated at home and just can't seem to get the nerve to do anything about it. Like cheating. I think I've exhausted the home remedies. The wife just doesn't want to do it as much as I do. And a quick fuck is all I'll get even when she does.
But... would I stray if I "stumbled" on the "right" person? Hummm... how could I resist? It sure presents interesting fantasies. I'd rather not but a steamy, kinky sex session sure would be fun.
Pornofan420 said:[B
I guess I shouldn't feel too bad. Other than sex-wise, married life aggrees with me. I love my wife dearly, she loves me, and my emotional/snuggle/love needs are fulfilled absolutely.
I really miss having a lover who was interested in sex.
I should go back and read any of my previous posts to see how much I'm repeating myself.
</vent> [/B]
Sorry you're struggling right now, pornofan. How long do we keep repeating/reviewing our frustrations before something breaks?
Even though hubby and I have danced around the subject of me going outside of our marriage ... I can't help but have this lingering sinking feeling that no matter how much I tell myself cheating won't change the love I have for him, something has got to change, right? My respect for us as a couple? Respect for myself? I torture myself with these thoughts. This is such a big decision for me.
QuietMom30s
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_pebbles said:
This is a very difficult topic.. and one for which there is no single best answer.. everyone.. and every couple.. need to find what is best for them.. and their uniqueness.. in almost all cases.. however.. honesty and openness is the best approach...
the transition from fantasy to reality is so difficult.. but it can be so delicious
Pornofan420 said:*sigh* I've been thinking about sex a lot recently. Haven't been getting a whole lot. Missing it a whole lot.
I guess I shouldn't feel too bad. Other than sex-wise, married life aggrees with me. I love my wife dearly, she loves me, and my emotional/snuggle/love needs are fulfilled absolutely.
It's the sex that's all but absent. Periodically, she takes me up on the standing offer to go down on her anywhere, anytime. But mostly I have to nudge. On top of the health problems that tend to sap her libido, she's just got a very low sex drive. I don't think she's found herself NEEDING an orgasm. She's found sex pleasant. But if it's lacking, I don't think it comes up on her radar.
Now when it comes to cooking, she reads eGullet like I read Lieterotica. That's part of the problem, She's WAY enthused about food, I'm WAY enthused about sex, and we're not hugely interested in the other's passion.
I really miss having a lover who was interested in sex.
I should go back and read any of my previous posts to see how much I'm repeating myself.
</vent>
I have been known to say the same things here, pornofan, you and I are in the same boat with the same feelings about our marriages and our wives. There is no easy answer, I am realizing that no relationship is ever exactly what each person thought it would be. For every relationship/marriage which has better or more sex than mine, they may not share as many interests or are not such great friends as my wife and I are. Great sex does not always equal great friendship. My wife and I laugh.. a lot. We really can tickle each other's funny bone til there is no tomorrow and some couples have trouble with this simple pleasure.
But you are right in that I also really miss having a lover who was interested in sex... that was in my previous dating life, when the sex was great but I often did not get along with the girl beyond that... how odd.
SlyGuy101
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Maybe you just havent found the right guy, as of yet. I am a married person that loves lit. My wife doesnt know I flirt, chat, and read the stories on here, or does she know that I drool over alot of the pics as well. Am lookin to meet "interesting" ladies for ??
As far as hurtin or helpin, I would have to say probably the latter one, as most of these threads just increase my horniness, if that is possible!!
As far as hurtin or helpin, I would have to say probably the latter one, as most of these threads just increase my horniness, if that is possible!!
GUILTY!!! Married for over 20 years, but still get the urge to find a FB!
I'm Chuck in Atlanta, white, attractive and I know when
"enough is enough". I still believe that we are placed on the earth to know and understand each other. Have the experience, teachings, feelings of others given to you. I know that those I know, I know because we were more than two separate people.
'Given the time ~ I will become part you ~ and you, part me"
chuck404@literotica.org
I'm Chuck in Atlanta, white, attractive and I know when
"enough is enough". I still believe that we are placed on the earth to know and understand each other. Have the experience, teachings, feelings of others given to you. I know that those I know, I know because we were more than two separate people.
'Given the time ~ I will become part you ~ and you, part me"
chuck404@literotica.org
BruceB4368
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guilty
Me too, looking for a chat buddy.
Me too, looking for a chat buddy.
Cutie_Connie
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My husband doesn't know I come here. We've been married 7 years and although our marriage is far from perfect I would never cheat on him "in the flesh". That said, I don't think one sex partner can ever meet all my needs, desires, fantasies, and kinks. Coming online gives me an outlet for experiences I don't have with my husband. But it is a part of me that I want to keep secret - at least for now.
Sappholovers
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I first turned to writing and sharing erotica on another internet site in the midst of a marriage that had broken down into, essentially, a child care arrangement.
What amused me, at first, was how my correspondence with other women online would open with sex but then turn more and more to r-rated or pg rated conversations: sharing stories about life, etc.
My experiences with online relationships helped convince me that our need for shared verbal intercourse--for communion by the word--is as strong a need, if not stronger, than the demands of our libidos, our need for sexual intercourse.
I kept the correspondence secret from my wife, and I considered it fun, not something that would unsettle me. But then, with one woman, thousands of miles away, in another country, it began with fireworks and then became more torrid: all the pulsing and throbbing, the aching and anticipation of a first deep crush as a teenager in late adolescence, but now done with the wisdom to confess fully to our passion. I never met that woman, and we called it off as we sensed it was too dangerous for both of us (she was also married). But that intense, beautiful experience helped convince me to make one last valiant effort to save the marriage....and I tapped into the energy of the erotic correspondence and tried to generate more heat in my marriage. It improved our sex lives, but the marriage remained, at best, an affectionate, amiable relationship....and both my wife and I recognized that it would be best to end it once our kids were older, and we did.
Once divorced, I turned back to internet correspondence, and it led to a a beautiful, passionate, romantic relationship that has lasted. We still write each other often, via email, even though we see each other every day. I have never fucked more frequently--or made love more passionately--in my life.
But still, even though I am highly satisfied sexually, I find it a joy to write stories for Literotica and post stuff on threads.... and correspond through PMs with some favorite writers. I have not been able to share this with my partner. The torrid correspondence I had with a woman while married seems to have wired something into me: I keep searching for the high, the lift, the intensity, the passion of that affair of words..... and I remained amazed at how the power of words, shared in openness and honesty, can take me almost as beautifully as sex itself. Since the end of my marriage and the beginning of new relationships, I have discovered that nothing intensifies sex better than love and passion. And I have also discovered the alchemy of the word: how it can also transmute the simple act of sex into something magical and mysterious in its powers.
What amused me, at first, was how my correspondence with other women online would open with sex but then turn more and more to r-rated or pg rated conversations: sharing stories about life, etc.
My experiences with online relationships helped convince me that our need for shared verbal intercourse--for communion by the word--is as strong a need, if not stronger, than the demands of our libidos, our need for sexual intercourse.
I kept the correspondence secret from my wife, and I considered it fun, not something that would unsettle me. But then, with one woman, thousands of miles away, in another country, it began with fireworks and then became more torrid: all the pulsing and throbbing, the aching and anticipation of a first deep crush as a teenager in late adolescence, but now done with the wisdom to confess fully to our passion. I never met that woman, and we called it off as we sensed it was too dangerous for both of us (she was also married). But that intense, beautiful experience helped convince me to make one last valiant effort to save the marriage....and I tapped into the energy of the erotic correspondence and tried to generate more heat in my marriage. It improved our sex lives, but the marriage remained, at best, an affectionate, amiable relationship....and both my wife and I recognized that it would be best to end it once our kids were older, and we did.
Once divorced, I turned back to internet correspondence, and it led to a a beautiful, passionate, romantic relationship that has lasted. We still write each other often, via email, even though we see each other every day. I have never fucked more frequently--or made love more passionately--in my life.
But still, even though I am highly satisfied sexually, I find it a joy to write stories for Literotica and post stuff on threads.... and correspond through PMs with some favorite writers. I have not been able to share this with my partner. The torrid correspondence I had with a woman while married seems to have wired something into me: I keep searching for the high, the lift, the intensity, the passion of that affair of words..... and I remained amazed at how the power of words, shared in openness and honesty, can take me almost as beautifully as sex itself. Since the end of my marriage and the beginning of new relationships, I have discovered that nothing intensifies sex better than love and passion. And I have also discovered the alchemy of the word: how it can also transmute the simple act of sex into something magical and mysterious in its powers.
babydoll2u
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WOW... there have certainly been alot of new post-ers since the last time I was here. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or not
At the risk of repetition to those who already know me here, I'll introduce myself to our new friends.
I'm married (obviously), mother of 2 (only one at home), in Florida.
Due to illness and subsequent medications, my husbands sex drive has been all but wiped out. We last were sexually intimate well over 2 years ago. However, my husband is also the type of man who believes that affection of any kind should and does (for him) lead to sex. Therefore, since he can't "get it up" anymore, he doesn't feel the need for affection.... either receiving or giving.
It's just not important to him.
It is to me...very important. I'm an extremely affectionate, loving, "touchy-feely" type of woman. And I need it in return... something that my husband finds incredulous, for some reason.
In the past 2 years, we have basically become strangers, but remain friends (I know, that sounds odd, but I can't think if a better way to phrase what we are). We get along fine, not much arguing, which isn't really surprising given the lack of communication. We sleep in separate bedrooms (his suggestion), and meet in the "middle" for our son.
Our son is a very happy, well-adjusted 4 1/2 year old, who adores both me and his father and we adore him. It is for our son that I stay in this loveless, affection-less marriage.
My husband knows that I frequent Lit (tho he doesn't know that I host 3 threads) and is not at all happy about it. God forbid he should discover that I post my pictures on Lit. He'd most likely leave me over it.
I had a lover for a few months (ducking), who was also one of my closest friends. His company transferred him out of state, so while we are no longer lovers, we are still close friends and stay in close contact. Would I have another lover? Most likely.
Well, that's me, for better or for worse.
Nice to meet all of you and nice to see familiar names.
At the risk of repetition to those who already know me here, I'll introduce myself to our new friends.
I'm married (obviously), mother of 2 (only one at home), in Florida.
Due to illness and subsequent medications, my husbands sex drive has been all but wiped out. We last were sexually intimate well over 2 years ago. However, my husband is also the type of man who believes that affection of any kind should and does (for him) lead to sex. Therefore, since he can't "get it up" anymore, he doesn't feel the need for affection.... either receiving or giving.
It's just not important to him.
It is to me...very important. I'm an extremely affectionate, loving, "touchy-feely" type of woman. And I need it in return... something that my husband finds incredulous, for some reason.
In the past 2 years, we have basically become strangers, but remain friends (I know, that sounds odd, but I can't think if a better way to phrase what we are). We get along fine, not much arguing, which isn't really surprising given the lack of communication. We sleep in separate bedrooms (his suggestion), and meet in the "middle" for our son.
Our son is a very happy, well-adjusted 4 1/2 year old, who adores both me and his father and we adore him. It is for our son that I stay in this loveless, affection-less marriage.
My husband knows that I frequent Lit (tho he doesn't know that I host 3 threads) and is not at all happy about it. God forbid he should discover that I post my pictures on Lit. He'd most likely leave me over it.
I had a lover for a few months (ducking), who was also one of my closest friends. His company transferred him out of state, so while we are no longer lovers, we are still close friends and stay in close contact. Would I have another lover? Most likely.
Well, that's me, for better or for worse.
Nice to meet all of you and nice to see familiar names.
SweetErika
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I would never be able to keep this from my husband, nor would I be unfaithful... except in the above situation. But as much as I'd never want to share him, I'd give him my blessing to go out and get what he needed too if I wasn't able to give it to him. It sounds like your husband's unreasonable and you're doing what you feel is best for your son. That's admirable. No need to duck...except maybe for that Bush sign.babydoll2u said:WOW... there have certainly been alot of new post-ers since the last time I was here. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or not
At the risk of repetition to those who already know me here, I'll introduce myself to our new friends.
I'm married (obviously), mother of 2 (only one at home), in Florida.
Due to illness and subsequent medications, my husbands sex drive has been all but wiped out. We last were sexually intimate well over 2 years ago. However, my husband is also the type of man who believes that affection of any kind should and does (for him) lead to sex. Therefore, since he can't "get it up" anymore, he doesn't feel the need for affection.... either receiving or giving.
It's just not important to him.
It is to me...very important. I'm an extremely affectionate, loving, "touchy-feely" type of woman. And I need it in return... something that my husband finds incredulous, for some reason.
In the past 2 years, we have basically become strangers, but remain friends (I know, that sounds odd, but I can't think if a better way to phrase what we are). We get along fine, not much arguing, which isn't really surprising given the lack of communication. We sleep in separate bedrooms (his suggestion), and meet in the "middle" for our son.
Our son is a very happy, well-adjusted 4 1/2 year old, who adores both me and his father and we adore him. It is for our son that I stay in this loveless, affection-less marriage.
My husband knows that I frequent Lit (tho he doesn't know that I host 3 threads) and is not at all happy about it. God forbid he should discover that I post my pictures on Lit. He'd most likely leave me over it.
I had a lover for a few months (ducking), who was also one of my closest friends. His company transferred him out of state, so while we are no longer lovers, we are still close friends and stay in close contact. Would I have another lover? Most likely.
Well, that's me, for better or for worse.
Nice to meet all of you and nice to see familiar names.
JK
babydoll2u
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SweetErika said:I would never be able to keep this from my husband, nor would I be unfaithful... except in the above situation. But as much as I'd never want to share him, I'd give him my blessing to go out and get what he needed too if I wasn't able to give it to him. It sounds like your husband's unreasonable and you're doing what you feel is best for your son. That's admirable. No need to duck...except maybe for that Bush sign.
LMAO.... good jab lol
thanks for the support btw
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