Married Posters

[BigGuyPA44]

7 year itch???

My husband doesn't know I come here. We've been married 7 years and although our marriage is far from perfect I would never cheat on him "in the flesh". That said, I don't think one sex partner can ever meet all my needs, desires, fantasies, and kinks. Coming online gives me an outlet for experiences I don't have with my husband. But it is a part of me that I want to keep secret - at least for now.

Come back after 20 years and let us know
Yep...faithful for 20 years...that is my story and I am sticking to it!

B

 

[BigGuyPA44]

7 year itch???

My husband doesn't know I come here. We've been married 7 years and although our marriage is far from perfect I would never cheat on him "in the flesh". That said, I don't think one sex partner can ever meet all my needs, desires, fantasies, and kinks. Coming online gives me an outlet for experiences I don't have with my husband. But it is a part of me that I want to keep secret - at least for now.

Come back after 20 years and let us know
Yep...faithful for 20 years...that is my story and I am sticking to it!

B

 

[babydoll2u]

Re: 7 year itch???

Come back after 20 years and let us know
Yep...faithful for 20 years...that is my story and I am sticking to it!

B

If that's true.... you have all of my admiration.

 

[oregun]

In my previous marriage sex was once a month if I was lucky . And I truely loved giving oral sex which she found disgusting . I never got that ! Anyway a chat line turned into a meeting then cheating . While in it let me know I still was a very good lover and able to please a women it tore me up inside . If I had to do it agian I would find the courage to get out of a bad relation before sewing wild oats . Aside from the betrayal of another person what it did to me inside Iwould just rather not repeat . Funny what we learn about ourselves . I thought I was alot more cold hearted then that .
As for now I ended that relation and moved on . I have found a wonderful lady that has a sex drive . Its so nice having someone who enjoys being pleased . As for cheating agian . I flirt ,look ,and enjoy a fantasy every now and then , but no touchy . Thats not to say I don't still have desires , but nothing a little self pleasure won't take care of .

 

[ONOURL8]

I've been married about 13 years. My wife knows that I visit this "kind of site" but doesn't know the details about Literotica. We each kind of do our own thing and respect each other on that.

I've met several people from online over the years, nobody from Lit yet. I seem to have a thing for married women.....long story.


Anyway, that's me.

 

[HairTrigger]

I'm wondering if anyone has found the right person to stray with. I still haven't.

Nope.

 

[hausfrau]

Do you still feel you are struggling with the decision to stay faithful, Mike? I agree, the line is blurry once you think a line exists at all and that you may cross it. I'd say for about the first 7 or 8 years of my marriage that I didn't really notice other men in a sexual way. I was totally into my hubby and he was all I needed sexually. Now I'm not so sure.

Pebbles, I totally know how you feel. I think what I'm craving more than anything is the excitement of a new lover, the anticipation of it. And I think if the right situation were to present, I might get carried away.

 

[ram1_2]

Pebbles, I totally know how you feel. I think what I'm craving more than anything is the excitement of a new lover, the anticipation of it. And I think if the right situation were to present, I might get carried away.

For some, the decision is complex........there are legal as well as moral ramifications. Nevertheless, one is left with an aching void... which is exceedingly difficult to live with.

In my humble opinion, everyone should have to opportunity to love and be loved. Denial of this, to any individual, is a horrid act........

 

[Mr_Zero]

Long Time - No Post

I haven't actually posted in quite some time. In fact, I haven't been back to Lit in quite some time. Guess I just got busy. Tonight, for whatever reason, I decided I'd drop in and see what was up. This thread seemed particularly interesting.

So, to chime in with the rest of you - I'm married and my wife is aware of as much as she wants to be aware of.

What the heck does that mean?

It means that she knows that I sometimes chat with people online. And she knows that it can be (but is not limited to) sexual subjects. And anytime she asks a question (i.e. "Who are you chatting with?" or "What are you chatting about?") I give her an honest answer. I think because of that, it doesn't make her uncomfortable or feel threatened by it in any way.

I don't spend a lot of time hiding out in another room of the house on the computer avoiding her. I think that, if I did, she would have cause for concern. In fact, I'm usually on the couch next to her with the laptop.

Although I find the online community fascinating, chatting with people here has never evolved into a relationship. Of course, that's a slippery slope and th e possibility is always there, but I think that would also tell me something about myself and/or marriage at that point.

For now, it's just entertaining, stimulating conversation. I think that is because, although I'd really like to see more physical intimacy, our marriage is pretty spotless. We have a lot of fun together and make a great team. Lit isn't an escape for me or a means to something outside of the marriage. It is simply a safe place to be human with like-minded people (and you know who you are).

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"The question isn't whether the glass is half empty or half full. The question is, 'What is in the glass?'"

 

[lajay]

Great post...my wife doesn't know...I love to talk with other ladies about sexual things, what they would do...what I would do etc...help or hurt...well, mostly when i get done talking to the women here, and on line, I'm usually ready to go, so sometimes it helps!!

 

[stubnib]

This is a great thread. I'm new to the boards but discovered Lit a couple of months back to read the stories. This is my first post.

No, my wife does not know that I visit this site though she knows that I visit other sites. She's not to happy about it but knows that she can't stop me. We've argued over the fact that I occasionally visit "porn" sites.

I've not chatted on this or any other board but would like to, primarily to talk about shared interests (the interests that my wife no longer shares). Over the years, my wife has grown more conservative and no longer wants to discuss these things. Therefore, I've searched the web where I can talk to like minded folks. Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining, I love my wife and our relationship is very strong ... our interest in sex have just diverged.

In fact, I've recently written my first story about a group sex experience I had 20 years ago. It was liberating to finally get the story out there. Group sex and voyeurism were a big parts of my life before I got married 12 years ago and I miss being able to talk about it.

Anyway, looking forward to learning how to post, chat, etc.

 

[olderwoman]

This is a great thread. I'm new to the boards but discovered Lit a couple of months back to read the stories. This is my first post.

No, my wife does not know that I visit this site though she knows that I visit other sites. She's not to happy about it but knows that she can't stop me. We've argued over the fact that I occasionally visit "porn" sites.

I've not chatted on this or any other board but would like to, primarily to talk about shared interests (the interests that my wife no longer shares). Over the years, my wife has grown more conservative and no longer wants to discuss these things. Therefore, I've searched the web where I can talk to like minded folks. Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining, I love my wife and our relationship is very strong ... our interest in sex have just diverged.

In fact, I've recently written my first story about a group sex experience I had 20 years ago. It was liberating to finally get the story out there. Group sex and voyeurism were a big parts of my life before I got married 12 years ago and I miss being able to talk about it.

Anyway, looking forward to learning how to post, chat, etc.

I used to get upset about my husband looking at porn, I guess it made me feel insecure, like he wanted someone who looked like that. Luckily I finally got over it. I guess I'm one of the lucky one's because our sex life is better than
ever (married almost 14 yrs) Although I find I'm becoming more and more adventurous, and I started coming here to get some idea about how to gently introduce some new things. He knows I read the stories here (I have even written him some!) he doesn't know I read and sometimes post on the boards though.

 

[CUBANMALE]

I used to get upset about my husband looking at porn, I guess it made me feel insecure, like he wanted someone who looked like that. Luckily I finally got over it. I guess I'm one of the lucky one's because our sex life is better than
ever (married almost 14 yrs) Although I find I'm becoming more and more adventurous, and I started coming here to get some idea about how to gently introduce some new things. He knows I read the stories here (I have even written him some!) he doesn't know I read and sometimes post on the boards though.

You should talk with my wife.

And what have you introduced after learning in here ????

 

[olderwoman]

You should talk with my wife.

And what have you introduced after learning in here ????

Well, I'm finding a little of the exhibitionist in me and I'm gently trying to make him comfortable with the idea. This weekend went for a ride and I wore my little plaid school girl skirt with some knee high black boots and no undies In the car I kept pulling my skirt higher and higher until....he gets very excited Also I got him to go shopping for a vibrator with me (totally new for us!)

 

[CUBANMALE]

Well, I'm finding a little of the exhibitionist in me and I'm gently trying to make him comfortable with the idea. This weekend went for a ride and I wore my little plaid school girl skirt with some knee high black boots and no undies In the car I kept pulling my skirt higher and higher until....he gets very excited Also I got him to go shopping for a vibrator with me (totally new for us!)

I wish to had been riding in a tall car next to yours That would had been really fun

What was new for you, him going to buy a vib with you, or using a vib ?

BTW, you are not getting older, you are getting better

 

[olderwoman]

I wish to had been riding in a tall car next to yours That would had been really fun

What was new for you, him going to buy a vib with you, or using a vib ?

BTW, you are not getting older, you are getting better

We never used any type of sex toys before. (I was always too embarassed) The idea of getting fucked while other people watch really gets me hot (I don't think he'd go for that! ) I turned 36 last month and my sex drive has been really high for the last year or so, it's weird! But my husband can be a very jealous guy (he thinks every guy wants me (crazy bastard ) so getting him to loosen up is gonna be difficult.

 

[CUBANMALE]

We never used any type of sex toys before. (I was always too embarassed) The idea of getting fucked while other people watch really gets me hot (I don't think he'd go for that! ) I turned 36 last month and my sex drive has been really high for the last year or so, it's weird! But my husband can be a very jealous guy (he thinks every guy wants me (crazy bastard ) so getting him to loosen up is gonna be difficult.

Well, he is probably right when he think that every guy wants you. AT your age, it is primetime.

Did you like your toy ??? Do you use it alone or with him ???

If you need an spectator, feel free to contact me; but I would like it more to be a participant

 

[LingerieandLace]

Well, I'm finding a little of the exhibitionist in me and I'm gently trying to make him comfortable with the idea. This weekend went for a ride and I wore my little plaid school girl skirt with some knee high black boots and no undies In the car I kept pulling my skirt higher and higher until....he gets very excited Also I got him to go shopping for a vibrator with me (totally new for us!)

Well it sounds like you are off to a great start !

 

[BigGuyPA44]

older woman

First of all, you are not older....maybe more mature

And I wish I was 36 again

and keep working on your hubby...he may be jealous, but he probably loves the idea that other men do want you! The exhibition trick is just a nice safe way to do that. I love to look and wish my wife would show more to others. I am sure she thinks that I would be jealous too, but I would love to watch her with another woman ( she knows that) or another man (something we need to discuss more)

B

 

[olderwoman]

Well, he is probably right when he think that every guy wants you. AT your age, it is primetime.

Did you like your toy ??? Do you use it alone or with him ???

If you need an spectator, feel free to contact me; but I would like it more to be a participant

What would your wife say! lol As for the vibe, we have used it together, and I have used it by myself, experimenting you know I'll tell you what, it's a cruel joke that I'm so wild now, why not when I was 18 and hot looking? Not fair! I have not gotten hit on in years and it does bruise the ego.

 

[CUBANMALE]

What would your wife say! lol As for the vibe, we have used it together, and I have used it by myself, experimenting you know I'll tell you what, it's a cruel joke that I'm so wild now, why not when I was 18 and hot looking? Not fair! I have not gotten hit on in years and it does bruise the ego.

I would not tell my wife if you promess to keep it a secret

How do you prefer to use iot then ???

If you pass my way, I would made sure to break that dry spell

 

[hausfrau]

Olderwoman, I'll be thirty-three in December and I can tell you for sure that you are NOT older!!!

I can relate to your posts, as I am in the same place as you -- getting my libido back with a vengeance after a long (for me) spell of not feeling sexual. My husband and I are experimenting a lot and talking talking talking.

As for the hitting on thing -- well, maybe you just aren't paying attention. My husband has told me for YEARS that other men find me attractive and sexy, and I told him for YEARS that I though he was crazy. And then, suddenly, I started paying attention to my interactions with men -- at the grocery store, bank, the mall, whatever -- and damned if some of them weren't sending subtle signals. I am noticing a lot of appreciative glances, some second looks, even a few outright stares and once-overs. Not from everyone, but hell, I don't find all men attractive, so why should they all find me attractive?? [laugh].

I guess my point is, if you feel sexy, people are going to catch your vibe and send it back, and I don't know about you, but that makes me feel sexy as hell.

I guess this is a long winded way of saying "Welcome!"

 

[stubnib]

I used to get upset about my husband looking at porn, I guess it made me feel insecure, like he wanted someone who looked like that. Luckily I finally got over it. I guess I'm one of the lucky one's because our sex life is better than
ever (married almost 14 yrs) Although I find I'm becoming more and more adventurous, and I started coming here to get some idea about how to gently introduce some new things. He knows I read the stories here (I have even written him some!) he doesn't know I read and sometimes post on the boards though.

That's great, I'm glad for you. My wife and I looked at some porn together and things got hot for a while but she always reverts back. I've pretty much given up trying.

Occasionally, she wants to hear about my group sex and gangbang experiences from the past, gets hot, we have great sex but it the next day, it's back to square one.

What ideas have you come up with? I'd love to hear!

 

[stubnib]

I turned 36 last month and my sex drive has been really high for the last year or so, it's weird! But my husband can be a very jealous guy (he thinks every guy wants me (crazy bastard ) so getting him to loosen up is gonna be difficult.

Olderwoman,

36! Your are just starting to hit your peak, no secret why your sex drive has been high. Looks like you're starting your explorations at the right time.

Your husband is probably right, all the guys are probably checking you out

 

[olderwoman]

That's great, I'm glad for you. My wife and I looked at some porn together and things got hot for a while but she always reverts back. I've pretty much given up trying.

Occasionally, she wants to hear about my group sex and gangbang experiences from the past, gets hot, we have great sex but it the next day, it's back to square one.

What ideas have you come up with? I'd love to hear!

I used to worry about what my husband would think of me if I really let myself go (although I'm still holding back, I don't want to shock the poor dear!) stubnib I bet your wife is just embarassed. Let's face it, we women are brought up thinking that if we crave dirty nasty things that we are sluts (although I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman enjoying a full sexual life) I really don't know how to get him to let me be the exhibitionist that I am (it does get me sooooo hot!) Anyone here have any ideas??? Give a girl a little help?