I'm bisexual and have been with only 1 woman. We were together off and on for the past 3 years and our husbands were always there watching and joining in after a while. There was no interaction with the other's spouse. My husband seemed to really enjoy it and we talked about it all the time. Now that I'm wanting to be with another woman, he is saying he doesn't want to be a part of it. BUT I KNOW THAT IF I WAS TO FIND A SINGLE WOMAN, HE WOULD DO IT! My question is.....do you think he is just not comfortable with another man being involved. I would feel better being with a MARRIED woman. He's says if I'm going to do it, that I can do it behind his back. I have no desire to do it behind his back.....I've always wanted him to be a part of it. I always thought that husbands liked their wives to be bisexual, esspecially if they got to be involved too?!?!? Is that not true? MARRIED GUYS, WHAT DO YOU THINK???????? Thanks!
Married men, please answer this one....
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I know you wanted a response from married men, but I just had to respond here and say that the whole "ALL men want bisexual wives" theory is a stereotype and is not always true.
Sure, it is true a lot but just not always. (Watch any Jerry Springer episode where the wife comes out and says she wants to have her girlfriend AND stay married and see just how accepting the husband are.....)
Sure, it is true a lot but just not always. (Watch any Jerry Springer episode where the wife comes out and says she wants to have her girlfriend AND stay married and see just how accepting the husband are.....)
Not a married guy, but I know how I'd feel....
My wife is for me alone. If she shags someone else - ANYONE else, male or female, I'd have a problem with it.
I know that bringing in extra people is good for a bit of fun, and I'm not opposed to the idea, but I don't think I could stand to see my girl with anyone else but me.
MADDOG
My wife is for me alone. If she shags someone else - ANYONE else, male or female, I'd have a problem with it.
I know that bringing in extra people is good for a bit of fun, and I'm not opposed to the idea, but I don't think I could stand to see my girl with anyone else but me.
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I'm married..second time. If she wanted to play with another woman, I THINK I would be ok with it. But, I do not think that a three would work...for a variety of reasons.
My wife is bisexual and while she does not have a girlfriend currently I am fine with her doing what she will with other women. If she wanted me to be involved that would be great. I can only tell you that other men I know are very possesive of their wives and would not want to split their affections in anyway with someone else. That does not sound like it is true in your case, though. I can only suggest that you and your husband talk about it in more detail and find out specificaly what it is that bothers him.
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What if the tables were turned?
Let's say hubby was bi and wanted you to watch while him and some guy... Well, you know what I mean.
I think that the first time he was part of it was a new and very interesting experience for him, but now there is no wondering about it or anything.
I'm not quite sure what I'm trying to say anyway, but I think you get my picture.
Rand al'Thor
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Let's say hubby was bi and wanted you to watch while him and some guy... Well, you know what I mean.
I think that the first time he was part of it was a new and very interesting experience for him, but now there is no wondering about it or anything.
I'm not quite sure what I'm trying to say anyway, but I think you get my picture.
Rand al'Thor
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Numero uno -
Numero uno. That's the way we play it. We swing but only with each other present. I don't mind men being present, watching or fucking my wife. Fact is I like anything that turns-on and pleases my wife. One woman, a couple or a group. My turn-on is actually her turn on. I'm secure enough with our relationship and my own maleness to handle just about anything - except another man making a move on me - physically I mean - they have often asked (hey I'm cute with a nice ass) but no, I haven't entertained serious fantasies about other men - unless they are pleasuring my wife. In the end our one big rule in the "number one" rule. As long as we're in our relationship - a loving/sharing/giving/caring/dedicated relationship - then we both have to feel number one toward each other. I'm her number one and she's mine. That's it.
Numero uno. That's the way we play it. We swing but only with each other present. I don't mind men being present, watching or fucking my wife. Fact is I like anything that turns-on and pleases my wife. One woman, a couple or a group. My turn-on is actually her turn on. I'm secure enough with our relationship and my own maleness to handle just about anything - except another man making a move on me - physically I mean - they have often asked (hey I'm cute with a nice ass) but no, I haven't entertained serious fantasies about other men - unless they are pleasuring my wife. In the end our one big rule in the "number one" rule. As long as we're in our relationship - a loving/sharing/giving/caring/dedicated relationship - then we both have to feel number one toward each other. I'm her number one and she's mine. That's it.
My view...
I'd be "OK" if my wife wanted to be with another woman but I think I'd feel threatened if she wanted another bloke for women can express their love for each other in a different way to which a man and a woman express their love..... I hope you understand what I mean?
I'd be "OK" if my wife wanted to be with another woman but I think I'd feel threatened if she wanted another bloke for women can express their love for each other in a different way to which a man and a woman express their love..... I hope you understand what I mean?
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a lot of men actually feel threatened by a woman in this situation, because he has no defense if you choose her. maybe he has seen a passion you did not have with him and is nervous that you will only want a woman. whether he knows otherwise is not a factor because fear is not logic-based.
I am married (12 years) and the whole woman/woman thing has never been a HUGE turn on. I can see why your husband would tell you to do it "behind his back."
Maybe the novelty wore off (unlikely), maybe he secretly feels unneccessary when you're getting off on another woman and he can't touch her, or maybe he wants to have his own side thing and figures if you do yours without him he now has the okay to do his without you. You say you are sure he would do it if the girl was single. Why are you sure? Is he insecure in front of other men? Would you let him share the woman if it was okay with her? If you want to dig, dig, but if he is adament then maybe pushing the issue is a bad idea.
Nex
Maybe the novelty wore off (unlikely), maybe he secretly feels unneccessary when you're getting off on another woman and he can't touch her, or maybe he wants to have his own side thing and figures if you do yours without him he now has the okay to do his without you. You say you are sure he would do it if the girl was single. Why are you sure? Is he insecure in front of other men? Would you let him share the woman if it was okay with her? If you want to dig, dig, but if he is adament then maybe pushing the issue is a bad idea.
Nex
I'm married for the second time ... personally, if my wife wanted to bring another woman to our relationship, it would be fine with me. The only problem, of course, is what the other woman would want from the relationship. If she is there for only you ... or your husband is afraid of losing you to her ... then that creates a real problem.
Maybe you and he need to talk more about the situation ... and clarify what you would want from bringing a single woman into your relationship. Remember - she will bring a great change to your relationship because she - unlike your friend - has no attachments to limit her attachment to YOU.
Be careful ... and good luck ...
Nom
Maybe you and he need to talk more about the situation ... and clarify what you would want from bringing a single woman into your relationship. Remember - she will bring a great change to your relationship because she - unlike your friend - has no attachments to limit her attachment to YOU.
Be careful ... and good luck ...
Nom
