long story & I have to get it off my chest

[bubman]

so back in July of last year my girl friend and i where starting to have some trouble. she lost custody oh her kids, ( they wanted to live with there dad) and that crushed her. i can understand that, and i gave her what she wanted, a shoulder to cry on or space to be alone.but her time alone got to be more then i could take and i guess i got a little clingy, and that just seemed to push her away....... let me jump ahead to Jan. of this year. i had found some phone numbers and canceled checks that where supposed to be hid, and i find out she told me it was her and her sister just hanging out. then she would go to her " sisters" for the weekend.( i didn't believe her) so one night i followed her to a guys house. when she came home i had packed her stuff and told her it was time for her to go....... she broke down and said it was nothing just someone different to talk to. about this time i went in the hospital with diabetes and lost part of my left foot... when i got out , i came home to find she had pack all the stuff in the house and took off ( even my dog ). skip to Sept.12. i get a call from her she now tells me she is married, pregnant and wants to come back because her husband beats her and cheats on her. she tells me she sees how much we had and wants it back....... i have no had to go down and file a restraining order on her. and she says IM the bad guy and should get over it........ i know this is long and boring but i need to hear from some women out there. Am i

 

[Suzi]

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.....

No, Bub. you are not. She made her choice...a very BAD choice. Now if she wants to leave the situation fine...no woman should put up with being beaten, but to sucker you back in...uh uh! Don't let it happen.

That is what I think!

Suzi

 

[Bindii]

It sounds to me like she has decided to just dump all her problems onto you....problems I might add that she has created for herself. Its always easier to blame someone else isn't it.

I'd stay as far away from her as you can. Don't be sucked in by her sob story, she needs to learn to stand on her own two feet.

She made her bed, let her lie in it.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Only you can decide what you want....

But what Bindii said, to me rings true.

 

[Cheyenne]

It sounds to me like she has decided to just dump all her problems onto you....problems I might add that she has created for herself. Its always easier to blame someone else isn't it.

I'd stay as far away from her as you can. Don't be sucked in by her sob story, she needs to learn to stand on her own two feet.

She made her bed, let her lie in it.

ditto.

But at least make her give you your dog back!

 

[hatara]

No. Don't try and get the dog back hun that would only give her an in to try and get to you. She could have left when you gave her the chance and instead she waited for you to be in the hospital and down and walked out with everything. That isn't someone that cares about you. That is someone using your kindness and forgiving to get what she wants. Don't let her do it to you twice.

 

[bubman]

A BIG THANK YOU TO ALL OF YOU............. AS FOR ME, THE ONLY THING I DO MISS IS THE DOG

 

[SilverVeil]

Let her move back in, get all your stuff back, then kick her to the curb and keep your stuff. Give her what is hers though ... you don't want to sink to her level.

( this is meant to be sarcastic )

You are better off without her. Things can be replaced. Even though some things might have sentimental value to you ... sometimes it has to be faced that they are just gone and it sucks not to have them anymore. Screw her. She made her decision, let her find some other sucker to fall for her sob story.

I wish you the best of luck and hope things go well for you in this matter.

 

[bubman]

i just wanted to thasnk you all for takeing the time to stop and read this and helped me see that i am not wrong in what happened.......
thanks again.....

 

[Arc da Rat]

I have nothing to add but I agree with all the ladies that have posted above ...

Bubman this is for you

*give you a big hug*

(((HUGS)))

 

[Bidin~Time]

Bubman, any woman (or man) who would walk out on someone who is sick and in the hospital is a worthless, self-centered person and needs to be put down so they'll quit breathing good people's air.

And to have the nerve to try and sucker you back! Just so you can "fix" her problems.....she'll walk out again .....i hope you realize that....
Point her in the direction of a short pier and tell her to take a long walk!


Hold out for someone who appreciates you!
Good luck sugar!

 

[Cheyenne]

I'd still never give up MY pet to anyone. If someone stole one of my cats, I'd hunt him down to the ends of the earth to get my pet back. Pets aren't "things" they are family.

 

[Sandia]

Dogs are better than people.
Cats are about the same.

 

[Mischka]

I agree with Cheyenne. As soon as she realizes that she's not going to get you back (which is why she took the dog - as incentive), she's going to dump the poor thing in a shelter or worse. It's heart wrenching to see adult dogs confused and alone in small pens at the shelter, wondering where their people went. Few people adopt adult dogs, and your dog will very likely be put to sleep.

If you have any heart, please get that dog out of there.

 

[Gingersnap]

I am sorry this has happened to you. Only you can decide in the end what is best for you. However from what you have shared it seems that she is using you for your resources at this point. Some people make shitty decisions and it gets to be a habit. The folks above are right about some things. If you keep bailing this girl out she will never get the connection between her choices and the reality of her life. More importantly what does it do to you when you bail her out? You need to keep yourself healthy and regulated on your medications. She brings undue stress to your life and that is something you cannot allow. You can try asking for the dog back but not at the risk of her conniving her way into your home. There are plenty of women out there who would love having a committed caring relationship. Find another lady Bud. This girl may be very lovely in some ways but she cares only for herself. She seems to not be capable of anything but using others.

 

[bubman]

ok so i guess i should give an up date............ last i talked to anyone who still talks to her said, she is still going to leave the other guy ( not sure who is better off in that case)and she is living in a motel, and no one knows for sure witch one
and no I WILL NEVER LET HER BACK, i did that one time and i found out the hard way what can happen
as for my dog.......... no one has seen him, so if you see a 120lbs black lab with a blue collor running the streets, let me know ok ?

 

[Georgia Girl]

Darling man you are doing the right thing in letting her go not only from your heart but from your soul as well. It can be difficult to severe that tie which had once been so strong but it can also be worth it.

On an up note.......there is a coon hound convention coming up really soon and I recall you like coon hounds. Lots of puppies there.

Dawn

 

[bubman]

did someone say something about puppys ?? im all ears
and thanks baby...... you dont know how much i liked haveing you there to talk to about this

 

[MechaBlade]

Lock your doors, bub.

Glad to see someone has a Heavy Metal AV.

 

[Georgia Girl]

did someone say something about puppys ?? im all ears
and thanks baby...... you dont know how much i liked haveing you there to talk to about this

Thats the thing with these puppies, they are all ears, especially the blood hounds (you know those are my favorite), the black and tans aren't as bad though. We just need to get you into the midst of all the breeds and then you can find your puppy.

I think you'll look cute covered in puppy kisses.

 

[bubman]

hell no....... shes welcome anytime

 

[Georgia Girl]

the puppy?

 

[bubman]

not the puppy... you !!!!!!!
ok the puppy too

 

[Georgia Girl]

Are we still going to that Halloween thingy do?

I just thought about it.

 

[bubman]

babby i'll take you anywhere you want to go ........ twice