Litiquette

[Paul_Chance]

I like busy days and when I am caught up in them, I don't think of Lit much - generally fully in the moment, especially when I am busy.

 

[Thandi]

So, you've PM'd with someone for a little bit...they seem really into you, but you... not so much. Do you just stop PM'ing? Do you tell them it's not working?
I'm pretty sure this has been covered, but there's too many posts to go through.
Just curious.
And.....if you feel topic has been covered...skip right over me!

 

[cowslinger64]

So, you've PM'd with someone for a little bit...they seem really into you, but you... not so much. Do you just stop PM'ing? Do you tell them it's not working?
I'm pretty sure this has been covered, but there's too many posts to go through.
Just curious.
And.....if you feel topic has been covered...skip right over me!

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Hs-lUEclquI/TdNLoGVRKCI/AAAAAAAAB04/_CLGs5O9lv0/s1600/crying_baby.jpg

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Who knew unicorns were so perverted

It's been a hectic day, when where stealing peaks at lit didn't happen too often.

On a busy day, do you miss not coming to Lit or are you glad it's one thing you can remove from the equation pretty easily?

I check in twice.. before and after work. . I don't miss posting during the day..

 

[Paul_Chance]

So, you've PM'd with someone for a little bit...they seem really into you, but you... not so much. Do you just stop PM'ing? Do you tell them it's not working?
I'm pretty sure this has been covered, but there's too many posts to go through.
Just curious.
And.....if you feel topic has been covered...skip right over me!

That is a tough question for me. I think it depends on the nature of the initial exchanges...on what has gone before.

If you've exchanged more than twenty messages, then you need to give them closure - a nice thanks no thanks note at least.

If you've exchanged less then twenty - then you can just stop talking to them - most folks get the hint.

I do believe, in either case, you should have goodbye sex with them.

 

[Thandi]

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Hs-lUEclquI/TdNLoGVRKCI/AAAAAAAAB04/_CLGs5O9lv0/s1600/crying_baby.jpg

Is this better???

http://babygooroo.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/iStock_000002728034Small-306x228.jpg

 

[Thandi]

If you've exchanged more than twenty messages, then you need to give them closure - a nice thanks no thanks note at least.

If you've exchanged less then twenty - then you can just stop talking to them - most folks get the hint.

I do believe, in either case, you should have goodbye sex with them.

And this is why I like you.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

So, you've PM'd with someone for a little bit...they seem really into you, but you... not so much. Do you just stop PM'ing? Do you tell them it's not working?
I'm pretty sure this has been covered, but there's too many posts to go through.
Just curious.
And.....if you feel topic has been covered...skip right over me!

Here's a dilemma I have. Just because my kink does not match yours does not mean I don't still want to be friends.

There are other things people can talk about besides whether you're into being tied up, ass-fucked, or Hucowed...

Really..

But, if we can't think of anything to talk about, no common ground at all?... the messages will naturally drift away.

If you know for a fact You're not into someone, you should say so, or at least make it clear you only view them as a friend... which is not a bad thing.

 

[Thandi]

Hucowed...

I confess, I had no idea what this meant, so I looked it up.....

Hucow
Hucow is a lady who enjoys being milked but also is into insemination aka breeding and thus is into bareback / unprotected sex. She can be married or single. If married she is often a Hotwife and hubby is a cuckold that enjoys cream pies. The Superior Male doing the breeding is called a Bull.

OH MY!

 

[Aquagal]

I wonder if she makes cheese too.

 

[Thandi]

I wonder if she makes cheese too.

I like cheese.

 

[cole4258]

I like cheese.

hmm as in cheese cake???

Now I am craving cheese cake

 

[SweetSam42]

So, you've PM'd with someone for a little bit...they seem really into you, but you... not so much. Do you just stop PM'ing? Do you tell them it's not working?
I'm pretty sure this has been covered, but there's too many posts to go through.
Just curious.
And.....if you feel topic has been covered...skip right over me!

This is an excellent question. I don't want to hurt feelings/bruise egos, and never know what to say. So I just stop responding sometimes. But that feels wrong.

Bottom line: I have no answer and am no help.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I confess, I had no idea what this meant, so I looked it up.....

Hucow
Hucow is a lady who enjoys being milked but also is into insemination aka breeding and thus is into bareback / unprotected sex. She can be married or single. If married she is often a Hotwife and hubby is a cuckold that enjoys cream pies. The Superior Male doing the breeding is called a Bull.

OH MY!

*insert kink disclaimer here*

Lol

No..I am not a Hucow...

 

[dutchrain]

So, you've PM'd with someone for a little bit...they seem really into you, but you... not so much. Do you just stop PM'ing? Do you tell them it's not working?
I'm pretty sure this has been covered, but there's too many posts to go through.
Just curious.
And.....if you feel topic has been covered...skip right over me!

Like Paul said, if quite some messages have been exchanged in a short while a little note saying why it doesn't work for you would be nice. Like RA said, some exchanges simply stop, sometimes it seems both feel there isn't more to be said and the frequency dwindles slowly to a full stop.

In my opinion the difference between the two is the fact in the first exchange one is eager to have a conversation and one isn't; in the second exchange the topic people were talking about is done with.

I don't think one has to respond after a long while of nothing with a note saying "It seems we don't have anything to talk about anymore, let's stop."

Some exchanges do happen only infrequently though. One talks about something, the theme is done with, for a while there are no messages until one of the two reacts to a post the other made or sends a "how are you" and for some time there is a new discussion.

Edits to say the whole hucow (I googled too; Human Cow!) and cheese conversation made me a tiny bit ... uhm ... queasy ...

 

[ChainedUp]

Good morning Litiquette-ville,

Sometimes we find ourselves in PM chat and you'd like the style of conversation to move from innuendo to more explicit. How do you go about that? How do you know when it's right to take that next step. Nothing like thinking the ice is thick enough only to discover it's paper thin.

 

[ydahecnot]

A corollary to the Potter Stewart line about not being able to define porn, but knowing it when you see it, applies here.

 

[tiny_tits]

Good morning Litiquette-ville,

Sometimes we find ourselves in PM chat and you'd like the style of conversation to move from innuendo to more explicit. How do you go about that? How do you know when it's right to take that next step. Nothing like thinking the ice is thick enough only to discover it's paper thin.

Better than starting at ground zero.
"How are you today" has a zero chance with me.
Too much small talk before an interesting comment.

"Like it up the ass?" Also a no go.

Be creative.
Something related to a recent post I made, with a personal insight, much better.

 

[SweetSam42]

I admit I don't do any of the initiating around here, but I will say that I'm very, very cautious about engaging in anything more than flirting and innuendo, and usually don't want any more than that. I find I'm disappointed when a fun back and forth flirting partner wants to elevate things to something I'm not comfortable with. I realize this isn't exactly fair of me, and that I'm so cautious I might be an anomaly here, but the flirting is what I enjoy.

So, that didn't exactly answer the question, did it. I seem to be of little help around here lately.

 

[stickygirl]

Good morning Litiquette-ville,

Sometimes we find ourselves in PM chat and you'd like the style of conversation to move from innuendo to more explicit. How do you go about that? How do you know when it's right to take that next step. Nothing like thinking the ice is thick enough only to discover it's paper thin.

Can anyone actually say the word corollary without sounding like their giving head… try it

How do you know? *shrug* I guess liguistically you might kick off with "I'm so horny and I really want you" that still leaves room for the other person to duck out but as hints go, it's pretty much truck-sized huh?
I've only cybered a couple of times and the fun of it was surprising the other person with what you do/say next. I had my breath taken away a few times and only hope they felt the same but tthe nature of cyber is that you can't see their pupils go like saucers. The feedback is kinda clunky isn't it?

PS To Mr Spins. Sorry that I was snarky to you, it was unfair of me

 

[tiny_tits]

So, you've PM'd with someone for a little bit...they seem really into you, but you... not so much. Do you just stop PM'ing? Do you tell them it's not working?
I'm pretty sure this has been covered, but there's too many posts to go through.
Just curious.
And.....if you feel topic has been covered...skip right over me!

Guilty

 

[ChainedUp]

So, you've PM'd with someone for a little bit...they seem really into you, but you... not so much. Do you just stop PM'ing? Do you tell them it's not working?
I'm pretty sure this has been covered, but there's too many posts to go through.
Just curious.
And.....if you feel topic has been covered...skip right over me!

I've done both, neither feel good but when it's not there, it's not there. It's hard to prescribe a way of doing it. And that's all partner driven. If they are strong and mature, then being up front is the way to go. If you know there will be high drama far above current PMs fading away is probably a better choice. It's also a golden rule type thing as well. But you can be comforted that 90% of the time I think people just move on and aren't crushed.

No clear path here, at least not from me.

 

[dutchrain]

Good morning Litiquette-ville,

Sometimes we find ourselves in PM chat and you'd like the style of conversation to move from innuendo to more explicit. How do you go about that? How do you know when it's right to take that next step. Nothing like thinking the ice is thick enough only to discover it's paper thin.

I think if the innuendo goes on and on and gets hotter and hotter forms a pretty good indication if more explicit wording would be welcome. If one of the participants suddenly says something like "I don't really like cream sauce with my asparagus" instead of the expected "Yummy!!!" to the question "With lots of hot creamy sauce???" if two were having a conversation which started on which foods have aphrodisiac qualities, have moved up to asparagus and are now discussing the best way to enjoy them, then I would say one of the two was:
A) Only discussing recipes.
B) Discussing recipes with a little innuendo on the side.
C) Was put off by the two extra question marks.
D) Has changed his/her mind.

Possible ways to react would depend on:
A) How interested are you in the recipes?
B) How good was the innuendo up to now?
C) How many PMs have been exchanged?
D) How big is your interest in the other person?

Possible ways to react could be:
A) Offer a recipe of grilled asparagus with cheese.
B) The above and a
C) The above.
D) Well, the above would do anyway.

Or: You didn't understand the innuendo in "I don't really like cream sauce with my asparagus." The recipe for grilled asparagus with cheese would be okay to send anyway.

 

[Chance_G]

I think if the innuendo goes on and on and gets hotter and hotter forms a pretty good indication if more explicit wording would be welcome. If one of the participants suddenly says something like "I don't really like cream sauce with my asparagus" instead of the expected "Yummy!!!" to the question "With lots of hot creamy sauce???" if two were having a conversation which started on which foods have aphrodisiac qualities, have moved up to asparagus and are now discussing the best way to enjoy them, then I would say one of the two was:
A) Only discussing recipes.
B) Discussing recipes with a little innuendo on the side.
C) Was put off by the two extra question marks.
D) Has changed his/her mind.

Possible ways to react would depend on:
A) How interested are you in the recipes?
B) How good was the innuendo up to now?
C) How many PMs have been exchanged?
D) How big is your interest in the other person?

Possible ways to react could be:
A) Offer a recipe of grilled asparagus with cheese.
B) The above and a
C) The above.
D) Well, the above would do anyway.

Or: You didn't understand the innuendo in "I don't really like cream sauce with my asparagus." The recipe for grilled asparagus with cheese would be okay to send anyway.

Where do I sign up for this cooking class?

How many PMs have you sent at this point? I thought this was the PG

 

[ManOSafety]

I like asparagus