Litiquette VII

[Orchidea73]

I thought I was cool when she talked about sexual personality types...
There’s seven!

The Anxious Lover
The Low Sex Driver
The Explorer
The Rough and Tumbler
The Soulful Lover
The Needy Lover
The Giver

*and* some are more compatible with each other than others
*and* there’s a quiz on her website!
Which I’m sure is collecting all out data. So don’t take it if you don’t wanna....

Which are you?
Or, if you’re an anti quiz taker, which do you think you are?

I’ve got the descriptions of all of them

^ or we could take turns guessing who’s who

I took it and I'm surprised by the result. I thought I was more "soulful". lol
Rough & Tumble Lover

 

[Trekka]

I took it and I'm surprised by the result. I thought I was more "soulful". lol
Rough & Tumble Lover

Hey there
Sounds like fun.
Does it ring true to you?

It’s Hot Sex Or It’s Not Sex:
The Rough and Tumble (RT), hot sex lover feels it isn’t really sex unless some furniture goes flying. In general, they don’t mesh well with the kind of lover who needs soulful, eye-gazing/tender lovemaking. This type of lover might be very disappointed by the drop in desire when the honeymoon stage or New Relationship Energy (NRE) fizzles out.

Attachment To Intensity:
Intensity is what drives the Rough And Tumble Lover. In most relationships tho, the new relationship energy can evolves into a different kind of energy and this often doesn’t sit well. This might happen, for example, when the tender soulful lover finds they aren’t really wanting rough and tumble sex on a regular basis because it’s less fulfilling for them.

 

[Orchidea73]

Hey there
Sounds like fun.
Does it ring true to you?

It’s Hot Sex Or It’s Not Sex:
The Rough and Tumble (RT), hot sex lover feels it isn’t really sex unless some furniture goes flying. In general, they don’t mesh well with the kind of lover who needs soulful, eye-gazing/tender lovemaking. This type of lover might be very disappointed by the drop in desire when the honeymoon stage or New Relationship Energy (NRE) fizzles out.

Attachment To Intensity:
Intensity is what drives the Rough And Tumble Lover. In most relationships tho, the new relationship energy can evolves into a different kind of energy and this often doesn’t sit well. This might happen, for example, when the tender soulful lover finds they aren’t really wanting rough and tumble sex on a regular basis because it’s less fulfilling for them.

While I absolutely do love eye-gazing/tender lovemaking, caressing and other such things. Overall, it does ring true. The part in bold is the reason I ended my last relationship. Passion drives me and without that I would feel trapped, dead inside.

 

[Trekka]

While I absolutely do love eye-gazing/tender lovemaking, caressing and other such things. Overall, it does ring true. The part in bold is the reason I ended my last relationship. Passion drives me and without that I would feel trapped, dead inside.

Oooooh feeling trapped...
That’s one of my triggers and I go mad when it comes up!
I wind up feeling trapped for different reasons tho.
Often legal.

I like to feel more like Dr Livingstone I Presume exploring the Sexual Jungle of the Congo - NRE peters out and passion dips? That’s just a signal to me to look under more leaves and rocks for new [naked, pleasurable] adventures...

Then I wind up with a tail and ears.
Maybe a Daddy.
In a rabbit hole of lesbian porn.
Recording audios.
While I fuck a hairbrush handle.
Live on Skype.

Just kidding.
Kind of.

All that to say, my quiz rang pretty true as well.

Which one would qualify as the "Blow your back out, then make you pancakes" type? Cuz that's basically me.

Perhaps you’re The Giver?

The “Giver” gets turned on by giving their partners pleasure. There are two types of “Givers”, which is the true giver and the neurotic giver who simply gives to get or manipulate.

True givers really and truly get off on other people’s pleasure. Their turn on is literally the partner’s turn on.

Givers are typically incompatible with lovers who have a lower sex drive or trouble with arousal. It can lead to the giver feeling undesirable. As a result, givers will be more affected by the plunges in the desire curve of their partners, than their own changes.

The giver can also border on the edge of “explorer”, one who is willing and open to trying new things and exploring, granted it’s their partner desire and turn on to do so.

 

[Orchidea73]

Oooooh feeling trapped...
That’s one of my triggers and I go mad when it comes up!
I wind up feeling trapped for different reasons tho.
Often legal.

Oh, I do too. One of the reasons I've always changed jobs as well. Always taking risks, though calculated, and always moving smh.

Then I wind up with a tail and ears.
Maybe a Daddy.
In a rabbit hole of lesbian porn.
Recording audios.
While I fuck a hairbrush handle.
Live on Skype.

Just kidding.
Kind of.

I would pay to see that.
You're my kind of crazy.

 

[RickTango]

Oooooh feeling trapped...
That’s one of my triggers and I go mad when it comes up!
I wind up feeling trapped for different reasons tho.
Often legal.

I like to feel more like Dr Livingstone I Presume exploring the Sexual Jungle of the Congo - NRE peters out and passion dips? That’s just a signal to me to look under more leaves and rocks for new [naked, pleasurable] adventures...

Then I wind up with a tail and ears.
Maybe a Daddy.
In a rabbit hole of lesbian porn.
Recording audios.
While I fuck a hairbrush handle.
Live on Skype.

Just kidding.
Kind of.

All that to say, my quiz rang pretty true as well.



Perhaps you’re The Giver?

The “Giver” gets turned on by giving their partners pleasure. There are two types of “Givers”, which is the true giver and the neurotic giver who simply gives to get or manipulate.

True givers really and truly get off on other people’s pleasure. Their turn on is literally the partner’s turn on.

Givers are typically incompatible with lovers who have a lower sex drive or trouble with arousal. It can lead to the giver feeling undesirable. As a result, givers will be more affected by the plunges in the desire curve of their partners, than their own changes.

The giver can also border on the edge of “explorer”, one who is willing and open to trying new things and exploring, granted it’s their partner desire and turn on to do so.

Al I read was “while I fuck a hairbrush live on Skype..”

 

[Endless_Night]

*whispers*
Guess who’s an Explorer?

This^ does not supreme me at all.

What type are you compatible with?

* * *

I am a Needy! No surprise there!

I'd agree with the description, too, except for the part about being needy in general. Absolutely not. But my sexual personality is so separated from my real-time life that's not surprising.

Aaaaand, I do like a, "A rough and tumble/intensity driven lover." I mean, you know, just sayin'.

< Passion drives me and without that I would feel trapped, dead inside.

Oooooh feeling trapped...
That’s one of my triggers and I go mad when it comes up! >

One of my biggest, if not the biggest, trigger. I start feeling trapped and I am outta there so fast you can't even see a trail. No questions asked, no prisoners taken.

 

[Endless_Night]

Al I read was “while I fuck a hairbrush live on Skype..”

Wait. What?!?!

 

[Orchidea73]

What type are you compatible with?

Good question. I would like to know that too. Another rough &Tumble lover? Probably would kill each other off bed tho.

One of my biggest, if not the biggest, trigger. I start feeling trapped and I am outta there so fast you can't even see a trail. No questions asked, no prisoners taken.

No kidding. I've even been accused of being detached and cold. Further from the truth. I don't give up easily but when I do, I never look back. Finito!

 

[Endless_Night]

Needy also >

*chest bump*

< No kidding. I've even been accused of being detached and cold. Further from the truth. I don't give up easily but when I do, I never look back. Finito!

For me it’s more about not getting trapped into sex I don’t want or enjoy. F**k that!

Not surprising, I suppose, as it seems Needys can be on the self-absorbed side when it comes to sex. I’ve felt some guilt for leaving in the past, but not guilty enough to not do it again. Errrr, and again. (And maybe again.)

I’m a demanding, selfish kind of Needy. With a specific set of needs.

*shrugs*

 

[Endless_Night]

I guess two needy people together would work, but I think I'd personally prefer a rough and tumble.

Or possibly the right type of Giver?

 

[Orchidea73]

*chest bump*



For me it’s more about not getting trapped into sex I don’t want or enjoy. F**k that!

Not surprising, I suppose, as it seems Needys can be on the self-absorbed side when it comes to sex. I’ve felt some guilt for leaving in the past, but not guilty enough to not do it again. Errrr, and again. (And maybe again.)

I’m a demanding, selfish kind of Needy. With a specific set of needs.

*shrugs*

I don't want to get trapped in any kind of situation. Let alone sex. Last time I heard it was supposed to be fun and make you feel good, not a job.

Shrugs indeed. Know Thyself. People might still get hurt but at least you know what you want and you are upfront about it. It might sound selfish but personally, I am with "do not settle for less". Idealistic? Probably, but I am fine with it.

 

[Orchidea73]

The Anxious Lover

Why am I not surprised?

LOL

I thought you would be a "Giver".

 

[Trekka]

The Explorer:
Someone who is unconstrained by norms and is not only willing to explore sexuality in all sorts of ways but often requires the intensity of the journey itself. Some may think of explorers as “kinky.”

The explorer is simply someone who enjoys tons of new sex activities as play and experimentation. Sexual explorers can range form the toe dipper to the major full tilt adventurer. In general, the explorers themselves are not so affected by drops in desire as they are inventive and in general willing to find new ways of being able to turn themselves and others on.

Incompatibilities:
Explorers may not mesh well with the tender lovers who want the connection and need to have sex be soft, gentle, and predictable.

Thrill Seekers:
We have tended to pathologize people in this category as being sensation seekers and some experts attribute this behavior to deficits in the dopamine system or some kind of trauma that drives their desire for S&M, for instance. Even in popular literature, such as in Shades of Gray, the S&M habits of the protagonist are portrayed as rooted in a history of abuse. I simply believe that these thrill-seekers have an intense seeking system with high lust.

Extraordinary lovers can teach us a lot about our own capacity for pleasure and what we might find when we go beyond our comfort zones.

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Sooooo it only says I’m incompatible with tender, soft, gentle, predictable lovers. Does not say who an Explorer is compatible with, so I’m gonna say everyone. Because I’d fuck an egg beater if it had game.

Kidding.
Kind of.

Honesty tho I disagree about the tender and gentle piece. I actually yearn for that and crave it. But not all the time. Because, predictable? Shoot me!

 

[Orchidea73]

Honesty tho I disagree about the tender and gentle piece. I actually yearn for that and crave it. But not all the time. Because, predictable? Shoot me!

Agreed!
Yeah. Tests do tend to lean more on the extremes. People do like to mix it up. Some more than the others, but still...there is more variability and complexity to it.

 

[Orchidea73]

I was surprised there were only 4 questions. I took one of those strengths tests recently, and there were 200. How accurate can a test be to shoehorn you into a category if it only has 4 questions?

I took a personality test and it was the same. The questions would just never end. lol

 

[QuietCanadian]

*searches for an egg beater*

The Soulful Lover, which I'm not sure rings true. I read the description and am like "not really?" I mean, some things, sometimes, but overall not so much. Things definitely don't always need to be tender. I'd say that I only had to answer like eight questions, not sure they can extract all the data needed that quickly. I think they are probably putting too much regard on the answer to a question like "if the furniture is not flying, it's not sex." Well, that depends on the day. Maybe there should be a moody lover.

I totally expected the anxious lover.

 

[Daisy_Love]

The Explorer:
Someone who is unconstrained by norms and is not only willing to explore sexuality in all sorts of ways but often requires the intensity of the journey itself. Some may think of explorers as “kinky.”

The explorer is simply someone who enjoys tons of new sex activities as play and experimentation. Sexual explorers can range form the toe dipper to the major full tilt adventurer. In general, the explorers themselves are not so affected by drops in desire as they are inventive and in general willing to find new ways of being able to turn themselves and others on.

Incompatibilities:
Explorers may not mesh well with the tender lovers who want the connection and need to have sex be soft, gentle, and predictable.

Thrill Seekers:
We have tended to pathologize people in this category as being sensation seekers and some experts attribute this behavior to deficits in the dopamine system or some kind of trauma that drives their desire for S&M, for instance. Even in popular literature, such as in Shades of Gray, the S&M habits of the protagonist are portrayed as rooted in a history of abuse. I simply believe that these thrill-seekers have an intense seeking system with high lust.

Extraordinary lovers can teach us a lot about our own capacity for pleasure and what we might find when we go beyond our comfort zones.



Honesty tho I disagree about the tender and gentle piece. I actually yearn for that and crave it. But not all the time. Because, predictable? Shoot me!

Totally agree, can’t we have both Predictably? The worst.

Agreed!
Yeah. Tests do tend to lean more on the extremes. People do like to mix it up. Some more than the others, but still...there is more variability and complexity to it.

They definitely do lean toward extremes, every test like this I’ve straddled two of the outcomes (xcuse the pun ha!) so like NRJ I sit between both or straddle

 

[Trekka]

I was surprised there were only 4 questions. I took one of those strengths tests recently, and there were 200. How accurate can a test be to shoehorn you into a category if it only has 4 questions?

I got seven questions

 

[Orchidea73]

They definitely do lean toward extremes, every test like this I’ve straddled two of the outcomes (xcuse the pun ha!) so like NRJ I sit between both or straddle

You're a taker too, cavewoman.

 

[Trekka]

No Rough n Tumblers, yet?? Really?

 

[Endless_Night]

Also only four questions. Needys must be easy to spot. *nods*

I'm an Explorer AND a Giver. I walk both worlds. Like Blade. But with intercoursin'.>

Aaaaaaaand, I'm on the floor laughing!

 

[Daisy_Love]

You're a taker too, cavewoman.

Hahaha gotta have a bit of give and take, no?

 

[Endless_Night]

No Rough n Tumblers, yet?? Really?

They're out Rough n Tumbling?




Edited to add: Oh! Wait! Orchidea, right? And Daisy_Love, apparently.

 

[QuietCanadian]

No Rough n Tumblers, yet?? Really?

I'm concerned by this test, it was quite easy to answer questions to get to Rough And Tumble. Nor did I have to stretch my answers to get there. I feel like you can be anything you want to be!

I still have the podcast ready to listen to and report on, I find it cool. The test just seems like "which Spice Girl are you?" BTW, Ginger, obvs.