Litiquette V

[aussiegeekygal]

I'm driving red wine, smoking a blunt and waiting for my self saucing pudding to be done. I guess I didn't need to be told to be selfish today

 

[ChainedUp]

The sun comes up on yet another week. It will have its ups and downs, but mostly it will be indistinguishable from any other week. If you had one chance to make the week memorable what you do?

 

[beachbaby179]

The sun comes up on yet another week. It will have its ups and downs, but mostly it will be indistinguishable from any other week. If you had one chance to make the week memorable what you do?

Hop in the car and drive north. See the changing leaves before they turn brown and fall. Sit by a lake and watch the sunset. Or sunrise. Eat lobster with my fingers. Smile.

 

[Paul_Chance]

Maybe it's the mood I am in this morning but I think every day, every week, has dozens of chances for memorable things to happen. I don't have anything burning on my to do list right now, I don't believe in bucket lists, so nothing is popping into mind this morning. I think I will be content with trying to be kinder and more thoughtful than usual.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Hop in the car and drive north. See the changing leaves before they turn brown and fall. Sit by a lake and watch the sunset. Or sunrise. Eat lobster with my fingers. Smile.

Mmm.. the thought of fresh lobster is making my stomach growl.

I'd volunteer in the kitchen at the City Mission.
Being around others that have a big heart, to hear the laugh of comradely as we cook and share our stories with each other would be memorable. But the best part is when the meal is served. Seeing the smiles of gratitude as everyone sits together enjoying a warm meal.

 

[Suz_anne]

I would have Michigan State kick UofM's ass up and down the field in East Lansing on Saturday.


(sadly, I think it will be an ass-whupping of ginormous proportions in the other direction)

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Speak for yourself.
Each week for me had its own beauties and horrors.
I'm anxious to fast forward this week.

 

[ChainedUp]

We all have friends here that we enjoy chatting with both on the boards and PMs. Their posts make us laugh, their sense of dirty matches our own, and we genuinely like them. But we all can't be on at the same time. There are times when your friend is here and you're not and vice versa. How much effort do you put into seeing what they have been up to? Do you find their most recent post list and read through, are they on your buddy list, or do you simply enjoy the times you interact and hope the interaction is sooner rather than later?

 

[Paul_Chance]

For the people I have an actual friendship with, I post stalk them and they post stalk me, and that keeps us up on what is going on, more or less. For casual friends, I may or may not read back on their posts. In that case I just enjoy it when our paths cross. The main thing that drives me to post-stalk someone is if they are witty. One of the good things about a BBS as opposed to chat is you're not required to be their at the same time - because you can see what was posted through a day, you can play catch up and then hold conversions in IM. With chat, if you don't see it, it's gone!

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Sometimes if I'm noisy and bored I'll poke around, but usually not. I've got an IBG that keeps tabs on all suspicious behavior. Laughs.

 

[ChainedUp]

It's a rainy, gloomy morning but no need to have that get in our way.

Cheering people up is a tricky proposition. Nobody enjoys being around sad and gloomy people but it's delicate work to try and cheer someone up. Don't want to be that annoying peppy person but no sense letting someone wallow in their own misery if you can help out.

So, do you try and help another's mood or do you avoid them and let them work things out on their own? Where do you draw the line for both? When is someone so dark that even if you tend to avoid you are drawn to try and help? How do decide that you've tried enough and that you might becoming more irritating than helpful?

 

[PeteHulbert37]

I'm just me. As a general rule, I'm a happy upbeat person. I don't throw it in others faces, but I don't hide it if I'm interacting with others who might not be in a good mood. Take me as I am.

 

[beachbaby179]

I don't try to cheer anyone up. It always backfires. I do offer an ear or a shoulder, in case they need to talk something out. And I'll help if it's in my power to do so. But if they're sad, angry or upset, there's usually a good reason and you're not going to change that.

 

[gamegamale]

I don't try to cheer anyone up. It always backfires. I do offer an ear or a shoulder, in case they need to talk something out. And I'll help if it's in my power to do so. But if they're sad, angry or upset, there's usually a good reason and you're not going to change that.

How wise you are. All wounds must heal at their own pace.

 

[ViciousTease]

It's a rainy, gloomy morning but no need to have that get in our way.

Cheering people up is a tricky proposition. Nobody enjoys being around sad and gloomy people but it's delicate work to try and cheer someone up. Don't want to be that annoying peppy person but no sense letting someone wallow in their own misery if you can help out.

So, do you try and help another's mood or do you avoid them and let them work things out on their own? Where do you draw the line for both? When is someone so dark that even if you tend to avoid you are drawn to try and help? How do decide that you've tried enough and that you might becoming more irritating than helpful?

I'm a pretty laid back, optimistic sort. When others are in a foul mood, my response really depends on the person and the source of their gloom.

If it's just one of those days when you spill coffee on your shirt, hit your head getting in/out of the car, drop a stack of paperwork and have to reorganize everything, get called to an unscheduled meeting, etc. ... then I'll try to cheer them up. Bad days only get worse with a bad attitude. Finding the humor in it can reset the rest of the day.

If the gloom is from a legitimate hurt, I'll offer my sympathy and an ear if they need to talk, but as gamegamale said, "All wounds must heal at their own pace."

If the person in question is just dark by nature, I don't try to cheer them up. I just let my light shine and hope it pushes back some of the shadows for them.

 

[Bitesback]

Being a good friend is the best you can hope to be to people who are feeling miserable, or going through a depressive period or other life struggles that effect their physical or mental well being. I try to be sufficiently in contact that they know we can talk either about anything that troubles them or about anything other than what troubles them, which can be just as important. Discussing other options such as support services with people experienced in helping with their issue, may be helpful if I don't think they're likely to work through the matter in their own. Sometimes I suggest we go somewhere they might enjoy to break the routine they are in, even for a few hours. If you are not usually a little overbearing and you know them well, I think you can gauge if you're helping or hindering them. Or you can ask.

 

[Endless_Night]

< So, do you try and help another's mood or do you avoid them and let them work things out on their own? Where do you draw the line for both? When is someone so dark that even if you tend to avoid you are drawn to try and help? How do decide that you've tried enough and that you might becoming more irritating than helpful? >

My response to doom and gloom varies greatly, person dependent. I’ve learned to step away from cheering up, except on the most superficial level. In fact, I can only think of one person whose spirits I actively try to lift. Anyone else I just offer an ear if they need one.

< If it's just one of those days when you spill coffee on your shirt, hit your head getting in/out of the car, drop a stack of paperwork and have to reorganize everything, get called to an unscheduled meeting, etc. ... then I'll try to cheer them up. Bad days only get worse with a bad attitude. Finding the humor in it can reset the rest of the day. >

Truth!

 

[Suz_anne]

Like VT said, if I know their dark mood is dictated by a bad day, I do generally try to cheer them up. Or just get them to be a little silly to lighten things up. I agree that shift can often change their perspective on the day. If it is a deeper problem, I try to offer support and a friendly refuge without being aggressively peppy.

But if someone tends to be dark by nature and rarely in an upbeat mood, we're probably not going to be friends. I usually avoid those people because I find it exhausting.

"Lighten up, Francis." tends to be my mantra.

 

[Paul_Chance]

It's a rainy, gloomy morning but no need to have that get in our way.

Cheering people up is a tricky proposition. Nobody enjoys being around sad and gloomy people but it's delicate work to try and cheer someone up. Don't want to be that annoying peppy person but no sense letting someone wallow in their own misery if you can help out.

So, do you try and help another's mood or do you avoid them and let them work things out on their own? Where do you draw the line for both? When is someone so dark that even if you tend to avoid you are drawn to try and help? How do decide that you've tried enough and that you might becoming more irritating than helpful?

I'm going to have to rely on the adult diaper of answers here. "It Depends."

First, it depends on what has them down. If it's a temporary reaction to some event in their lives, then I listen to them, let them talk it out, offer what sage advice I have in regards to a general life philosophy that might help their specific life experience. But I am not inclined to indulge them for very long.

If they're one of those people who are down because they think life is unfair or hasn't treated them like it should, then I will sit them down, look them in the eye and give them the truth bomb. Life is always unjust, often cruel, and usually quite wonderful in between. If they imagined they would get through without getting knocked on their ass, they were wrong. Life is a 10 round prize fight where you're against an opponent who has a million years of experience and knows every dirty trick in the book. If you get knocked down, get the fuck up. If you're on the ropes, punch your way out. No matter what you do, you're going to lose. You're going to suffer and lose people you love and die in the end. Suck it up. Fight the good fight. That way when you get to the end you can go out with your head held high knowing you fought the good fight.

(LOL - a career as a counselor for depressed and moody people is probably not in my future.)

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Being someone who is going through some seriously depressing personal shit, even I can't really answer this one well. I guess I try to keep my head in a great place and support and love on others as I can. Having been through a hell of a lot, I find that I can understand other's positions a little bit better and that helps. I try to not take on their problems as my own and offer advice when requested, and otherwise just be a friend as I can.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Being someone who is going through some seriously depressing personal shit, even I can't really answer this one well. I guess I try to keep my head in a great place and support and love on others as I can. Having been through a hell of a lot, I find that I can understand other's positions a little bit better and that helps. I try to not take on their problems as my own and offer advice when requested, and otherwise just be a friend as I can.

Sending some positive thoughts your way. And two bottles of wine, a little this, and a bit of that.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I didn't read any questions. Just wanted to say hi to you.

Well how nice of you.

 

[Lord Pmann]

It's a rainy, gloomy morning but no need to have that get in our way.

Cheering people up is a tricky proposition. Nobody enjoys being around sad and gloomy people but it's delicate work to try and cheer someone up. Don't want to be that annoying peppy person but no sense letting someone wallow in their own misery if you can help out.

So, do you try and help another's mood or do you avoid them and let them work things out on their own? Where do you draw the line for both? When is someone so dark that even if you tend to avoid you are drawn to try and help? How do decide that you've tried enough and that you might becoming more irritating than helpful?

It depends. Some people are just annoying as hell when they are moping about. I can't stand that. It makes me so angry my arsshole turns white.

Some people get my help, just because of the relationship that we have. Some people, despite never listening to a word I fucking say, get my devotion. You can't help who you love and care about. So, even if they don't listen, I'll keep trying with them. Others don't get the same persistence. I don't know why. I don't have a socialist mentality when giving grace? I dunno.

Also, boobs always cheer me up.

 

[Aquagal]

It's a rainy, gloomy morning but no need to have that get in our way.

Cheering people up is a tricky proposition. Nobody enjoys being around sad and gloomy people but it's delicate work to try and cheer someone up. Don't want to be that annoying peppy person but no sense letting someone wallow in their own misery if you can help out.

So, do you try and help another's mood or do you avoid them and let them work things out on their own? Where do you draw the line for both? When is someone so dark that even if you tend to avoid you are drawn to try and help? How do decide that you've tried enough and that you might becoming more irritating than helpful?

I don't understand the need to cheer someone up. I hate to be sought out if I'm not in a pleasant mood according to someone's else's idea of acceptable. The worst being grief. It's like I'm putting on a facade for someone because they can't handle to be around a downer day. I guess fake it til you make it is good enough.

 

[ElasticMermaid]

It depends. Some people are just annoying as hell when they are moping about. I can't stand that. It makes me so angry my arsshole turns white.

Some people get my help, just because of the relationship that we have. Some people, despite never listening to a word I fucking say, get my devotion. You can't help who you love and care about. So, even if they don't listen, I'll keep trying with them. Others don't get the same persistence. I don't know why. I don't have a socialist mentality when giving grace? I dunno.

Also, boobs always cheer me up.

It's because you are a sucker. ;-)