Litiquette V

[Mindfondler]

I faced my shyness head on as well. I accepted a position that is approximately 90% public speaking. I knew it would be difficult, almost impossible. I also knew it would force me out of my shell. Now, I can talk to groups about anything. I may still feel insecure at times, particularly in one on one situations, but that's a different issue. I'm working on that one, too.

I find that the insecurity is the lingering aspect. If I'm asked to make a speech or deliver a presentation to a large audience, then I'll jump at the chance and I'll probably do a good job of it, because I've been given a legitimate role to fulfil and that fires up my engines. On the other hand, if you throw me into an informal party where people are just there to enjoy themselves then I'll probably clam up and crawl off to the kitchen where I can appoint myself as chief washer-upper.
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[ViciousTease]

I find that the insecurity is the lingering aspect. If I'm asked to make a speech or deliver a presentation to a large audience, then I'll jump at the chance and I'll probably do a good job of it, because I've been given a legitimate role to fulfil and that fires up my engines. On the other hand, if you throw me into an informal party where people are just there to enjoy themselves then I'll probably clam up and crawl off to the kitchen where I can appoint myself as chief washer-upper.
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You wash, I'll dry.

 

[Hornblende]

I find that the insecurity is the lingering aspect. If I'm asked to make a speech or deliver a presentation to a large audience, then I'll jump at the chance and I'll probably do a good job of it, because I've been given a legitimate role to fulfil and that fires up my engines. On the other hand, if you throw me into an informal party where people are just there to enjoy themselves then I'll probably clam up and crawl off to the kitchen where I can appoint myself as chief washer-upper.
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Chief tie-er upper, surely?

 

[Mindfondler]

You wash, I'll dry.

That's given me a great idea! Let's hold a washing up party!

Chief tie-er upper, surely?

I'd prefer the role of deployer of silk scarves and teaser-in-chief.
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[numeniusa]

That's given me a great idea! Let's hold a washing up party!


I'd prefer the role of deployer of silk scarves and teaser-in-chief.
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*shivers*

How do I get an invite to these parties?

I do think the idea of 'dates' with one's SO are a great idea. Not the 'pretending you've never met' thing, more the being out of your home environment and having the space and time to chat. Doesn't have to be about Important Things, necessarily, just a silly, giggly conversation about something inconsequential can be a lovely fun thing.

 

[aussiegeekygal]

*shivers*

How do I get an invite to these parties?

I do think the idea of 'dates' with one's SO are a great idea. Not the 'pretending you've never met' thing, more the being out of your home environment and having the space and time to chat. Doesn't have to be about Important Things, necessarily, just a silly, giggly conversation about something inconsequential can be a lovely fun thing.

Agreed. And this actually kind of ties into my answer to Chainey-boy's question.

Believe it or not, I have to really push myself to be open and vulnerable with my husband. It's hard fucking work. I can't just slap a sexual bandaid on our issues and call it good as much as I want to. Telling him the truth and expressing myself is the scariest thing I normally do each day, but it's so worth it.

 

[Endless_Night]

Did someone say party?

I faced my shyness head on as well. I accepted a position that is approximately 90% public speaking. I knew it would be difficult, almost impossible. I also knew it would force me out of my shell. Now, I can talk to groups about anything. I may still feel insecure at times, particularly in one on one situations, but that's a different issue. I'm working on that one, too.

This. Learning to speak before a group was one of the hardest things I've ever done.

 

[UnchainedWordist]

Did someone say party?



This. Learning to speak before a group was one of the hardest things I've ever done.

I almost said something here.....

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Eating too much pizza is really the only thing I can think of in terms of the momentary pleasure/pain later kind of thing.

Actually maybe I sometimes like pulling out and orgasming on my partner. Which is fun and porny and sexy in the moment. But then about a minute later you have to get a towel before she moves and spills it on the sheets. Thats not really PAIN per se but a thing that's not as fun going with the fun thing.

 

[ViciousTease]

Eating too much pizza is really the only thing I can think of in terms of the momentary pleasure/pain later kind of thing.

Actually maybe I sometimes like pulling out and orgasming on my partner. Which is fun and porny and sexy in the moment. But then about a minute later you have to get a towel before she moves and spills it on the sheets. Thats not really PAIN per se but a thing that's not as fun going with the fun thing.

You're really got to get more than one set of sheets. That or plan ahead and put a towel down.

 

[Endless_Night]

You're really got to get more than one set of sheets. That or plan ahead and put a towel down.

So practical, always.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

You're really got to get more than one set of sheets. That or plan ahead and put a towel down.

Hahaha yeah, you're absolutely right. I'm not a great planner at this kind of thing.

 

[ViciousTease]

Hahaha yeah, you're absolutely right. I'm not a great planner at this kind of thing.

If she changes the sheets for you while you're in the shower the next morning, she's a keeper.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

If she changes the sheets for you while you're in the shower the next morning, she's a keeper.

That's an excellent tip actually.

 

[ViciousTease]

That's an excellent tip actually.

Oh, I'm full of sh ... uh ... good ideas.

 

[Trekka]

The bacon conversation highlights our inability to resist things that taste incredible even though we know that it's not the best for us? Is this a self-discipline issue? Is there a sexual act that you engage in that you know will hurt more later but the current pleasure it brings is too good? And this is an essay question, not just a yes/no.

You mean like on Easter, when my mom brought over her Coca Cola cake (which is basically a chocolate brick) and I totally lost control, ate at least half of it, and gained five lbs overnight?

Yes. Cake happens.

Sexual act-- lol I like NRJ's answer.

I get myself into porn-star wannabe mode and sometimes hyperextend a bit. Maybe overwork the neck. Strain the lower back. *shrugs* But that's what Advil is for.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

You mean like on Easter, when my mom brought over her Coca Cola cake (which is basically a chocolate brick) and I totally lost control, ate at least half of it, and gained five lbs overnight?

Yes. Cake happens.

Sexual act-- lol I like NRJ's answer.

I get myself into porn-star wannabe mode and sometimes hyperextend a bit. Maybe overwork the neck. Strain the lower back. *shrugs* But that's what Advil is for.

Coca cola cake, saying nice stuff about me, and a willingness to endure sexual injury for the sake of sex. This is the most amazing post ever. Bwahahaha

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Can I get spanked while eating coca-Cola cake? Kinda like a punishment / reward system going on. I'm all for this!

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Can I get spanked while eating coca-Cola cake? Kinda like a punishment / reward system going on. I'm all for this!

I can accomadate

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I can accomadate

Sweet! But only if we can take turns.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Sweet! But only if we can take turns.

I will allow it.

 

[rubydlite]

Can I get spanked while eating coca-Cola cake? Kinda like a punishment / reward system going on. I'm all for this!

This totally seems like a choking hazard lol

 

[ChainedUp]

How thoughtful are you? Are you thoughtful only when it's convenient for you. Are you thoughtful only when it benefits you? Are you thoughtful at all times no matter the situation? Are there times when it's better to be selfish rather than thoughtful?

I know, lots of questions. Feel free to answer one, none, or all. See how thoughtful I am

 

[DarkSimian]

How thoughtful are you? Are you thoughtful only when it's convenient for you. Are you thoughtful only when it benefits you? Are you thoughtful at all times no matter the situation? Are there times when it's better to be selfish rather than thoughtful?

I know, lots of questions. Feel free to answer one, none, or all. See how thoughtful I am

I try to be thoughtful, selfless, to put others needs before my own. Because when I am selfish, or put myself first, it usually blows up in my face. But recent events and some sage advice have made me rethink things, and that it's ok to take care of myself.

 

[MessierObject]

How thoughtful are you? Are you thoughtful only when it's convenient for you. Are you thoughtful only when it benefits you? Are you thoughtful at all times no matter the situation? Are there times when it's better to be selfish rather than thoughtful?

I know, lots of questions. Feel free to answer one, none, or all. See how thoughtful I am

I try to be thoughtful and compassionate towards others at all times. But some people make it a struggle. It is hard to not expect the same from others that you give, and hard not to be resentful when they do not reciprocate. So I remind myself that I do not know they're background or what they are going through.
As far as being selfish, I believe you have to be in some ways and at sometimes to be the best you. You have to love yourself and make caring for you the highest priority. We're not taught to look out for ourselves, and make our mental and emotional and physical health the priority. Your health and piece of mind should be the most important thing in your life because if you don't have piece of mind you can't serve others.
That's my two cents anyways.