~~> Lit Lessons Learned <~~

[Wild_Honey_66]

Inspired by Des' thread, here: http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1126035

And dedicated to BradBigBrain, who thought we needed a thread like this.


I am brazenly going to copy Des' intro, word for word. He can spank me later, if he likes.
(okay, I made one tiny change. whatever.)
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The unexamined life is not worth living, according to Socrates/Plato. What has Lit taught you about yourself - good or bad? What have you learned from your interactions here?

Do tell. Look squarely in that Lit mirror and tell me what you see that was not there, or not so visible, before you joined.

 

[elli1]

maybe not what you are asking, but whatever:
i'm even more pessimistic about people's intentions than i was before i joined. so lit has reminded me to be careful.

 

[INeedLove]

I've learned that words come easy, actions do not.

 

[Jaime_H]

Lit is a real as a Harry Potter novel....
Expeliarums!!!

 

[BradBigBrain]

Great idea...

I have some things that I've learned since I've been here.

1. Everyone (except me) is a big fat liar.
2. Everyone (except me) has keyboard kourage
3. Every man sends dick pictures unsolicited.
4. Every man is here to hook up.
5. If you are a woman, expect nasty PMs at any given time. If you don't want them, turn off your PMs.
6. If you are a woman and you have an AmPic thread, every man will expect that you will want to fuck them.
7. If you put something pertinent in your profile, expect that it will be ignored.
8. There are trolls.
9. People have alts, but the same shtick.
10. If you put your yahoo in your profile, that's an invitation to at least cyber fuck.
11. If you are a woman and you have an AmPic thread and you have your yahoo in your profile you will be asked repeatedly to cam with every man (except me) who subscribes to your thread.
12. There will be drama.
13. There is no exclusivity. If a man tells you that you are his exclusive lover here, see #1.
14. Friends come and go. And cum and go. And then they can come back.
15. You can expect to make friends here, but those relationships take time.
16. If you want to and you get close enough, you can let people into your real life. None of us (except me) are psycho axe murderers.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Dear 3B,

Please pm me your FB info.

I don't think I have any psycho axe murderers on my friends list, yet.

Looking forward to it,
Honey

 

[cowslinger64]

These aren't lessons learned as much as observations..

People take this place WAY too seriously. It should be exactly what it's called, a playground...not real life.

If people spent as much time here as working on their real lives, they'd probably be much more happy.

Being a whiny pussy guy ass kisser is NOT a way to a womans heart.

If you wanna be noticed here, get some game or just be really fucking annoying.. depends on what sort of attention you seek.

Women like when you make them laugh.. try that before the random cock pics and creepy pms.

No one wants to see your cockatar...not even the women.

Having said that... there are real people here...and some are the most amazing people I have ever had the privilege of knowing... which is pretty amazing considering this place is really for a buncha freaks.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

1. Most women have high standards for who they'll play with. I hate women with high standards.

2. Most women are very smart when it comes to how they will play. The intellectual chase is the norm. I fail miserably at that game. Which is a shame since I like smart women.

3. Some people will not use spell-checker in a word spelling game. When I enter the thread and see the last person has spelled a "word" that is red-underlined because it doesn't exist - and they do not catch it themselves....makes me understand why nobody responded in the thread for a LONG time....it's just a silly game to engage the mind a little bit...try taking the time to engage the mind a little bit....

4. For many of the men in lit, it is like a pack of wild dogs set loose upon the land...a free-for-all in posting to try and leave the most recent scent on each and every thread post a woman makes....like watching a school of fish jumble around....That's why I made my own, "Lit rules to live by" - to avoid falling into that way of thinking as often. I still do it occasionally myself until I regain my senses....

5. I figure that my ratio of posts that goes un-responded to, to responded to, is about 7 or 8 to 1. Very VERY few posts where I am trying to say something get responded to. So, posting on Lit is sometimes a way to purge, but not very often a place to discuss things....but that's just me...others seem to have no problems in that regard.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Thank you, Slinger (freak ), thank you, Jeff.

Thank you to elli and INL and Sexy Jaime, too.

 

[tolyk]

1. Most women have high standards for who they'll play with. I hate women with high standards.

2. Most women are very smart when it comes to how they will play. The intellectual chase is the norm. I fail miserably at that game. Which is a shame since I like smart women.

3. Some people will not use spell-checker in a word spelling game. When I enter the thread and see the last person has spelled a "word" that is red-underlined because it doesn't exist - and they do not catch it themselves....makes me understand why nobody responded in the thread for a LONG time....it's just a silly game to engage the mind a little bit...try taking the time to engage the mind a little bit....

4. For many of the men in lit, it is like a pack of wild dogs set loose upon the land...a free-for-all in posting to try and leave the most recent scent on each and every thread post a woman makes....like watching a school of fish jumble around....That's why I made my own, "Lit rules to live by" - to avoid falling into that way of thinking as often. I still do it occasionally myself until I regain my senses....

5. I figure that my ratio of posts that goes un-responded to, to responded to, is about 7 or 8 to 1. Very VERY few posts where I am trying to say something get responded to. So, posting on Lit is sometimes a way to purge, but not very often a place to discuss things....but that's just me...others seem to have no problems in that regard.

That is a real shame about your response rate Jeff, I had hoped such a great guy had more success with replies.

 

[jeff_is_smiling]

That is a real shame about your response rate Jeff, I had hoped such a great guy had more success with replies.

Well, I have had 2 responses in THIS thread alone! Things are looking up!

 

[tolyk]

Well, I have had 2 responses in THIS thread alone! Things are looking up!

Yay

Always stayin positive eh Jeff

 

[LusterMunky]

Great idea...

I have some things that I've learned since I've been here.

1. Everyone (except me) is a big fat liar.
2. Everyone (except me) has keyboard kourage
3. Every man sends dick pictures unsolicited.
4. Every man is here to hook up.
5. If you are a woman, expect nasty PMs at any given time. If you don't want them, turn off your PMs.
6. If you are a woman and you have an AmPic thread, every man will expect that you will want to fuck them.
7. If you put something pertinent in your profile, expect that it will be ignored.
8. There are trolls.
9. People have alts, but the same shtick.
10. If you put your yahoo in your profile, that's an invitation to at least cyber fuck.
11. If you are a woman and you have an AmPic thread and you have your yahoo in your profile you will be asked repeatedly to cam with every man (except me) who subscribes to your thread.
12. There will be drama.
13. There is no exclusivity. If a man tells you that you are his exclusive lover here, see #1.
14. Friends come and go. And cum and go. And then they can come back.
15. You can expect to make friends here, but those relationships take time.
16. If you want to and you get close enough, you can let people into your real life. None of us (except me) are psycho axe murderers.

Spot on.

 

[BradBigBrain]

I forgot one...

You will leave this place someday. When you do, you will more than likely come back. It generally takes about three times of you leaving for it to really stick. That's only if you're sincere about leaving. If you decide to leave and decide to make some declaration as to why you are leaving, I implore you to post that declaration in my See You Tomorrow thread.

Thank you.

 

[funluvinaj]

I forgot one...

You will leave this place someday. When you do, you will more than likely come back. It generally takes about three times of you leaving for it to really stick. That's only if you're sincere about leaving. If you decide to leave and decide to make some declaration as to why you are leaving, I implore you to post that declaration in my See You Tomorrow thread.

Thank you.

Yeah, I encourage people to just refer to them as sabbaticals after the first time. If you leave and come back you'll likely repeat the cycle. I've left several times... Sometimes for months but now I just take a week or two break to put things into perspective.

Don't take things too seriously here and tell people the truth. You don't have to like everyone, but don't be rude either. Drama should be dealt with off the boards. I liken it to being at a restaurant.... You wouldn't want to watch people fighting there, don't do it here. There management would remove them, here we need to self regulate. Be an adult.

 

[tolyk]

Yeah, I encourage people to just refer to them as sabbaticals after the first time. If you leave and come back you'll likely repeat the cycle. I've left several times... Sometimes for months but now I just take a week or two break to put things into perspective.

Don't take things too seriously here and tell people the truth. You don't have to like everyone, but don't be rude either. Drama should be dealt with off the boards. I liken it to being at a restaurant.... You wouldn't want to watch people fighting there, don't do it here. There management would remove them, here we need to self regulate. Be an adult.

What is this adult thing you speak of? And how does one be it?

 

[Thandi]

Yeah, I encourage people to just refer to them as sabbaticals after the first time. If you leave and come back you'll likely repeat the cycle. I've left several times... Sometimes for months but now I just take a week or two break to put things into perspective.

Don't take things too seriously here and tell people the truth. You don't have to like everyone, but don't be rude either. Drama should be dealt with off the boards. I liken it to being at a restaurant.... You wouldn't want to watch people fighting there, don't do it here. There management would remove them, here we need to self regulate. Be an adult.

This^^^

 

[cowslinger64]

Yeah, I encourage people to just refer to them as sabbaticals after the first time. If you leave and come back you'll likely repeat the cycle. I've left several times... Sometimes for months but now I just take a week or two break to put things into perspective.

Don't take things too seriously here and tell people the truth. You don't have to like everyone, but don't be rude either. Drama should be dealt with off the boards. I liken it to being at a restaurant.... You wouldn't want to watch people fighting there, don't do it here. There management would remove them, here we need to self regulate. Be an adult.

Screw that being an adult thingy!!!! What about us that are just big kids?


I disagree with some of the stuff said.. I don't lie here, not looking to hook up and never came here with that in mind. I have met a litster or two but I wasn't looking fer lurve. I come here to flirt and act silly. I can't say there aren't some I wouldn't have boinked but circumstances and/or distance typically preclude that. I've never sent a cock pic to someone I didn't know here. I've never said anything that I wouldn't say to that persons face. I do agree that many are the opposite of that, and it annoys me to no end sometimes. I've made good friends almost instantly, sometimes you just click.

I'm often misunderstood, often misliked. I'm good with that too. I'm very picky about who I let get to know the rest of Slinger..

 

[Thandi]

Screw that being an adult thingy!!!! What about us that are just big kids?


I disagree with some of the stuff said.. I don't lie here, not looking to hook up and never came here with that in mind. I have met a litster or two but I wasn't looking fer lurve. I come here to flirt and act silly. I can't say there aren't some I wouldn't have boinked but circumstances and/or distance typically preclude that. I've never sent a cock pic to someone I didn't know here. I've never said anything that I wouldn't say to that persons face. I do agree that many are the opposite of that, and it annoys me to no end sometimes. I've made good friends almost instantly, sometimes you just click.

I'm often misunderstood, often misliked. I'm good with that too. I'm very picky about who I let get to know the rest of Slinger..

You are definitely one of the good guys. I may be biased though.

 

[tolyk]

Screw that being an adult thingy!!!! What about us that are just big kids?


I disagree with some of the stuff said.. I don't lie here, not looking to hook up and never came here with that in mind. I have met a litster or two but I wasn't looking fer lurve. I come here to flirt and act silly. I can't say there aren't some I wouldn't have boinked but circumstances and/or distance typically preclude that. I've never sent a cock pic to someone I didn't know here. I've never said anything that I wouldn't say to that persons face. I do agree that many are the opposite of that, and it annoys me to no end sometimes. I've made good friends almost instantly, sometimes you just click.

I'm often misunderstood, often misliked. I'm good with that too. I'm very picky about who I let get to know the rest of Slinger..

I've always thought you were a good guy for what that's worth.

There is a lot of truths stated in here so far. Not all apply to everyone of course, as they are generalizations. I'd type out some myself, but the gloves I'm wearing make it very difficult to type for extended periods of time.

 

[LusterMunky]

I don't lie here

Oh geez. Howzabout the "story" you wrote for multiple Lit Gurls claiming you had written it just for them?

 

[cowslinger64]

Oh geez. Howzabout the "story" you wrote for multiple Lit Gurls claiming you had written it just for them?

That never happened. You're full of crap. I have written stories for particular women but have never one time said to another woman that one previously written was for them. That's just not true.


I'm not sure what your fascination is with me and that, but it's really pathetic.

I'll go one further... you show the proof you have, and if I am wrong...I will apologize to whomever it happened to. I still say it's a buncha crap.

 

[SmileyGirl]

Brad's pretty much nailed it, particularly the bolded.

The bolded parts make me

 

[cowslinger64]

I've always thought you were a good guy for what that's worth.

There is a lot of truths stated in here so far. Not all apply to everyone of course, as they are generalizations. I'd type out some myself, but the gloves I'm wearing make it very difficult to type for extended periods of time.

I appreciate that..

 

[LusterMunky]

The bolded parts make me

Smiley!!