Let's Talk About... Younger Men With Older Women

[Wild_Honey_66]

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And now, more questions.

**What do you consider younger or older vs. same-ish age?

**Where do you draw the line, or do you?

**Has your desired age range changed over time? If so, how?

 

[AlwaysFara]

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And now, more questions.

**What do you consider younger or older vs. same-ish age?

**Where do you draw the line, or do you?

**Has your desired age range changed over time? If so, how?

Younger is under 40. I consider 40-55 same-ish age. For a BF. Friends who are guys can be any age. My best friend for the last 15 years is 34 now.

My line is 40, my guy being the one exception.
Never would consider 20s.

No. I’ve always liked younger men.

 

[Zach_lost_in_Aus]

Thank you all for joining the discussion!



And now, more questions.

**What do you consider younger or older vs. same-ish age?

**Where do you draw the line, or do you?

**Has your desired age range changed over time? If so, how?

10 + yrs difference is probably what I think of as older/younger.

Lines - probably more about the individual than any given number. Though early/mid 20s unlikely to appeal now.

Always had a thing for the ‘older woman’. What I think of as an older woman has moved up the age range over time I think, though I think also I’m catching up! We all feel younger than we are... don’t we?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

We all feel younger than we are... don’t we?

I've noticed this increasingly over the past year, as my body shows new signs of aging.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

How common are these couples in your family or social circles?

In general, how are they viewed by others?

Have you ever been in this sort of relationship? (Yes, online partners included.) What was your experience like?

Because of the 'cougar' stereotype, i am especially curious about relationships in which the younger male is the dominant partner and/or was the one to initiate the relationship.

Anybody care to share?

Three of my mother's five husbands were considerably younger, one was younger than me. They were not good matches, but for reasons other than the age difference.

I've not been in any long term, in-person relationships with anyone more than seven years younger. I have had a number of younger men show interest, the majority of them for hookups or an FWB situation. The few who wanted more were unsuitable for reasons other than age.

Online, I've had a couple of long term partners 15-20 years younger. Common interests and great chemistry outweigh the age thing.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

What are the arguments against this arrangement?

**A younger man ought to be with a woman young enough to bear and raise children.

**There's no way they can have enough in common to have a healthy relationship (younger man as boyfriend).

**It's shameful for a woman to want a man only/mostly for sex (younger man as lover).

Feel free to add your own.

3. Change the word "shameful" to "totally hot" and I agree completely.

LOL!!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Because of the 'cougar' stereotype, i am especially curious about relationships in which the younger male is the dominant partner and/or was the one to initiate the relationship.

Own experience - I had a very significant relationship with a woman 15+ years older than me when I was in my late 20s. I knew her through work, we got on very well, easily, a natural chemistry. In that sense the age difference was irrelevant. We were just two people who liked each other. The fact she was older added a sexual thrill for me. We flirted a lot but it only went further because I pushed the issue, made it very clear I wanted her. I’m glad I did. We’re still friends many years later and both of us feel that our time as lovers enriched our lives.

Yep, it would take a lot of convincing for me to agree to an involvement with someone more than ten years younger.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Yep, it would take a lot of convincing for me to agree to an involvement with someone more than ten years younger.

Why? Preference? Or you’ve been there done that and it was bad?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

My best friend for the last 15 years is 34 now.

I have a really good friend who is 26, and a couple of friendly acquaintances with whom i get along like gangbusters who are 19 and 21. The large age difference does of course limit the friendships, but it doesn't eliminate them entirely.

I'm not sure if this is coincidence or something more, but all three have a really strong naturally dominant vibe.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Why? Preference? Or you’ve been there done that and it was bad?

Neither? I do struggle with the thought of being considered a cougar, being judged, even if i don't have an issue with others in the same circumstaces. Hello, double standard.

TBH, at this point, it's going to take anyone of any age some serious effort to gain my trust.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Neither? I do struggle with the thought of being considered a cougar, being judged, even if i don't have an issue with others in the same circumstaces. Hello, double standard.

TBH, at this point, it's going to take anyone of any age some serious effort to gain my trust.

Honey.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Honey.

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[curvyangel1969]

Neither? I do struggle with the thought of being considered a cougar, being judged, even if i don't have an issue with others in the same circumstaces. Hello, double standard.

TBH, at this point, it's going to take anyone of any age some serious effort to gain my trust.

I almost didn't date my husband because of our age difference. He was 22. I was 29. It took some major convincing from a good mutual friend to get me to say yes. I thank her for that.
But I heard Cradle robber more than once. That was before Cougar was a thing. His name was Rob. So u jokingly got Rob'ng the cradle, etc.

It stopped bothering me. I'm flattered that younger men find me attractive and fun and generally more than a fuck buddy.

 

[BeautifulBlueSky218]

I've dated two younger men before and I'd do something like this again. Especially if we compatible with each other and had a lot of things in common. I doubt I could just "hook up" though. I'd rather want to be with that person, than anything. It can work out, it's just not for everyone I guess.

 

[lustpuppy]

I've dated two younger men before and I'd do something like this again. Especially if we compatible with each other and had a lot of things in common. I doubt I could just "hook up" though. I'd rather want to be with that person, than anything. It can work out, it's just not for everyone I guess.

At the same time?...greedy girl

 

[Scareltt]

I missed these before..

Thank you all for joining the discussion!



And now, more questions.

**What do you consider younger or older vs. same-ish age?

**Where do you draw the line, or do you?

**Has your desired age range changed over time? If so, how?

Well I consider you younger if you’re under 40. I’m 43 you’re same-ish age if your 3 years older or 3 years younger.

I’m not dating anybody younger that 21 (haha) we can’t just get coffee all the time. As far as older, at the moment I’m sort of “dating” a 63 year old.

I never really dated younger when I was in my 20’s my husband is the youngest I had dated back then. Now however I enjoy the company of younger men for a bunch of reasons.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Plus if I enjoy something, I want to keep it around.

This completely sums it up for me too. If it's fun and good and you're both into it why not keep it going?

Plus, even just from a sexual stand point it's so much fun to explore further.

 

[tolyk]

I almost didn't date my husband because of our age difference. He was 22. I was 29. It took some major convincing from a good mutual friend to get me to say yes. I thank her for that.
But I heard Cradle robber more than once. That was before Cougar was a thing. His name was Rob. So u jokingly got Rob'ng the cradle, etc.

It stopped bothering me. I'm flattered that younger men find me attractive and fun and generally more than a fuck buddy.

People suck. My ex wife was a year, to the day, older than me. We shared a birthday. She was called a cradle robber on more than a few occassions. Not just by peers, by her family.

Age doesn't matter. At all.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Excellent questions. Let's hit it!

**What do you consider younger or older vs. same-ish age?

I'm currently 42. Anything within 4-5 years is probably same age. Beyond that it's older/younger.

**Where do you draw the line, or do you?

The half-joke rule I have is "don't date someone who I have to explain who Steely Dan is too." Lol. I prefer closer to my own age but if the chemistry is right I'd probably give anything over-21 a shot.

**Has your desired age range changed over time? If so, how?

I actually don't think so. I've always been attracted to older women and maturity. The only thing that's truly changed over time is ME getting older. Lol. Although I definitely see the appeal in older/younger too.

 

[suzyque72]

Well I consider you younger if you’re under 40. I’m 43 you’re same-ish age if your 3 years older or 3 years younger.

I’m not dating anybody younger that 21 (haha) we can’t just get coffee all the time. As far as older, at the moment I’m sort of “dating” a 63 year old.

I never really dated younger when I was in my 20’s my husband is the youngest I had dated back then. Now however I enjoy the company of younger men for a bunch of reasons.

I will chime in. For me, young (as opposed to younger) would be under 32; Same-ish 35-50.
Under 20 is a stop point for me. Older....I don't care abou tage that way so long as they are fun and can keep up.
I have always enjoyed men in their mid-20's....I just got older!