Let's Talk About... Younger Men With Older Women

[BongoGal]

Tangent: Is twenty-something cock significantly better than forty-something cock? Asking for a friend.

I remember them being much more likely to be ready for a second and third round without an hour-long rest in between.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I imagine it probably depends on the cock and/or the guy to which the cock is attached. Me? My cock has been fucking awesome at any age.

This is always the bottom line, sexually. To whom is that amazing young(er) cock attached?

 

[30bandits]

I remember them being much more likely to be ready for a second and third round without an hour-long rest in between.

a few months ago I went 3 times in less than 2 hours...i'll be 50 soon....

 

[AlwaysFara]

What are the arguments against this arrangement?

**A younger man ought to be with a woman young enough to bear and raise children.

**There's no way they can have enough in common to have a healthy relationship (younger man as boyfriend).

**It's shameful for a woman to want a man only/mostly for sex (younger man as lover).

Feel free to add your own.

1.) I struggle with this, but he says he’s fine. So.
2.) 2 years in. Long distance until he moved here for me. I’ll let you know.
3.) Why? Men do it all the time. For me? I’m not a sex only woman. I get attached. For me, this wouldn’t work, but there’s certainly no shame in it.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I think you’re wrong.

I have to believe it. I’m old!

 

[curvyangel1969]

I have to believe it. I’m old!

Don't despair. I've had great sex with both older and younger. Technique-technique-technique.

 

[cowslinger64]

How common are these couples in your family or social circles?

In general, how are they viewed by others?

Have you ever been in this sort of relationship? (Yes, online partners included.) What was your experience like?

Because of the 'cougar' stereotype, i am especially curious about relationships in which the younger male is the dominant partner and/or was the one to initiate the relationship.

Anybody care to share?

When I was younger, after my divorce, I stuck strictly with older women. I enjoyed their company, they were mature, comfortable with their bodies and sexuality and knew what they wanted.. and weren't afraid to get it. my favorite of all was a 50 year old I spent my 40th birthday weekend with. She was a former Miss Northern Michigan something or other and the sex was face melting. She even baked me my favorite cookies, peanut butter... and blew me while the race was on tv, careful not to get her head in the way. It was awesome!

After her, I switched to younger women and played that for a while.. it was alright, it served it's purpose. It was for fun, and it gave me the barrier I needed for them to stay at arms length.

I know, as with any relationship, that there are some that do work. But for me, the huge age differences, especially with younger women were too insurmountable. We didn't have too much in common.. were at different points in our lives, on different paths. IMO, they did not make good life partners, only good partners at that point in my life.

My wife is 5 years younger and she is absolutely perfect for me.. She's my wife, best friend, partner in crime.... no way I could have had that with someone so much younger than me.

 

[curvyangel1969]

When I was younger, after my divorce, I stuck strictly with older women. I enjoyed their company, they were mature, comfortable with their bodies and sexuality and knew what they wanted.. and weren't afraid to get it. my favorite of all was a 50 year old I spent my 40th birthday weekend with. She was a former Miss Northern Michigan something or other and the sex was face melting. She even baked me my favorite cookies, peanut butter... and blew me while the race was on tv, careful not to get her head in the way. It was awesome!

After her, I switched to younger women and played that for a while.. it was alright, it served it's purpose. It was for fun, and it gave me the barrier I needed for them to stay at arms length.

I know, as with any relationship, that there are some that do work. But for me, the huge age differences, especially with younger women were too insurmountable. We didn't have too much in common.. were at different points in our lives, on different paths. IMO, they did not make good life partners, only good partners at that point in my life.

My wife is 5 years younger and she is absolutely perfect for me.. She's my wife, best friend, partner in crime.... no way I could have had that with someone so much younger than me.

I politely disagree with you in regard to your gorgeous redheaded wife. I think if she had been younger she still would have been the woman for you. It's not about age so much as the person she is no matter the age you fell in love with. She just happens to be 5 years younger.

 

[cowslinger64]

I think you’re wrong.

I agree with mr cockatar..


It's tough to beat experience.. and IMO, that comes from being with different partners. I've taken all I've learned from each of them to be the best lover I can be.

No, I can't go hard and fast for 20 seconds three times an hour... but I don't want to. Sex is a journey and a womans body is a buffet. You can't enjoy it if you go straight to dessert.


If your man isn't a master with his mouth and hands...if he's never made you have gspot orgasms, made you squirt multiple ways and times, and has never heard of a cervical orgasm.. then he's got something to learn. Cultivating an atmosphere where a woman is comfortable enough to completely let go, IMO takes the hand of a great lover..

I hope I never stop learning.. so along with experience, is a want to, to be the best lover possible is what makes a great lover. Having a great partner is what truly is the pinnacle..

 

[AlwaysFara]

I politely disagree with you in regard to your gorgeous redheaded wife. I think if she had been younger she still would have been the woman for you. It's not about age so much as the person she is no matter the age you fell in love with. She just happens to be 5 years younger.

I believe this.

 

[cowslinger64]

I politely disagree with you in regard to your gorgeous redheaded wife. I think if she had been younger she still would have been the woman for you. It's not about age so much as the person she is no matter the age you fell in love with. She just happens to be 5 years younger.

It's possible.. but I've been with lots of younger women, and they didn't qualify..


You can justify anything you like, I know cause I've done it.. Thankfully, I didn't end up married to any of them.

 

[cowslinger64]

It's possible.. but I've been with lots of younger women, and they didn't qualify..


You can justify anything you like, I know cause I've done it.. Thankfully, I didn't end up married to any of them.

Btw... I'm not poking holes in any of your relationships.. just offering my opinion based on a lot of years and experience.

 

[curvyangel1969]

It's possible.. but I've been with lots of younger women, and they didn't qualify..


You can justify anything you like, I know cause I've done it.. Thankfully, I didn't end up married to any of them.

Btw... I'm not poking holes in any of your relationships.. just offering my opinion based on a lot of years and experience.

Actually what I was trying to say is your wife's age isn't what drew you to her. It was her as a person who just happened to be 5 years younger.

And no worries. I'm not insulting you or what you're saying, and I know that you wouldn't do the same to me.

 

[cowslinger64]

Actually what I was trying to say is your wife's age isn't what drew you to her. It was her as a person who just happened to be 5 years younger.

And no worries. I'm not insulting you or what you're saying, and I know that you wouldn't do the same to me.

We're sitting here talking about it now.. Who knows if she would have been ready for me or vice versa. It took me til then to be ready for her. She doesn't even know that if on the day we met, she was five years younger if it would have worked. It really is hard to say.

I do know what you mean.. and I do know there are people that make stuff work. I also know the pitfalls of it, and the difficulty.

It's like with anything else, ldrs, bdsm relationships etc.... they do work from time to time, but I've seen more of them explode than work..

 

[AlwaysFara]

I agree with mr cockatar..


It's tough to beat experience.. and IMO, that comes from being with different partners. I've taken all I've learned from each of them to be the best lover I can be.

No, I can't go hard and fast for 20 seconds three times an hour... but I don't want to. Sex is a journey and a womans body is a buffet. You can't enjoy it if you go straight to dessert.


If your man isn't a master with his mouth and hands...if he's never made you have gspot orgasms, made you squirt multiple ways and times, and has never heard of a cervical orgasm.. then he's got something to learn. Cultivating an atmosphere where a woman is comfortable enough to completely let go, IMO takes the hand of a great lover..

I hope I never stop learning.. so along with experience, is a want to, to be the best lover possible is what makes a great lover. Having a great partner is what truly is the pinnacle..

Why do you assume that someone younger doesn’t have the experience to do that? It depends on the man

I’m experienced. I know what’s good.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Actually what I was trying to say is your wife's age isn't what drew you to her. It was her as a person who just happened to be 5 years younger.

And no worries. I'm not insulting you or what you're saying, and I know that you wouldn't do the same to me.

Right, that’s how I took it, too. You were saying that they belong together.

 

[curvyangel1969]

Right, that’s how I took it, too. You were saying that they belong together.

Exactly!

 

[LostGirlTink]

How common are these couples in your family or social circles?

In general, how are they viewed by others?

Have you ever been in this sort of relationship? (Yes, online partners included.) What was your experience like?

Because of the 'cougar' stereotype, i am especially curious about relationships in which the younger male is the dominant partner and/or was the one to initiate the relationship.

Anybody care to share?

Tol is younger than me by 10 years.
I have a cousin with a long term partner who is 15 years younger and my best friend from college married a man 8 years younger.
Sometimes age is just a number sometimes it mattters

What are the arguments against this arrangement?

**A younger man ought to be with a woman young enough to bear and raise children.

**There's no way they can have enough in common to have a healthy relationship (younger man as boyfriend).

**It's shameful for a woman to want a man only/mostly for sex (younger man as lover).

Feel free to add your own.

1. If he already has kids or doesn’t want them this is irrelevant
2. That can be true... I don’t see it in my relationship but Tol has varied interests as do I. Younger doesn’t mean 1 dimensional
3. Bullshit... and just because they are younger why the assumption it’s just for sex? Because if point 2?
No

Don't despair. I've had great sex with both older and younger. Technique-technique-technique.

^that

You find a fit when you find a fit.

 

[Scareltt]

Great questions..

How common are these couples in your family or social circles?

In general, how are they viewed by others?

Have you ever been in this sort of relationship? (Yes, online partners included.) What was your experience like?

Because of the 'cougar' stereotype, i am especially curious about relationships in which the younger male is the dominant partner and/or was the one to initiate the relationship.

Anybody care to share?

I have a friend who was widowed when she was in her mid 30s. She now pretty much only dates guys in their late 20s or early 30s. She’s my age so 40 something now. I say good for her, she knows what she likes and gets it.

Her friends also get it. However there a few snarker people who have said a few mean things behind her back. I just think they are jealous.

Unfortunately I don’t share the fact that I date outside my marriage with too many people. I can just imagine the snark...

I am currently dating 3 men who are younger. One gentleman is in his mid 30s and the other two are 24 and 25. I enjoy those relationships for what they are. I’m not going to be out at 2am doing shots at a college bar with them. Well not during the week at least. My experience with each of them is different, all great just different. The youngest of the 3 would rather watch a movie at my place or his apartment. He’s not big on bars or drinking. I appreciate his maturity. The middle of the group loves to have a good time, our evenings and afternoons could be spent in a few different places having a few drinks. The oldest is a bar manager, we connect because we sort of share the same work hours. He would rather “do something else” than hang out..

I don’t think of myself as a Cougar, however I like the idea. I take the “campsite” analogy to heart with all of them. I want to leave them better then when I found them. I’m the dominant partner in the scene that none of these are my primary relationship. If I don’t want to do something I just won’t do it. Also often when these types of relationships start a certain amount of molding must occur. I don’t want calls or texts at 2 in the morning unless I asked for that.

I’m not at their beck and call. It’s the other way around..

 

[Zach_lost_in_Aus]

How common are these couples in your family or social circles?

In general, how are they viewed by others?

Have you ever been in this sort of relationship? (Yes, online partners included.) What was your experience like?

Because of the 'cougar' stereotype, i am especially curious about relationships in which the younger male is the dominant partner and/or was the one to initiate the relationship.

Anybody care to share?

Are they common - I have two good male friends who have married women 10 years younger than themselves. I don’t know any couples the other way around.

Own experience - I had a very significant relationship with a woman 15+ years older than me when I was in my late 20s. I knew her through work, we got on very well, easily, a natural chemistry. In that sense the age difference was irrelevant. We were just two people who liked each other. The fact she was older added a sexual thrill for me. We flirted a lot but it only went further because I pushed the issue, made it very clear I wanted her. I’m glad I did. We’re still friends many years later and both of us feel that our time as lovers enriched our lives.

 

[NeonSubtlety]

These feel like contradictory viewpoints to me. Would you mind elaborating?

They are contradictory. ‘should’ was used purposefully. There’s no reason it should be viewed differently than an older man with a younger woman. I’m just not, personally, drawn to older women in a substantive way.

 

[magicmikeaustin]

They are contradictory. ‘should’ was used purposefully. There’s no reason it should be viewed differently than an older man with a younger woman. I’m just not, personally, drawn to older women in a substantive way.

Not what your message said

 

[Jada59]

There are all kinds of relationships. Some people don't want marriage or even something long term. Some don't want kids or don't care one way or the other. Sometimes they fall in love and whatever they thought they wanted flies right out the window. I also see nothing wrong with a sex only relationship if that's what both people want.

 

[curvyangel1969]

To add: my husband was 7 yrs younger than I was. I'm also approached by much younger men more often than men my own age.

 

[Scareltt]

I have the same hang up..

I have been in serious relationships with both older and younger men and been equally happy. From 10 years younger to 13 years older. I think it depends on the outlook of the person and not the actual age gap.

Now as far as dating younger men...well I've been called a cougar a time or two. Only once was it purely for sex. Mostly I'm the girl who wants a relationship not a fuck buddy.

I wish I could just fuck and forget. I can’t, I have tried. I need to have a relationship, it just makes everything better. Not just the sex, but discovering the whole person.

Now maybe if I traveled for work the quick, “hookup” could occur. I just don’t have that lifestyle..

Plus if I enjoy something, I want to keep it around.