Lesbian & Bi-Sexual Women (Come out)

[Raven Wilde]

happily bi

Ohh I do pick the good ones to post on! and for my second post of all time here at Lit I will admit to being bi.

I have known that I am for the past ten years and although at the beginning there was some trouble I will admit to being perfectly comfortable about it now.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

Re: Re: Lesbian & Bi-Sexual Women (Come out)

Imagine telling everyone you know, that you practice a love that many of them will never accept, never condone, never believe in....That having been open and forth right has opened you up, hatred, indifference, and even violence.....Now imagine that, that love is heterosexual love.......

Not so funny anymore is it???

No April, it is not, that is why I began this thread

Ruby, the av refelcts my mood, I feel strong and I attempt to find avs that have a little of me in them.

Lavender, your new av is an old one, yes? It has been awhile I think.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Re: Re: Lesbian & Bi-Sexual Women (Come out)

Imagine telling everyone you know, that you practice a love that many of them will never accept, never condone, never believe in....That having been open and forth right has opened you up, hatred, indifference, and even violence.....Now imagine that, that love is heterosexual love.......

Not so funny anymore is it???

There are some things people are never going to understand... Unfotunately I think that the coming out process is one of them..

A friend of mine got put in the hospital when she came out to her family. Her stepdad beat her with a baseball bat until she renounced that she was a lesbian. No.. this is not how things are supposed to be.

I was lucky and just told that I was confused and that the last several years have been really bad for me and that is why I "think" I'm a lesbian. And because I had a guy really hurt me.

It makes me said that something so beautiful has to be so difficult for many women and men even.

 

[JenJ]

Re: Re: Lesbian & Bi-Sexual Women (Come out)

Imagine telling everyone you know, that you practice a love that many of them will never accept, never condone, never believe in....That having been open and forth right has opened you up, hatred, indifference, and even violence.....Now imagine that, that love is heterosexual love.......

Not so funny anymore is it???

No it isn't funny at all.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

No but many do not know the anguish of it and the risk

 

[DustyWolfe]

No but many do not know the anguish of it and the risk

Thank God some do understand. Most of my straight friends do understand. The ones that I thought would take it the worst took it the best actually.

 

[JenJ]

No but many do not know the anguish of it and the risk

I have found it is the ones you think will react badly react better then the ones you think will be fine with it.

It is good to find the ones that are fine with it and that know the anguish of things as well as the risk of things.

 

[sigh]

the coming out part wasn't an issue with me...perhaps it should have been but i told my mother about making love to a woman within a week of doing it for the first time and we simply sat to chat, and by the end of the chat she was crying because she was so happy for me

but then she and my dad always made such things easy...they truly were children of the sixties...the open-minded ones...the love generation

as for friends...well my best friend from high school was gay so there was no problem telling him, and my best friend in college was the one i ended up in bed with so there was no need for the telling at all

in some ways i live in an idyllic world...but then again i've lived through horror too...at least not having lived the normal life it's easy for me (and those around me) to accept non-normal as perfectly fine

i wish it were so for all of you...there shouldn't be pain in telling those you love about others you love...that's just not right

 

[Natalie Nessus]

the coming out part wasn't an issue with me...perhaps it should have been but i told my mother about making love to a woman within a week of doing it for the first time and we simply sat to chat, and by the end of the chat she was crying because she was so happy for me

but then she and my dad always made such things easy...they truly were children of the sixties...the open-minded ones...the love generation

as for friends...well my best friend from high school was gay so there was no problem telling him, and my best friend in college was the one i ended up in bed with so there was no need for the telling at all

in some ways i live in an idyllic world...but then again i've lived through horror too...at least not having lived the normal life it's easy for me (and those around me) to accept non-normal as perfectly fine

i wish it were so for all of you...there shouldn't be pain in telling those you love about others you love...that's just not right

Treasure your mama and papa, you are so lucky, I think

 

[sigh]

Treasure your mama and papa, you are so lucky, I think

so very lucky indeed, love...the older i get, the more wondrous they become

 

[JenJ]

the coming out part wasn't an issue with me...perhaps it should have been but i told my mother about making love to a woman within a week of doing it for the first time and we simply sat to chat, and by the end of the chat she was crying because she was so happy for me

but then she and my dad always made such things easy...they truly were children of the sixties...the open-minded ones...the love generation

as for friends...well my best friend from high school was gay so there was no problem telling him, and my best friend in college was the one i ended up in bed with so there was no need for the telling at all

in some ways i live in an idyllic world...but then again i've lived through horror too...at least not having lived the normal life it's easy for me (and those around me) to accept non-normal as perfectly fine

i wish it were so for all of you...there shouldn't be pain in telling those you love about others you love...that's just not right

(((Sigh))) You are so very right there should be no pain in telling those you love about who you love.

 

[Aprilsbaby]

There is a term in Sanskrit.."Hayavardhan". It refers to the yin/yang in each of us. Our sexual preferences are , to a large degree dictated by our upbringing and social dictats. We are products of society who have been "taught" to conform to conventional patterns. The price of non conformance is guilt ..of being deviant.. of having let down our family,friends and community.

Sexual liberation has been easier in our times primarily cause of economic independence and a overwhelming need to be what we truely are. Call it selfish. Call it whatever you may. In the end it is the need to Be . To Breathe.

Does one get attracted to a women because they are soft, sensual or more understanding? I think not. Its limiting to categorise by sex. Men can equally be as sensitive as women . When one connects, its a connection at different levels that fulfills some need or "incompleteness" in us. And when that happens..its magic.

 

[sigh]

And when that happens..its magic.

it certainly is

hope you're doing well, Aprilsbaby...haven't seen you for awhile

 

[Aprilsbaby]

it certainly is

hope you're doing well, Aprilsbaby...haven't seen you for awhile

 

[Aprilsbaby]

it certainly is

hope you're doing well, Aprilsbaby...haven't seen you for awhile

its the witching hour sigh..haunting the corridors of cyberspace

Hows the lil one?

 

[StormySkies]

I would like to add my voice to this topic as well. I guess I would be considered bisexual. I say that only cause I have a hard time with the lableing. I say I am bisexual when in relality I would think myself more lesbian. I am married to a great guy. That is completly supportive. But if we were not together I would only date or look for a relationship with another woman. Most of my friends know. And have accepted it as just a part of me. I did loose one friend who I thought was a close friend. But she was put off. I guess she thought when I told her that I wanted her. I didnt.

I met and feel in love with a great woman. But things feel apart. It's a very long story. Maybe some day I will post it for you all when I can. I am moving on with my life. My husband helped me pick up the peices when we broke up and I am know ready to look again. And see if there is anyone out there. Its been almost 2 years since I have seen Kris. To be honest there still isnt a day that goes by when I dont think of her. But now I am not sad I remember the good things the happy times.

I know it realy hard to come out. I have tried several times with my own family.

I also grew up with being told it was wrong. So I ignored my feelings. And dated men. I met my husband almost 14 years ago. And we have been married almost 10 years. About 5 years ago we were talking and I finally told him. I thought he would leave. He didnt. He said I knew all along. I was waiting for you to tell me. It was great. He has been my biggest supporter. And has been there for me when I just needed a friend someone to listen to me.

I also would like to see a day when its not a big thing for someone to come out and that it doesnt need to be done. You just cant help who yuo love. Whether you are hetro, gay or bisexual. We are all people and are seeking the same things in life. To find love and acceptance for who we are. Not for what we are.

Thanks for listening to me..

Amy

 

[DustyWolfe]

StormySkies,
Like you I was always taught that it was wrong. I come from a very religious family. Mostly full of Southern Baptists with some Quakers (society of friends) mixed in. My grandma was raised as a Quaker. When I told my parents I know they told me that I was wrong ethically and morally and I told them that I disagreed but was not going to argue about it. I will in a few days though when I see them face to face.
One of the first things my mom said was "Well, no one else in the family is going to know about this especially the grandparents." I have news for them though. Half my family knows or suspects it in the first place. In fact my great aunt tried to tell her sister-in law which is my grannie that I was gay but grannie would hear none of that. She even told me and said "I can't believe she thought you were gay." LOL.. this was over Christmas and I wasn't saying a word as I sat there in the living room with her wearing a pair of labrys earrings.
They are going to have to learn to accept it and so will the rest of the family because I am planning on having my own family of some sort one of these days.

Ok.. I am rambling again I guess....

 

[Mistress]

I have come out here, I am a Bi-Curious Bi-sexual, and right now leaning towards women considering I'm pretty much tired of men. In all honesty it was Literotica that helped me find out alot about myself. On the other hand, I will never come out to my grandparents, or most of my other famly members, it would totally ruin not only my life but theirs too. As horrible as it sounds it's the truth....

 

[DustyWolfe]

I have come out here, I am a Bi-Curious Bi-sexual, and right now leaning towards women considering I'm pretty much tired of men. In all honesty it was Literotica that helped me find out alot about myself. On the other hand, I will never come out to my grandparents, or most of my other famly members, it would totally ruin not only my life but theirs too. As horrible as it sounds it's the truth....

I had to come out to my parents because
1. When they come to get me my ex is going to tell it all.. Holy Union etc...
2. I'm going to be living with them for a couple of months and don't want to hear their shit about my gay friends lol.

I will never tell my grandparents though. I don't think either of them could handle the emotional stress of it. I mean.. It's like the word gay is an expletive.
When one of my grandmothers found out that I had been raped she flat out told me "You best not become gay because of this." It was all I could do to keep from laughing and saying "I'm already gay... I've been gay.. It's not something that just happens. Congratulations, your granddaughter is a proud lesbian... And yes, there is still the possibility for grandchildren..."
Mom and dad asked me when I came out "Don't you want kids and a family?" I told them yes and that kids was a sure thing.. I don't think they believed me but they will see this in the future.

 

[JenJ]

Yes your parents will realize that kids will happen in the future once they've accepted that you are gay. As for your grandparents not knowing that one might be hard to keep a secret for long.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Yes your parents will realize that kids will happen in the future once they've accepted that you are gay. As for your grandparents not knowing that one might be hard to keep a secret for long.

Yes... Mom and dad will know that grandkids will happen. Possibly sooner than they think. They just have to try to understand where I am coming from.
I know... the grandparents will figure it out... It's going to be obvious because my future partner will be a huge part of the family. I have strong family ties...

 

[sigh]

its the witching hour sigh..haunting the corridors of cyberspace

Hows the lil one?

sorry...was gone by the time you posted this i guess, and god knows when you'll be back again...

but the lil one is doing well...thanks...

 

[JenJ]

Yes... Mom and dad will know that grandkids will happen. Possibly sooner than they think. They just have to try to understand where I am coming from.
I know... the grandparents will figure it out... It's going to be obvious because my future partner will be a huge part of the family. I have strong family ties...

Yes that is exactly right. It's a time will tell thing of course because there will be no rushing into anything.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Yes that is exactly right. It's a time will tell thing of course because there will be no rushing into anything.

Nope... No rushing. I'm taking things slowly. Getting to know a woman fully... Every part of her before I get into another relationship. I am breaking this cycle of abuse.

My brother thinks it's sorta cool that I am gay. He was messing with me and said "wow.. You will be the first person in the family to have Dr. by your name and the first person to be gay." I promptly told him to shut up lol.

 

[JenJ]

Nope... No rushing. I'm taking things slowly. Getting to know a woman fully... Every part of her before I get into another relationship. I am breaking this cycle of abuse.

My brother thinks it's sorta cool that I am gay. He was messing with me and said "wow.. You will be the first person in the family to have Dr. by your name and the first person to be gay." I promptly told him to shut up lol.

That is the smart thing to do of course. Yes you need to break the cycle of abuse.

Your brother is silly but it's good that he has accepted it so easily. Your parents will come around.