Lesbian & Bi-Sexual Women (Come out)

[Svedish_Chef]

for the record, hetero-identified femme bisexual Switch. <---- that's me!

Hang on.

Isn't that me?

 

[LadyDarkFire]

I'm a bisexual woman, and I've known for a fairly long time that I was. The first person I truely consider a Lover, not just somebody who I shared sex with, was a woman, and I loved her with all my heart. I miss her to this day, but I always carry her memory close to my heart.

 

[Georgia Girl]

Bisexual switch

Either of the two words is enough to ostracize you where I live. I am a bisexual and I am a switch as well. Here in small town USA where I live, being bisexual is not understood and as for switch, well most here think that is a branch removed from a tree that you use to correct an incorrigible child.

The decision to fully open and express who you are and allow society to view you accurately is difficult. Lack of knowledge can be difficult. Those closest to me know that I am bi and that is a small step. I know that in order to fully express and be understood as a person and a sexual being I will probably have to move, right now I'm not ready for that.

Dawn

 

[perks]

bisexual

practicing.

it's difficult to practice when one is married

wish I knew the things I knew now, back then<smile>.

 

[sexy-girl]

i was aware of being gay for quite awhile before i met lisa and i never felt the need to come out at that point ... i never felt the need to come out infact until lisa was moving here to england ... that is when i told my family ... up until that point they just thought we were good friends ... and when i had holiday in canada they thought i was just staying with my friend lisa


my family took the situation very well and i think it helped that they knew lisa first anyway and knew what a great person she was


i agree you dont choose who you love ... but for me love does have a gender and its female ... i've had lots of guy friends and some of them i think are cool however being gay puts up a barrier of ever falling in love with a guy if i didnt meet lisa or if i didnt fall in love with her i would of fallen in love with another girl one day (although im sure the love wouldnt of been as strong as what lisa and i share)


i have to say i dont fully understand the need to come out if you are bisexual unless you have a serious girlfriend ... however im not judging and perhaps straight women dont understand the idea of coming out for a lesbian either

 

[april-wine]

I have been in relationships with men, simply because it was what thought I had to do....I had to bury that desire for women, because my family, my upbringing, society in general told me it was wrong....I had bad relationships with men, and looking back it wasn't all thier fault, I was hiding from the world what I really wanted....What I really needed.....

I now have someone in my life, I need in my life, she is what I have been looking for....Coming out, is hard, to tell the world the one you love is just like you....They don't understand, because they don't have those feelings....Family somehow feel it is a failure on thier part, what did they do wrong??? Hopes of the white wedding are dashed, the perfect family portrait is gone....

I am the same person I always was, I just love a woman.....

 

[Guest]

Bisexual Switch with polyamorous tendencies

I'm.............coming........out....
I'm coming out.
I want the world to know....

 

[Starblayde]

can i be a lesbian trapped in a man's body?

 

[Camille]

My two bits

I guess I don’t see the big deal; you love or sleep with whom you want. I think most of the negative aspects of sexuality are self-imposed. I don’t know if I agree with labels either, although I suppose we have to define ourselves.

If I must have a label of the two offered here I am bi. My drives and instincts in a partner tend to draw me toward men. But if those qualities that I am attracted to are in a woman I am drawn to her. What I find interesting is regardless of what type of relationship I have been in I appreciate the differences. In relationships with women: I adore the subtle and not so subtle nuances of a same sex union. With men I enjoy the unique aspects of those relationships. I believe in monogamy so whatever kind of union I am in I don’t stray and I find that when I’m in a good relationship gender is a non-issue. I feel no stress from my friends or family, although some may have issues. I do not care what anyone thinks of the choices I make in a partner. I tend to be anti super lesbian/gay and anti super hetero folks. I guess I hate any opinion at the end of a spectrum.

Right now I am enjoying being alone (took me a while to get to this point) with the same zest and appreciation that I enjoy being in a relationship. Now I’m mono-sexual.


Cam

 

[CarolineOh]

So many brave women! I have so much respect and admiration for you all.
I have only in the last couple of years come to grips with the part of me that is attracted to women. While on the one hand, I feel envious of those who have always possessed a level of knowledge I denied myself, I also feel privileged to be able to discover this aspect of my sexuality as a mature adult, without the added burdens of youth complicating things.
There is a degree to which I feel intimidated discussing my bisexuality with lesbians, for fear of being accused of jumping on a trend or being a gender traitor for having a male lover or something. But I feel comfortable here. I appreciate the atmosphere of mutual support and respect.
So here I am. My name is Caroline. I am bisexual.

 

[Ladybird]

I'm bisexual, and very proud of it.

I see bisexuality as being truly sexual, without any gender hangups.

I have been attracted to women most of my adult life. I always found erotic pics of women very exciting, and would use them to masturbate too.

I made love to a woman for the first time about 5 years ago, and it was just so right, and completely natural. I was married at the time, and my husband was very encouraging.

Since then I haven't had many opportunities to love a woman, and in all honesty it's not a strong part of my sexuality. But it's there.. it is a part of me, and won't be denied.

I'm careful about tellling people that I'm bisexual. There really is no need, and I don't see it as anyone's business. It's not something that I flaunt, that simply isn't my style.

 

[Desdemona]

I'll come out.... again.

I've been aware of my bisexual feelings all my life. I love men and always will; I also love women. Attraction and love are not based on gender. I become attracted to and fall in love with the person. Both genders are wonderful!

 

[carrie-on]

Most definately Bi.
I have been married for 27 yrs and love my husband very much.
We have a great sex life and I wouldn't change it for anything.
However,I also love a woman and we have been lovers for 10 yrs.
I don't see her as often as I used to since moving away,but our feelings for each other haven't changed.
My husband knows and accepts the feelings I have for her and I suspect that 2 of my daughters know. A few of my R/L friends also know. I am not ready to tell my mother or my brothers and sisters. Definately NOT my mother-in-law.

 

[sigh]

i'm a bi-curious lesbian

siren said so, so it must be true

i've made love to three people in my life and all have been women and there's a fourth that i regret passing on when the opportunity was so clear...the common bond in all was love, though with the first two the love was more of friendship than of romance

i do though fantasize about making love to men, which is where the bi-curious part comes in...too bad i'm a coward at heart

 

[alltherage]

God I hate definitions. Its like choosing up teams in elementary school. I was married and have had two children. I have been involved with women throughout my life and my memories of those relationships are far more meaningful for me than any I have had with men. I fit the category of a bi woman but I know that I will never again have a long term relationship with a man. Does that make me lesbian? If so, so be it. I do not hate men and I enjoy them sexually when they actually have a clue what they are doing. I love sex with women and if the truth be known I am happier living with a woman. There it is. Take your pick. I think the bottom line on all of this is that as human beings we are sexual but more importantly we need affirmation from another human being. We need to be loved. Oh, I know its sappy to speak of love on lit but isn't that what we all desire.

 

[Rambling Rose]

I love the person, not the gender. I have had lovers of both sexes. I was raised in a matriarchal environment and I was always very comfortable with my attraction to women. It has never really been a negative issue for me.

Love transcends the flesh. Love. Such a small word for something so huge...so encompassing.

 

[lavender]

 

[shynsexy]

bi

I consider myself bisexual, and my sisters know....but I dont feel comfortable telling my mom. She wouldnt understand. Hell, I cant even tell her about my boyfriend being black. I'm not ashamed of it, but not comfortable with telling her either. Do I think I will ever tell her? Maybe on her death bed .. Seriously, no i dont. And its sad because I consider us being close. We talk on the phone at least 10 times a day. I am between a rock and a hard place, and for once i dont like it

 

[DulceCrema]

I am more sexually attracted to women than I am emotionally. Sex with women is very, very nice. A woman who knows her body can share that knowledge very well with another woman. Yet, I've never been attracted to a woman beyond the bedroom. Don't get me wrong, I like to be in the company of women, but I just feel emotionally attracted to women enough to have a 'relationship' with one. Am I just selfish?

 

[Natalie Nessus]

Love transcends the flesh. Love. Such a small word for something so huge...so encompassing.

You can not choose who you love, love chooses you

 

[Natalie Nessus]

Blushing Rose is a woman among girls at times.

Let me add that this comment is not reflective of anyone at this board, it's just how I feel about her in the grand scheme of the world.

But of course

 

[Rubyfruit]

Madame, I love your new av. Who is it?

I am a practicing bi-sexual. For several years before I got married, I dated women exclusively, and could probably have been very happy with a woman as a life-long partner.

I enjoy women in my life on as many levels as possible. My mother, my friends, my sister-in-law, my lovers, my neighbors, my kids' teachers, the clerks at the grocery store and my doctors (I always choose female doctors, vets and dentists).

Without women in my life, I would be less of a woman myself. They nurture me, feed my soul and make my life complete.

 

[Dhalgren]

Wow…
It’s funny how complicated sexuality weighs within each individual…

Society is created because we all have sex…
Yet..society its self is often what keeps us from being our true sexual selves…in the first place.

I think of myself as a lesbian who happens to be in love and in a monogamous relationship with a wonderful man.

My first relationship was with a woman which lasted for three years..though the emotional strain of being with a complicated woman personally, I find to be more difficult than when relating with a man.

So sexually…I find women to be beautiful sex partners, though I’d only have sex with a woman I loved.

But emotionally, I’d rather be with my man.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I am whatever feels apropriate at the time. I have had homosexual leanings and non-homosexual leanings. I don't consider myself bi or lesbian, I don't consider myself completely straight either. If I had to choose, I would call myself an mono-sexual.

I am an island unto myself. I am whole within myself. I love the inner me that makes me who I am and I am fullfilled within myself. I don't have a void inside to be filled by another person, I have done that on my own. Would I be happy by myself on a deserted island? Quite possibly. I have been happy by myself for extended periods before. I am also happy in the company of others.

I am pretty much impossible to live with. I drive ordinary people nuts and extraordinary people all the way over the edge. I am never the same person twice, sometimes not even in the same sentence. According to the StudMuffin even my g-spot moves. The only sexual thing that I've ever done that has stayed constant is my adoration for male bi-sexuality. I honestly don't think a female could put up with me in an intimite setting. I think it's a rare man that would be able to do so.

What does this have to do with my sexuality? Simple. I choose my lovers on their stamina, mental attractiveness to me, and their ability to be with me exactly as I am. Sex has little to do with it. It's historically been male because male is what has historically matched me.

 

[april-wine]

There are posts making a little fun of the coming out It is understandable, hetros never have to do this thing,it is life changing and life threatening, some do not understand, it is an easy joke amongst many who do not understand.

Imagine telling everyone you know, that you practice a love that many of them will never accept, never condone, never believe in....That having been open and forth right has opened you up, hatred, indifference, and even violence.....Now imagine that, that love is heterosexual love.......

Not so funny anymore is it???