Kinks We Don't Understand: DD/lg (First in a series)

[Moochienanu]

Crystal.

NoooooOOOooooo!!!
It’s NOT!

hehe!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Crystal.

NoooooOOOooooo!!!
It’s NOT!

I was afraid of that!

I'll shut up for a while. Moochie's doing great on her own.

 

[Moochienanu]

I was afraid of that!

I'll shut up for a while. Moochie's doing great on her own.

noooo! Don’t leave me!!!!

It gets all cold and lonely when you’re gone!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

noooo! Don’t leave me!!!!

It gets all cold and lonely when you’re gone!

<snuggles you tight>

(To the crowd) I sense that I'm bigger than she is. <~~ Organic Dynamic

 

[AlliaPotestas]

I have seen you comment before on BFG’s thread, and enjoy your input and genuine curiosity.

I would like to say once more, I am not an expert on this lifestyle even though I live it. I am constantly learning from Him and my peers.

I do want to state that I cannot (and will not) tolerate anyone saying they are alright with underage sex acts (or even acting them out). I think this often gets tied up in the DD/lg dynamic when it has NOTHING to do with it.

Thank you for saying this, I have shed proper tears over the past 24 hours because this doesn’t seem to be a consistent line... I love you Mooch,

 

[lurkingguy1978]

Here's my .02, ymmv:

It's not about specifics (except for the nurturing/guiding aspect) as much as it is about attitude. There is a lot of overlap in the way in which people like to express that attitude, but there are certainly no hard-and-fast rules regarding what to wear, hobbies or pastimes, snack foods of choice, etc. Everyone does their own thing, it's just that we tend to have a lot in common.
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I think this makes the most sense, at least to me. Feels like there's a lot of truth in that paragraph. Maybe because I'm more of a nurturing soul by nature, but that clicked.

Every relationship is different...so there's all sorts of different facets to what daddies and littles will define what makes them what and who they are...I guess? In the same way that happens in a "vanilla" relationship....I guess?

 

[Moochienanu]

<snuggles you tight>

(To the crowd) I sense that I'm bigger than she is. <~~ Organic Dynamic

... so much.

 

[Moochienanu]

Thank you for saying this, I have shed proper tears over the past 24 hours because this doesn’t seem to be a consistent line... I love you Mooch,

You, Allia, are the kindest soul. This is as important to me as it is to you. You are the best of people. I love you too. .

 

[AlwaysFara]

Thank you for saying this, I have shed proper tears over the past 24 hours because this doesn’t seem to be a consistent line... I love you Mooch,

Everyone here has said that. Everyone who spoke up said they would/have report(ed.)

 

[Moochienanu]

Everyone here has said that. Everyone who spoke up said they would/have report(ed.)

Exactly!!!!
Since I have been under the influence of multiple medications the past few days, I went back and re-read the madness from yesterday and there were several people who spoke up and said they would report it and don’t condone it. Myself included but somehow it still came across as no one caring or turning a blind eye to it

I am tired and headed to bed, so perhaps that’s why I cannot correlate an issue here? We are all in agreement. Shall we drop this particular part of the discussion?

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I do want to state that I cannot (and will not) tolerate anyone saying they are alright with underage sex acts (or even acting them out). I think this often gets tied up in the DD/lg dynamic when it has NOTHING to do with it.

Amen.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I am tired and headed to bed, so perhaps that’s why I cannot correlate an issue here? We are all in agreement. Shall we drop this particular part of the discussion?

Now that it’s corrected, yes, I’m happy to drop it.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I am tired and headed to bed, so perhaps that’s why I cannot correlate an issue here? We are all in agreement. Shall we drop this particular part of the discussion?

Ahh, i missed the madness, but yes.

 

[lurkingguy1978]

I considered it stipulated as fact yesterday...

Honestly curious question: are littles more likely to be submissive in more gentle fashions vs other subs that might be more into more agressive doms, or is that as wide a spectrum as all other relationship aspects?

 

[Lord Pmann]

I find you straightforward and curious, both good traits. I also think you like to stir the pot, and I am not the biggest fan of that, but that doesn’t make me angry.

Thank you. I have many good traits. I am straightforward, indeed. And yes, I do enjoy stirring the pot sometimes. But I assure you, it’s genuinely in good fun. Sometimes I’ll point out when someone is being weird or a douche. Just as people will point that out about me. As well, I didn’t do it in their thread. I left their thread alone. I didn’t go in there and ruin it. I posted it elsewhere. I’m really all for their right to do whatever, as long as it is two consenting adults. We all have some weird sexual tastes. I’m kinda rapey. Like not the “go to jail” rapey. But just forceful type play. That’s weird AF. Disturbing, even.

What actually started this whole thing was me laughing at a little who posted for advice on “self-care”. I am sorry, but I found that funny. I still do. I’m not trying to make it as though you all shouldn’t do your thing. But as I’ve said, seeing people post things like “drink water” and “bathe” was hysterical to me. I still don’t understand how people aren’t just saying, “Okay, that’s a little funny.”

People compared it to me making fun of someone who had a mental illness. Hardly the case. I mean, wouldn’t you all laugh if someone came here asking for advice on how to stick a baseball bat up their ass?

What got me was that it was as if she was genuinely a kid posting for advice. It is like she was pretending to not understand what to do. So, I get playing little and I understand that dynamic. Not my thing, but I get it. However, what I don’t get is why one would specifically pretend to not know how to self care. I mean, the poster is intelligent. She’s well written. Well spoken. I presume she’s a professional. Certainly she knows how to “self care”. Why pretend otherwise? What does someone get out of pretending not to know how to be an adult, in a non sexual setting?

FWIW, he's promised to be on his good behavior in this thread.

I find it ironic I’m being talked about like I’m a 5 year old child.

I do think people just assume I’m a massive asshole. Hardly the case. I’d best be described as a tight, puckered one.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I do want to state that I cannot (and will not) tolerate anyone saying they are alright with underage sex acts (or even acting them out). I think this often gets tied up in the DD/lg dynamic when it has NOTHING to do with it.

Okay...

This is an area that is truly difficult for me to grasp. I’ll ask it in a couple questions. I will preface this with saying that I (mostly) believe what two consenting adults do is okay. So for those sensitive, err reactive, people, don’t get your frilly diapers in a bunch. Ya heard me?

1. How is the age play thing NOT acting like you’re younger than you are during sex?

2. Suzanne mentioned the difference between age play and D/S. If it isn’t age play, what’s the difference? What makes someone little versus just being submissive?

3. When you’re acting out age play, do you admit to acting like you’re someone of a certain age range? Like, is this something you would say? “When I’m little, I prefer to act like I’m ages x or y?” Do you specifically identify as those ages? (I want Honey to understand how painful it is for me to write this sentences without any form of mockery. I just used the word “identify” in its most progressive meaning. I should be rewarded with some cake and a pizza. I’m currently identifying as a 36 year old male.)

4. The one thing the littles constantly say is we don’t condone age play during sex. Or, maybe that’s me understanding that to be what they’re saying. However, I have a hard time believing that you’re acting 5 years old up until sex, then you revert back to a 35 year old woman. Explain. (For what it’s worth, I don’t believe all of this DD/lg stuff is paedo shit. I think some is. Most of you seem fine enough. But I don’t think you all are paedo empathizers like some do.)

I’m not good with labels and such. I find it too difficult to keep up with the label of the day. For a society that despised being labeled, we sure get our knickers in a twist when someone doesn’t know them.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I find it ironic I’m being talked about like I’m a 5 year old child.

I do think people just assume I’m a massive asshole. Hardly the case. I’d best be described as a tight, puckered one.

I will talk about you however i please. <wiggles my finger at your bottom>

 

[Lord Pmann]

People who suffer from depression or anxiety certainly know how to self care but often need the reminder to do so.

I like having someone look out for me and help me remember to take care of myself, even though I am an intelligent, professional, grown ass woman, i still sometimes need the reminder to pause and make sure my battery is charged

Yes, I know I should drink more water but I often forget to do so when I’m stressed.
Yes, I do shower and bathe all by my lonesome but I often forget that it’s okay to take some time and have an actual relaxing hot soak in the tub...the kind with bubbles and candles and music where I can just shut off the world and relax

Self care is simply a reminder to make sure you put your health (mental and physical) as a priority instead of getting caught up in life and stress.

I fail to see the joke in asking for new ways to do so

Because you asked for it as a child or a little, not as someone who has anxiety/depression. That is the difference. You asked for it as someone whose daddy was gone. That is why it is funny to me.

Admittedly, I’ve had my bout with some mental issues over the years. I’m empathetic with that, absolutely. Had such a question been asked in that regard, it wouldn’t have been comical to me.

I do not understand the appeal for this from a guy’s perspective. [edited for content]What’s the appeal there? Daddies, can you help a Regular out here and explain?

Also, why don’t the daddies ever talk on here? The littles are like women at a hair salon. The daddies rarely come out of hiding and speak.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

To clarify: Non-age play littles do not see themselves as younger than their actual age. That would be... wait for it... age play!

Littles who do participate in age play don't (as far as I'm aware) spend all of their time at their younger ages(s). And when they do, it is generally not sexual in nature.

'Little' does not = child, unless they do age play, during which time they are not participating in sexual activities.

 

[MistressOfAlaok]

I prefer to stay away from serious threads like this with well established members having a discussion, especially if I don't have much to contribute. But I really wanted to say thanks to Moochienanu for sharing her view and experience in such detail. It's been a great insight for me personally as she's touched on quite a few things that have been turning in my head

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

This exactly...

Thank you Honey

Np




I do think it might be helpful for some of us to give examples of what our own little side looks like, if we haven't already. Yes?

 

[Jada59]

To clarify: Non-age play littles do not see themselves as younger than their actual age. That would be... wait for it... age play!

Littles who do participate in age play don't (as far as I'm aware) spend all of their time at their younger ages(s). And when they do, it is generally not sexual in nature.

'Little' does not = child, unless they do age play, during which time they are not participating in sexual activities.

I must disagree with you there. Alas, I can't expound on that because it would come too close (IMO) to violating Lit. rules. I am speaking from personal experience. That being said, I am *not* a little. I can't personally get into a lifestyle like that or anything as a lifestyle, really. I like variety far too much. I will say that I dabbled with some things, but it was more to his liking and not mine. It didn't really bother me to do those things but I also knew that I couldn't continue doing those things because for me, the relationship would have burned out quickly. And seeing as how he is ghosting me now, I would say it fizzled.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I think 'little'(adj.) is meant to refer to a sense of vulnerability.

I also think i might be confused myself about some of what I've said. I'll happily defer to someone who knows more than i do.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I’m curious as to why the Daddy types haven’t weighed in, also.

 

[AlwaysFara]

I truly didn’t realize there were age ranges associated with the term Little ...


For me little space just means I need extra care and attention...I need that whole “cuddled in your lap, held and taken care of” feeling ..the feeling that for a little while at least, I don’t have to worry about everything

See, but this is what trips me up. To me, this is simply a loving relationship. Security. Feeling of home.