Just walk out and vanish.

[OUTSIDER]

Ok so on another thread I mentioned how I worked one time with a woman who's husband walked out the door and just disapeared off the face of the Earth, now my question is have any of you ever thought of doing some thing like that or have you already done that..?

And where would you go and what would you do.

 

[Ezzy]

I went for the coffee, thats all.

EZ http://smilecwm.tripod.com/cwm2/sleep.gif

 

[Skibum]

Right now I would like to. Can't and won't, but I'd like to.

 

[CW]

Seriously considered it,,,

just a time or three when the stress was so high that I thought I'd never see the end of it nor live thru it to reflect on just how bad it was,,,

Reconsidered each time and tuffed it out,,, although there was that time that my mind took a holiday,,, and still has not returned to this day,,, hope like hell it's enjoying itself !!!

 

[•Quartz_Crystal•]

You know Outsider...

I think you just solved my problem.

All I need to do is vanish.

No broken hearts, no grief.

Alright, I'm going to_________ (any suggestions??)

 

[teresafannin]

I think about it all the time. I don't know where I would go, probably up north because no one would think to look for me there. Unfortunately, I have responsibilities here & would feel guilty if I just walked away. Maybe just for a weekend, are you allowed to leave a note that says you'll be back?

 

[OUTSIDER]

No coming back.

No note's no coming back no nothing you just walk out the door and disapear off the face of the Earth.

I'd really love to know what motivates these people to do this, I'v heard a few stories about people just vanishing and always wondered if I'd be brave enough to do it.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

One of my favorite films (an enormous list, by the way), is "Paris, Texas" about a man who does just that, and is found wandering out of the American desert years later. Fascinating.

 

[Gil]

American desert?

Would that be the one between Burbank and Culver City?

Just guessing here...

Oh shit, oh dear!

 

[lala]

wow this is terribly interesting- i've always wanted to do that because i've always been one of those people that protected my way out- some way out, physically, intellectually, so i've been fascinated with that concept. i could- but i think i would have to alienate the people around me- i'm 19 and am very close to my family- they would worry and i would feel bad, and i couldn't leave a partner, or young children, so i guess it would be a long time before i did it, maybe i wouldn't alienate everyone else first,.... hmm,,..... i'm going to have to think more about this,...

 

[Alyrahh]

You know, in the past I'd never have posted this answer...but seeing as how so many of you have mailed me and/or chatted with me and told me to just "be true to yourself" or "say what's on your mind" I'm gonna give it a shot. So, here goes...

I think anyone who walks out and disappears is a piece of shit chicken. Not to mention extremely selfish. Barring some life threatening thing (either of yourself or a loved one, and that usually only happens in movies)just walking away and disappearing is extremely selfish.

 

[Jester]

Oh yeah, I've thought about it. I mean, POOF! the next instant you just aren't around any more. Detach yourself from all of the bullshit that gets thrown around everyday, allday, non-stop. Thing is, it's most likely best left as just a fantasy. The reality of it could have some undesirable side-effects.
If you totally disappear, you lose all contact with humanity. And, while things are really fucked up sometimes, that's part of what keeps you human: contact with other people. The more you pull away from that the more that you begin to lose your own humanity. Feelings go; communication goes; compassion goes; you become something not quite completely human anymore. It would change you. You definitely wouldn't be you anymore.
That thought, if nothing else, would keep me from ever doing that. I'd miss my people too much.

 

[Weird Harold]

I think anyone who walks out and disappears is a piece of shit chicken. Not to mention extremely selfish ...

I would agree with you provided the person walked out on some commitment with intent to disappear.

Some people, like Jimmy Hoffa and Judge Crater, walked out and never returned, because they couldn't. More recent cases while not as infamous or mysterious as the two famous ones I cited, are just as lethal to the missing person as those were.

I could easily drop out and disappear, as I live alone. I wouldn't for two reasons. I wouldn't see my grandchildren if I hit the road, and If I dropped out completely, my retirement check couldn't find me.

 

[Alyrahh]

That's what I meant Weird Harold, originally, when I was typing that response it was about 2 paragraphs longer. I decided some of the things I was typing was entirely too personal for me to feel comfortable sharing at this point. As a result I seem to have deleted part of the heart of the response, in which I had addressed the relationship/responsibility thing. Sorry, my bad.

 

[Cheyenne]

If you are considering dropping out because you want to escape from your current life, then a variation of the question is have you ever seriously considered suicide? That is the ultimate "dropping out" of society.

For me the answer would be yes. November, 1990, I came very close to just closing the garage door and letting the car run when I came home after a particularly depressing night. I didn't do it only because I thought of my family and what it would do to them if I were gone. All my religious training about how killing yourself would mean going to hell made no difference to me at all at the time, and I remember sitting in the car and being surprised by that. But now I know it is possible to be so depressed that even religion means nothing to you. Thank God my family meant more.

And no, I wouldn't consider walking away from my life.

[Edited by Cheyenne on 09-23-2000 at 06:54 AM]

 

[OUTSIDER]

I'v never considered suicide, but then I don't think I'd have the gut's to do it, also what I mean't about dropping out is thoes people who walk out the house with only what they are wearing and then just disapear not suicide but you'v made a very valid point and I can't say how glad I am that you reconsidered that night and didn't do it.

To anyone who might be thinking about suicide at the moment, if thing's are that bad wouldn't it be better to just drop out and disapear rather than kill yourself, I mean it's not much of a choice I know but as long as your alive there maybe a chance of redemption, once your dead there's none.